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As-Salamu ‘Aleikum,
Thank you for writing to us. First of all, we are happy to know that your husband is nice to you and that you are pregnant, ma sha’ Allah. Congratulations. It is a blessing.
It sounds from what you are writing to us that your mother-in-law is more attached to her older daughter-in-law than you, and that is quite natural as she lives with them and has known them for longer. You are new to this family and do not live with your in-laws, and this may make them a bit unsure what to say and what not to say to you. It is possible that since they don’t live with you, they think that you need your own privacy.
You will need to help them to strengthen your communication with them if you want them to know you more and care about you. There seems to be a misunderstanding between you and your in-laws. You and your husband should invite them to your house; this may draw you all closer together, In sha’ Allah.
We suggest that you respect your in-laws and try communicating with them even though they have not been there for you when you needed them in the past. They may not know that you needed their advice, so it can be a confusing situation for them as well. Show them mercy and respect, as they are your elders.
They have apparently not made you feel so welcome to this family, but you are with their son and need to be good to them as this will make your husband happy. Remove conflicts if there is one and solve it with patience.
Secondly, you are pregnant now, and once this beautiful creature of Allah (swt) steps into this world, your in-law’s hearts will melt, and they will start caring more about you and their grandchild. Respect is a mutual thing. Treat the other person the way you want to be treated. Show your in-laws love and care, and this will increase the love and respect for you, too, In sha’ Allah.
Remember, you are pregnant now and strong moods and emotions are common due to changes in hormones during pregnancy. It’s not surprising that you may experience some complicated emotions during pregnancy. Taking good physical care of yourself, especially plenty of rest and sleep, will help keep the emotions in proportion. You need to be happy, so talk to your mother-in-law or your mother; this way you will feel better and not feel lonely in this condition. You are ma sha’ Allah 9 months pregnant and will soon see the baby, in sha’ Allah, so please do not think too much about things that happened in the past. This is the time to establish a good relationship with your in-laws.
May Allah (swt) ease your conflict with your in-laws and make harmony between you all.
Ameen.
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