My husband and I have been married for a few years now. In the 2nd year of our marriage my husband misbehaved with my sister when I was pregnant with his son. However, my family and I decided to forgive him and give him another chance because we thought maybe shaitan got the better of him. 5 years later he tried to do the same thing and this time he said he realized his mistake so he didn’t do anything. But when I knew he TRIED to do it himself I was feeling so disappointed and disgusted. I told my family about it too and they are still saying to forgive him and give him a last chance for the sake of my son. But I feel so stuck in this relationship and I cannot look at him without feeling disgusted. Please advise me about what to do? Do you think divorce will help my son?
Answer
Having an intimate relationship outside of marriage is much more than “misbehaving.” If he cheated you with your sister, it is zina and a major sin.
While Shaitan attempts to separate husband and wife, this is not an excuse: people make conscious decisions about whether to follow or resist their desires.
Talk to your husband and find out where his heart is.
Marriage counseling would be very important to fix your relationship if both of you want to work on it. And what if not?
Check the answer to find out!
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