Then I met someone and we started talking. There’s no other person that I could talk to about my problems besides a stranger to get views. Little that I know we fell in love with each other and it goes on. I didn’t know what I was doing till it went too far that I told her that I wanted to be with her. I wanna end my marriage as I don’t feel things going to work out anymore. Soon I realized that circumstances don’t allow it and also, I have a child that I really love and I don’t want my child to suffer, yet it just seems wrong as me and my wife we can’t talk for 6 months and my heart just died ever since the last fight. I told the other person that let me settle my end.
After which I said that I can’t be with her due to circumstances, she got so mad till she mentioned that she will not forgive me for what I have done to her as I ruined her life. I apologize but don't have any answer. Though I can live with it. However, till today I feel guilty. It's been a month. I feel guilty towards Allah for hurting and ruining someone’s life, I perform tauba prayers each day, I feel guilty towards my wife and I feel guilty towards that woman. I feel horrible every single day of my life. How do I live with this guilt?
I wrong doed myself and I hurt others and I feel remorse. I fell for someone that I can’t be with. I hurt people around me. Knowing that the Almighty is all forgiving I believe He could forgive me. However, with others, I can’t.
I tried to fix my marriage however my heart already felt empty and I don’t feel the love anymore.
I felt that this is the consequences of my actions and now I’m facing it. I don’t know what to do and I really hope that I can undo everything. But I know we met someone for a reason. It’s a test yet I failed. What should I do?
Answer
Being in a marriage like this is hurtful. It leads to painful consequences and makes you more vulnerable. It can make you prone to seeking love and attention in a prohibited way.
You have to reflect on your feelings and make a decision: either you try to save your marriage or go for a divorce.
If you choose the first option, then you need to make an action plan about how to resolve present issues and work on your relationship. Seek marriage counseling.
If you decide to divorce, take time to heal your wounds before entering into a new relationship.
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