Q
I've been married for 17 years. We have 4 children and life has been pretty tough as the children were very close to the age. My husband never helped around. His only duty was to work. He will give me money and holidays. We didn't need anything. However, as the years past and the children growing I started to feel extremely frustrated for his lack of involvement in our life. He has never taken the kids to their activities letting me struggling to find a parent to take them while taking the other children. He always managed to take time when it's for his own benefit. He is not interested at all. I started to argue with him on a daily basis as I have no friends at all nor family (family ties cut) to speak to. I offered him on many occasions to leave but he refuses. I have nowhere to go and he just doesn't care about me going in a hostel with the kids. My problem is with the years I think I don't like him anymore. I tried everything but nothing works. I asked him to separate (so we can see if this is really what I want and he might also find happiness) but he refuses to leave the home. At this stage, as I have none to speak to, I tried so hard to find women in vain. I started to chat and then yes I was very close to committing zina which made me dislike him even more and started to like the feeling of chatting and flirting. What should I do? My youngest is 10 the oldest is 15.
Disclaimer: The conceptualization and recommendations stated in this response are very general and purely based on the limited information provided in the question. In no event shall AboutIslam, its counselors or employees be held liable for any damages that may arise from your decision in the use of our services.
Watch more:
We use cookies on our website to give you the most relevant experience by remembering your preferences and repeat visits. By clicking “Accept”, you consent to the use of ALL the cookies.
This website uses cookies to improve your experience while you navigate through the website. Out of these, the cookies that are categorized as necessary are stored on your browser as they are essential for the working of basic functionalities of the website. We also use third-party cookies that help us analyze and understand how you use this website. These cookies will be stored in your browser only with your consent. You also have the option to opt-out of these cookies. But opting out of some of these cookies may affect your browsing experience.
Functional cookies help to perform certain functionalities like sharing the content of the website on social media platforms, collect feedbacks, and other third-party features.
Performance cookies are used to understand and analyze the key performance indexes of the website which helps in delivering a better user experience for the visitors.
Analytical cookies are used to understand how visitors interact with the website. These cookies help provide information on metrics the number of visitors, bounce rate, traffic source, etc.
Advertisement cookies are used to provide visitors with relevant ads and marketing campaigns. These cookies track visitors across websites and collect information to provide customized ads.
Necessary cookies are absolutely essential for the website to function properly. These cookies ensure basic functionalities and security features of the website, anonymously.
Cookie
Duration
Description
cookielawinfo-checbox-analytics
11 months
This cookie is set by GDPR Cookie Consent plugin. The cookie is used to store the user consent for the cookies in the category "Analytics".
cookielawinfo-checbox-functional
11 months
The cookie is set by GDPR cookie consent to record the user consent for the cookies in the category "Functional".
cookielawinfo-checbox-others
11 months
This cookie is set by GDPR Cookie Consent plugin. The cookie is used to store the user consent for the cookies in the category "Other.
cookielawinfo-checkbox-necessary
11 months
This cookie is set by GDPR Cookie Consent plugin. The cookies is used to store the user consent for the cookies in the category "Necessary".
cookielawinfo-checkbox-performance
11 months
This cookie is set by GDPR Cookie Consent plugin. The cookie is used to store the user consent for the cookies in the category "Performance".
viewed_cookie_policy
11 months
The cookie is set by the GDPR Cookie Consent plugin and is used to store whether or not user has consented to the use of cookies. It does not store any personal data.
Big News, Alhamdulillah
We’re creating a new app to support young persons new to Islam or exploring it. It will offer comprehensive learning, real-time support, and community building. Help us name it!