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Salam Dear Brother Abdul Jabbar,
Thank you for your question and for contacting Ask About Islam.
I wish I had the key for curing your physical problem, but I don’t. Therefore I will start my answer by addressing your second request. You have asked for a list of dua’ (supplications) to help you with your problem. Still, before I provide you with a very short list, I would like to draw your attention to a very important point.
First of all, I would like to assure you that I understand perfectly your difficulties, due to your need for children. This is a natural human instinct, which Allah has put in our hearts. It was He Who said:
{Wealth and children are allurements of the life of this world: But the things that endure, good deeds, are best in the sight of thy Lord, as rewards, and best as (the foundation for) hopes.}
Surah 18 Verse 46
Nevertheless brother, I would like to remind you of the second part of the previous verse, along with this one:
{Say: “Truly, my prayer and my service of sacrifice, my life and my death, are (all) for God, the Cherisher of the Worlds.”}
Surah 6 Verse 162
But why here am I relating those two verses to your problem? Well, brother, it is because sometimes we, “all”, simply forget the goal and get obsessed by the means! Brother, we are here in this life to pursuit one thing. This one and only goal should always be God’s love and worship. We should always recall this verse:
{I have only created Jinns and men, that they may (worship and) serve Me.}
Surah 51 Verse 56
This is why we’re here brother. Anything and everything in our lives and hearts should only be the means to reach this goal. Raising ones’ son according to the Islamic belief and Prophetic manners is in itself, a manner of worshipping Allah. It is out of His mercy that He has put in our hearts, the love and joy that we naturally feel when we do it.
What I am trying to say brother, is that whether you have children or not, you can still fulfill your duty as a good Muslim. That should always be your goal in this life. After all, we are all leaving this world, sooner or later. This is whether we get what we want from it or not. Then, it is very important to leave it with our real mission accomplished!
Still, what I am saying does not at all mean that you should give the whole issue up. On the contrary, I advise you to pursue it as much as you can. Try every way of allowed medical treatment and plead to God that He would fulfill your hopes.
As for the supplications you have asked for, I would first recommend simply the sincerity of dua’ (supplication), because Allah always responds to his sincere servant, who asks Him in time of need. Your sincerity is much more important than your wordings.
Try to wake up at night, late at night, say half an hour before azhan for fajr (dawn prayer). While every other person is asleep, do your wudhu’ and pray two simple raq’ats(units of prayer). Act humbly and sincerely.
Wake up your wife with you. Ask Him, both of you, to help you. Ask Him, in your own humble and sincere words. Share your supplications together, as you are already sharing the difficulties.
Do this repetitively and secretly. Make sure not to give up, for Allah is never weary of His loving servants. On the contrary, He usually wants to hear His servant asking and pleading with Him, with love, submission and contentment.
Still, if I were to recommend any particular dua’, I would recommend nothing as precious as Qur’anic supplications. Here is a very short list, selected from some beloved verses:
{And those who pray, “Our Lord! Grant unto us wives and offspring who will be the comfort of our eyes, and give us (the grace) to lead the righteous.”}
Surah 25 Verse 74
{…”O my Lord! Grant unto me from Thee a progeny that is pure: for Thou art He that heareth prayer!”}
Surah 3 Verse 38
{…”O my Lord! leave me not without offspring, though thou art the best of inheritors.”}
Surah 21 Verse 89
Always remember these supplications, keep them part of your daily prayers. Also brother, I need to remind you of a very important key that will, insha’Allah, help you with your problem. This key is al-istighfaar (asking for forgiveness). Always recall these verses:
{Saying, “Ask forgiveness from your Lord; for He is Oft-Forgiving;
He will send rain to you in abundance;
Give you increase in wealth and children ; and bestow on you gardens and bestow on you rivers (of flowing water).”}Surah 71 Verses 10 – 12
Again, back to our real mission, I advise you brother to try to fulfill it, whether you are gifted by children or deprived. If God wills, and you get children, fulfill your duty by raising-up your children according to the way that pleases God.
If not, make sure, still, to be a real good Muslim, who submits and surrenders to His will. Be content with whatever He gives you or whatever He doesn’t. Always remember that Allah wills only what is best for us, for He is the Most Wise and the Most Merciful. If you establish this idea, sound in your heart, then you have reached the real cure to your heart!
Brother, always keep in mind that no matter how big your problem is, you have a much bigger gift, which you should cherish. This is the gift of faith. For this you should always be grateful and content. In the meanwhile, I sincerely pray for you to be blessed with the gift of children insha’ Allah.
As for the first part of your question, you really need a direct fatwa. We do not offer this service in the Ask About Islam section, but you can try to submit your question again, through our Ask the Scholar section
Brother, I hope I have helped you with my humble words.
Salam and may God help you.