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As-Salamu ‘Alaikum dear brother,
I understand your concern about your physiological and psycho-physiological responses to your normal sexual drive. What I do not understand is why your focus is so intense that it’s enough to cause concern. It does not seem as if you are worried about a relationship or a psychological/spiritual issue.
Physiologically, you and your body will not suffer from any kind of premature ejaculation; it is all the same. You are very young, and perhaps you are exploring your identity as a sexual man. Do not be concerned about “wet dreams”. These are normal, and almost every man has them. Women have them as well, but their body does not leave any evidence, so don’t worry.
I am more concerned about your worry about the issue than about the issue itself. Shift your focus to your studies and your work. Seek a wife when the time is appropriate to do so. Take things one day at a time.
When you marry and you still have premature ejaculation, you will want to work on relaxing and trusting that your sexual experience with your wife will be natural. It is often anxiety about performance that causes premature ejaculation, so I’m not sure why you are concerned about masturbation.
Perhaps, I do not understand the whole problem. If that is the case, please write me again and we can talk some more. With that said, I encourage you not to worry so much about this and focus on life goals, prayer, family life, school and work.
Salaam,
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