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Asalamu Alaikum,
Thank you for contacting About Islam with your question. Truly, itโs very worrisome that Muslim men are giving this advice.
I implore you to avoid these sorts of โMuslimsโ at all costs, as they will drive a wedge between not only you and your wife, but you and true Islam, which is founded on mercy and justice.
Of course Muslim women are not required to stay in their home all the time. That would be horribly cruel to inflict on women, especially if they wanted to go out to work, shop, visit with friends, or even just enjoy sunshine, fresh air, and exercise!
Dr. Shabir Ally, from Let the Quran Speak, addresses this question in more depth in the video below:
Transcript:
Aisha Khaja:
The question today is about Quran chapter 33, verse 33: is this verse directed mainly to the wives of the Prophet or does it also command other women to stay at home?
Dr. Shabir Ally:
Well the verse says in Arabic, โWaqarna fee buyootikunna walatabarrajna tabarruja aljahiliyyati al-oolaโ, so โstay in your houses and do not go to wanton displays as did the women in in the previous time of ignorance.โ
So, hence the question: is this directed only to the wives of the Prophet peace be upon him? Who are the initial addressees of this verse or is it to women more generally?
First of all, it is clear that the initial addressees are the wives of the Prophet.
One can only sayโฆ letโs make an argument and say that โsince women in general are to follow the wives of the Prophet, peace be upon him, then this would apply to all women as well.โ
But that analogy breaks downโor the inference breaks downโbecause there could be things which are specific to the Prophet, peace be upon himโand in this case, specific to his wivesโand not necessarily transferring directly (or without cause) to the rest of the population.
In this case, we know that there are certain considerations with the wives of the Prophet, peace be upon him.
Theyโre considered the mothers of the believers in a symbolic way. but of course men can still be attracted to them physically, so it was best for them to maintain a different protocol than the other women would.
Second, it is important to see that the wives of the Prophet, peace be upon him, did not take this literally and said that they have to absolutely stay home, because Aishah was known as a public figure and a political leader in her state in her day as well.
Aisha Khaja:
So, itโs obviously not exclusive?
Dr. Shabir Ally:
Well, itโs not exclusive and itโs not literal.
I hope this helps answer your question. You can also check out more from Let the Quran Speak at the link here.
Please keep in touch.
Walaikum Asalam
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