Wa `alaykum As-Salamu waRahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.

I am going to respond to your questions in two ways: By giving you a reminder on the right of your parents and by explaining the Islamic ruling on a Sunni getting married to a Shiite.

As a Muslim girl, you have a great responsibility towards your parents. You are supposed to show them reverence, respect and obedience. You should also understand their point of view which is based on certain things you might not be aware of.

One of the means to please Allah is to please your parents and one of the causes that bring up God’s wrath is to displease parents. You may also think of something or someone as being the sole source of your happiness but it later becomes the main source of someone’s misery.

As far as the ruling on a Sunni getting married to a Shiite, Sunni scholars differentiated between Shiites who hold beliefs that constitute disbelief, such as having the belief that the Qur’an has been interpolated, `Ali (may Allah be pleased with him) is God, the angel Gabriel made an error in descending with the revelation on the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) rather than `Ali (may Allah be pleased with him), accusing `Ai’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) of committing adultery or denying the Companionship of Abu Bakr (may Allah be pleased with him) and those who do not hold beliefs that constitute Kufr, such as believing that `Ali (may Allah be pleased with him) was the rightful first Caliph after the demise of the Messenger of Allah, believe in the twelve Imams, etc…

There is no doubt that getting married to the former is absolutely prohibited. This is confirmed by the statements of many Muslim scholars. It is based on the fact that a Muslim is not allowed to get married to a disbeliever. Therefore, Shiites who hold such beliefs are without doubt out of the fold of Islam.

For those who do not hold disbelief among Shiites, they cannot be termed as out of the fold of Islam, rather they are considered to be severely deviated and transgressors. It should be noted that some members of the Shiite community display outwardly not to have beliefs that constitute Kufr, but keep these beliefs in their heart, which they call Taqiyya.

Though the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) is reported to have said: “I have been ordered to judge people according to their outward condition, “Shiites of that type are still regarded to be severely deviated, thus marriage with them also should never be considered, although the marriage will be valid. This becomes more important when the case is of a Sunni Muslim girl marrying a Shiite boy, as the effect this can have on the wife and children may be detrimental.

Allah knows best.