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I Feel I Have Been Played With

12 April, 2024
Q I have been married for a year and a half now. The marriage has broken down. He refuses to have anything to do with me. My current circumstances are also that I am struggling. I feel as if it was just a big joke and I feel used. Please advise what I can do about this. He refused even to go and register the marriage. Nobody is bothering to sort it out, therefore, I feel as if I have just been played with by a number of people.


As salamu alaykum sister,

I am sad to hear of the confusing time you are having with your marriage.

I do not know if you live together, or not, if you ever did or if there is family there to help you.

I am not clear on how long this has been going on or if you’re even in contact with him anymore.

My dear sister, the best advice I can give you is to go to the Masjid where you were married (if possible) and speak to the imam who married you and give him specific details as to what has happened and what is going on.

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As I know very little at this point, I can only refer you to the imam as well as social services in your area if you are struggling financially as he left.

Please sister, your a valuable, pious, precious Muslima.

I do not know who these people are or why they treated you like this but Allah will deal with them.

Please do resubmit your question with more details if further advices are needed.  You are in our prayers.


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About Aisha Mohammad
Aisha has a PhD in psychology, an MS in public health and a PsyD. Aisha worked as a Counselor/Psychologist for 12 years at Geneva B. Scruggs Community Health Care Center in New York. She has worked with clients with mental health issues such as anxiety, depression, panic disorder, trauma, and OCD. She also facilitated support groups and provided specialized services for victims of domestic violence, HIV positive individuals, as well youth/teen issues. Aisha is certified in Mindfulness, Trauma Informed Care, Behavioral Management, Restorative Justice/ Healing Circles, Conflict Resolution, Mediation, and Confidentiality & Security. Aisha is also a Certified Life Coach, and Relationship Workshop facilitator. Aisha has a part-time Life Coaching practice in which she integrates the educational concepts of stress reduction, mindfulness, introspection, empowerment, self love and acceptance and spirituality to create a holistic healing journey for clients. Aisha is also a part of several organizations that advocates for prisoner rights/reentry, social & food justice, as well as advocating for an end to oppression & racism. In her spare time, Aisha enjoys her family, photography, nature, martial arts classes, Islamic studies, volunteering/charity work, as well as working on her book and spoken word projects.