A Man and a Woman: Can Be Alone Together?

09 October, 2016
Q As-salamu Alaykum. Thanks for the great service you are offering. It was said that men are not to meet women alone unless they have a noble cause. To my knowledge women and men are not supposed to meet alone at all, so, please explain. I hope you have time to answer my question, thank you very much.


Assalamu Alaykum Dear Moshtaha,

Thank you so much for your question and for contacting Ask About Islam.

Maybe you mean the hadith in which the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:

“…Satan is the third person in an isolated area ( khalwah) where there is only a man with a (non-mahram) woman…” (Ibn Al-Atheer – Sahih)

Here, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) is talking about a man and a woman in khalwah or isolation (modern examples are a closed office, an elevator, out in the forest, etc.). This is forbidden from the point of view of cutting the roots of sins, because evil thoughts or even harassment—from the man or the woman—is a very possible outcome of this isolation.

Men and women’s gathering in public is all forbidden according to some scholars, but many others think that there is no single rule that covers this area; I personally agree with the latter view.

I think that it really depends on the persons themselves, the purpose of the meeting, the intentions, the place of the meeting, and all surrounding circumstances. If this one-on-one meeting—in public—is leading to any forbidden or suspicious act, then it is forbidden.

The public relationship between men and women in the Islamic society is a matter that has two extremes and a “happy medium.”

One extreme behavior (which really isn’t Islamic at all) does not follow any guidelines regarding men and women’s relationship, and chooses to ignore all of Allah’s commands and Prophet Muhammad’s advice (peace and blessings be upon him).

The other extreme opinion imagines that the ideal Muslim society is actually two societies: one for men and the other for women. I will elaborate more on this latter opinion, since its holders quote the Qur’an in their argument.

People who support the “two societies” view say that the “barrier” between men and women is mentioned in the Qur’an. The verse they refer to has come to be named, “The Verse of the Barrier” ( Ayat Al-Hijab). It says what means:

{And when you ask of them (the wives of the Prophet) anything, ask it of them from behind a curtain/barrier. That is purer for your hearts and for their hearts.} (Al-Ahzab 33:53)

The context of the verse here refers to specific rulings that the Companions should follow when they visit the Prophet’s home. Furthermore, the verse was revealed after the Companion Umar had cautioned the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) that some of his visitors did not deal respectfully with his wives (Al-Shawkani,Fath Al-Qadir, vol. 4, p. 299, Dar Al-Fikr, Beirut).

Yet, the verse was claimed to have abrogated numerous narrations that allow Muslim women to lead normal lives, for example, leaving their homes (Ibn Hajar,Fathul-Bari Sharh Sahih Al-Bukhari), showing their faces in public (Ibn Taymiyah,Kutub wa Rasa’el Ibn Taymiyah fi Al-Fiqh), visiting or being visited by men (Al-Azim Abadi, Awn Al-Ma`bud), talking with men (Imam Al-Nawawi (quoting Al-Qadi `Eyadh), Sharh Al-Nawawi `ala Sahih Muslim), and even narrating the Hadith (Abul-`Ila Al-Mubarkafuri, Tuhfat Al-Ahwathi).

Both of the above extreme opinions are at odds with what we all know about the Companions’ society led by the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him). Any quick look at the Hadith collections prove that.

Hope this answer is satisfactory. Thank you again for contacting us and please keep in touch.


About Dr. Jasser Auda
Jasser Auda is a Professor and Al-Shatibi Chair of Maqasid Studies at the International Peace College South Africa, the Executive Director of the Maqasid Institute, a global think tank based in London, and a Visiting Professor of Islamic Law at Carleton University in Canada. He is a Founding and Board Member of the International Union of Muslim Scholars, Member of the European Council for Fatwa and Research, Fellow of the Islamic Fiqh Academy of India, and General Secretary of Yaqazat Feker, a popular youth organization in Egypt. He has a PhD in the philosophy of Islamic law from University of Wales in the UK, and a PhD in systems analysis from University of Waterloo in Canada. Early in his life, he memorized the Quran and studied Fiqh, Usul and Hadith in the halaqas of Al-Azhar Mosque in Cairo. He previously worked as: Founding Director of the Maqasid Center in the Philosophy of Islamic Law in London; Founding Deputy Director of the Center for Islamic Ethics in Doha; professor at the University of Waterloo in Canada, Alexandria University in Egypt, Islamic University of Novi Pazar in Sanjaq, Qatar Faculty of Islamic Studies, and the American University of Sharjah. He lectured and trained on Islam, its law, spirituality and ethics in dozens of other universities and organizations around the world. He wrote 25 books in Arabic and English, some of which were translated to 25 languages.