In this counseling answer:
• If your husband hasn’t sincerely repented, these haram behaviors may continue with other women, drugs, and now violence.
• Call the hotline, meet with a counselor and make plans to leave. Get to a safe place!
As-Salamu `Alaikum dear sister,
Thank you for writing in with your question. I am a bit confused about the sequence of events here. If I understand the situation correctly, you left the man whom you were having a haram relationship with. Then you met someone nice and pious, but married the man you were in a relationship with anyhow?
If this is correct, and I think it may be, I am sorry to hear of your problems with your husband. Sadly, when we engage in haram relationships, it is because of many reasons. However, what it boils down to it that we do not follow Islam, nor fear Allah (swt) enough.
If your husband has not truly repented for his past behavior with you, (despite saying he has) or changed his ways to live a truly pious life, then these haram behaviors may continue with other women, drugs, and now violence.
It appears, my dear sister, that you have repented, and you are striving to live a pious life. However, you are now in a dangerous relationship that is filled with cheating, drug, abuse, and violence.
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You are also pregnant. I urge you to seek help now. I do not know where you live, but here is a link to the Domestic Violence Hotline in USA. Meth is no joke. It’s an extremely volatile drug that leads to horrific violence and those who use meth can become enraged with superhuman strength. Please, do seek help quickly for the sake of you and your unborn child.
Speaking with his parents is a waste of time. You need to be somewhere safe, now! I would not tell him or his family anything. Call the hotline, meet with a counselor and make plans to leave. In sha’ Allah, they can help you. Again, do not tell him as it may trigger further violence. In sha’ Allah, please make contact with them as soon as possible before something worse happens. He is playing with a demon, and you are caught in the middle. I fear for you. Please take my suggestions very seriously.
There is no time to wait or talk things through. Please be safe when you reach out for help, but do reach out!
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