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My Nephew Is Addicted to His iPad

09 August, 2023
Q As-salamu alaikum.

My brother’s son is 5 years old, his parents complain that he does not sit with them and spends most of his time playing on his iPad, mobile, and video games.

At family meetings, I noticed that he is almost isolated refusing to play with other kids and only watched video games and played with his tablet.

What can I do to make him communicate with other kids and give up these technological devices?

Answer

In this counseling answer:

•His parents need to “disconnect” him from these devices!

•The time your nephew is spending using all these devices should be stopped and replaced with real-life experiences and people.

•He may come up with a list of fun activities to do instead of using these devices so the child has ideas on how to fill his time


As salamu alaykum,

This is sadly a common problem in today’s society. Children are often connected to devices instead of connected to people. The problem, as well as the answer, is quite simple.

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His parents need to “disconnect” him from these devices! A five-year-old should not be on a device 24-7. An hour a day at most for fun, learning or some other useful activity I can see, but other than that, no.

Perhaps you can suggest to your brother that he and his wife are the only ones who have control over their child’s usage of these devices.

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It is the parents who are calling the shots, not the child. Or at least that is how it is supposed to be.

You may want to point out (after an educational search on the negative effects of children & devices) how harmful it is to their child’s development to let him isolate in another virtual world.

I would kindly suggest to him that the time his child is spending using all these devices should be stopped and replaced with real-life experiences and people. Also, he may come up with a list of fun activities to do instead of using these devices so the child has ideas on how to fill his time.

Insha’Allah, your brother will heed your advice and unplug his son.

We wish you the best, please let us know how it turns out.

Amen,

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About Aisha Mohammad
Aisha has a PhD in psychology, an MS in public health and a PsyD. Aisha worked as a Counselor/Psychologist for 12 years at Geneva B. Scruggs Community Health Care Center in New York. She has worked with clients with mental health issues such as anxiety, depression, panic disorder, trauma, and OCD. She also facilitated support groups and provided specialized services for victims of domestic violence, HIV positive individuals, as well youth/teen issues. Aisha is certified in Mindfulness, Trauma Informed Care, Behavioral Management, Restorative Justice/ Healing Circles, Conflict Resolution, Mediation, and Confidentiality & Security. Aisha is also a Certified Life Coach, and Relationship Workshop facilitator. Aisha has a part-time Life Coaching practice in which she integrates the educational concepts of stress reduction, mindfulness, introspection, empowerment, self love and acceptance and spirituality to create a holistic healing journey for clients. Aisha is also a part of several organizations that advocates for prisoner rights/reentry, social & food justice, as well as advocating for an end to oppression & racism. In her spare time, Aisha enjoys her family, photography, nature, martial arts classes, Islamic studies, volunteering/charity work, as well as working on her book and spoken word projects.