Also, I face many family problems, but my greatest struggle is not being able to express myself to my closest friends and family. I always fear being judged and prefer to keep my thoughts to myself. I know that sometimes bottling up our emotions is scary and unhealthy, but honestly, for n, now that’s my only option.
Also, I have conflicting feelings in my heart whenever I confide in someone or cry or complain about my problems in life whenever I feel like no one is paying attention to what I’m saying. I feel sorry for myself because I don’t want to sound like I’m ungrateful to Allah in any way. I know the prophet like prophets Yaqub & Ayyub, alaihi salam, had strong resolve and extreme patience and did only confide in Allah about their problems, but I want to feel heard it’s different having a conversation with people and talking to ALLAH although Allah does always come first. I also read that prophet PBUH said that it’s better to share our problems with others (those whom we trust, of course) because it’s better and more rewarding than living a life of self-contemplation.
Can you help me with my conflicting feelings I’m confused about whether I should stay away from people to avoid their harm or be able to find people I can confide in and trust. I know it’s good to make dua but should I talk to trustworthy people about my problems?
Answer
If you have the impression that you are not being heard, judged, or understood, two questions arise:
- Are you talking to the right people? Are they worthy of your trust?
- Do you struggle with self-esteem and self-confidence?
Those you trust should ideally comfort and support you when you need it, so not receiving any reaction or response from them can be extremely harmful.
What to Do?
Start journaling and write down how you feel.
Understand that it is not your fault if others are unable to pay attention to your needs.
Start some regular physical activity to boost your energy levels and reduce stress.
Join a social activity with like-minded friends.
Learn more about how these steps will improve your well-being by watching the full video here.
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