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My Little Brother Watches Inappropriate Websites

10 August, 2023
Q I have a problem and I hope you will be able to help me. We come from an Islamic family, al-hamdu lillah, but there is a problem.

My other sisters and I found my little brother, who is eight years old, on inappropriate websites. He does not know that we saw him.

He did it twice, hopefully not more. Since only my sisters and I know, we did not tell our parents. We have not even confronted our brother.

We would not feel comfortable talking to him about this. I really want to know what I should do. I do not want my brother to grow up being affected by these negative things from the Internet.

Our brother is not bad at all, though. I do not understand why he does this. He really is a good boy.

In sha' allah, you will be able to answer. Thank you so much for your time.


In this counseling answer:

Try to install some sort of filter with a password that will prevent him from viewing it.

Suggest to your parents that they only allow him to view the internet at a certain time when there are other family members in the home monitoring what he is viewing.

Try to use the internet with him and show him the wholesome and fun websites that you can use together.

Explain to him why he should not be looking at such inappropriate websites.

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We are glad you wrote to us. As an eight-year-old, it is surprising to me that your brother is allowed to surf the internet by himself.

I am also curious as to why you don’t want your parents to know that your brother has been viewing these sites. Is it out of fear that they will punish him severely?

As your brother probably is not familiar with the material, he will show an interest in it. For example, if it is pornographic pictures that he has seen, an 8-year old boy probably does not completely understand what or why the people in such pictures are doing those things!

It is really important that you do several things in my opinion.

My Little Brother Watches Inappropriate Websites - About Islam

Monitor Your Brother’s Internet Use

First off, if your brother is going to continue to use the internet by himself, try to install some sort of filter with a password that will prevent him from viewing it.

Moreover, I would suggest that you suggest to your parents that they only allow him to view the internet at certain times when there are other family members in the home monitoring what he is viewing. In the same way, a parent would monitor what their child is watching on TV.

Better yet, try to use the internet with him and show him the wholesome and fun websites that you can use together.

Explain, Guide

One way to get him away from negative stuff on the internet is to guide him to things that will be fun, educational, and appropriate.

Lastly, it is important that you, your parents, or another sibling explain to him why he should not look at such inappropriate websites.

At eight, he is tremendously vulnerable to his own curiosity, If he is not taught that such things should not be viewed and why – in a way that an 8-year old can understand – then he will seek to satisfy his curiosity in other ways.

You must find a way to nip this in the bud and act on it now, and not wait! If it is made clear to him why he shouldn’t look at such things along with appropriate restrictions and monitoring on using the internet, then perhaps this will prevent him from surfing the inappropriate sites again.

Always, we must try to strike the balance between control and reason/understanding/educating, so that children understand what are the healthy boundaries in life.

From Counselor Abdullah Abdur Rahman

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First, how wonderful to see such concerned sisters, ma sha’ Allah! Your brother is blessed because, in other families, the younger children suffer from neglect from their parents as well as their elder siblings.

In your case, Allah Most High has been merciful because He allowed you to witness action on your brother’s part that is sinful and harmful.

May Allah make it easy for you, and may He guide your brother to the right path.

Second, when you say that your brother is a good boy and you ask why does he do this, we can answer that question in two words:

Curiosity and Accidentally

You said that he visited inappropriate sites, and we are going to assume you mean sites featuring pornography. It is highly likely that your brother heard about such a Web site from his friends or on television and decided to explore on his own.

Being 8 years old, he most likely does not have a full grasp of sexuality in general and more specifically his own sexuality. So, it is possible that he is curious and just exploring. Another possibility is that your brother stumbled on to the sites in question accidentally.

As disgusting and opportunistic as it sounds, some advertisers actually have pop-up advertisements and very well-placed buttons linked to sites with inappropriate content. One could inadvertently end up on such sites by following links.

Of course, once they get to those sites, in sha’ Allah, they would know that those sites are bad and that they should not go back to those sites.

Help Him to Understand

Third, in terms of what to do about your brother, we suggest strongly that you talk to him. You need not accuse him and need not confront him.

Instead, help him to understand that from now on, someone from the household will have to be with him when he accesses the Internet.

Do not let him get defensive and upset. Just let him know that there are many viruses that can destroy the computer as well as a lot of inappropriate sites whose content is sinful and should not be viewed.

You can, of course, also make technical adjustments by researching how to put certain parental controls on what content can and cannot be accessed via the computer.

If, after your talk, you find that your brother is sneaking around and still trying to access the inappropriate material, then you need to confront him. Sit him down and help him to understand that his eyes will speak out against him on the day of judgment for causing them to view sinful material.

Be assertive but be merciful, in sha’ Allah. Make sure you come to some type of resolution with your brother so that he understands and does not repeat his behavior for his own sake, not just because he is afraid of you.

Make Du’aa’

Finally, make du`aa’ (supplication) to Allah to guide your brother and, in sha’ Allah, to help him be righteous and pious.

While you are helping your brother, protect yourselves as well and make sure that you do not visit those same sites even for a second, because in effect you will be exposing your eyes to the same filth.

In sha’ Allah, with enough support from you and your sisters, he will learn that he is responsible for his own actions in the end.


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About Dr. Abd. Lateef Krauss Abdullah
Dr. Abd. Lateef Krauss Abdullah is a Research Fellow at the Institute for Social Science Study’s Community Education and Youth Studies Laboratory, Universiti Putra Malaysia. He received his B.A. from the University of Delaware (U.S.), his M.S. from Columbia University (U.S.) and his PhD from the Institute for Community & Peace Studies (PEKKA), Universiti Putra Malaysia in 2005 in the field of Youth Studies. Abd. Lateef is an American who has been living in Malaysia since 2001. He is married and has 2 children.