16 August, 2022
Q
Greetings,
I am in a situation where I feel trapped.
Christian married to a Muslim man.
Abusive: mentally, financially, physically, verbally.
Doesn't work, has no will for work, has a criminal past. Children are involved.His symptoms clearly lead to antisocial personality disorder.
No help from anywhere.I work all day long to support and provide everything for the family. He doesn't even buy bread. I asked for help from his family. No way. He's extremely manipulative. Everyone takes his side away from our family. I deal with everything on my own. When I wrote physical abuse I meant not beating, but I don't feel myself, I'm exhausted from work.
How is this okay in Islam? I feel wrong, like I'm supporting a devil. I'm against God. I have no one from my side to support me, as I'm considered a loser. I lost all relations, just because I'm hiding all problems. I'm hiding him and asking the kids to do so. He's always abroad, when he sits and smokes at home.
What are the rights in such a situation?
I am in a situation where I feel trapped.
Christian married to a Muslim man.
Abusive: mentally, financially, physically, verbally.
Doesn't work, has no will for work, has a criminal past. Children are involved.His symptoms clearly lead to antisocial personality disorder.
No help from anywhere.I work all day long to support and provide everything for the family. He doesn't even buy bread. I asked for help from his family. No way. He's extremely manipulative. Everyone takes his side away from our family. I deal with everything on my own. When I wrote physical abuse I meant not beating, but I don't feel myself, I'm exhausted from work.
How is this okay in Islam? I feel wrong, like I'm supporting a devil. I'm against God. I have no one from my side to support me, as I'm considered a loser. I lost all relations, just because I'm hiding all problems. I'm hiding him and asking the kids to do so. He's always abroad, when he sits and smokes at home.
What are the rights in such a situation?
Answer
Not willing to work and being abusive mentally, financially, and verbally are not traits of a Muslim husband and are unacceptable in Islam.
Trace back: when did all this start? What happened?
Set boundaries, seek Islamic marriage counseling and get to know your rights and duties as husband and wife.
What else can you do? Check out the advice and learn more here.
Read more:
- How Does Islam View Emotional Abuse?
- Useful Strategies Against Verbal Abuse
- They Said Sexual Abuse Was My Fault
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