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Suffering in a Loveless Marriage

Suffering in a Loveless Marriage

In this counseling answer: “So, for the sake of love you once had, for the sake of your son, and for the sake of Allah (to not be another divorce, in sha’ Allah), please ask your husband if he will try marriage counseling.” Wa ‘Alaikum Salaam my dear sister in Islam,  I am sorry that you have been suffering …

Can a Long-Distance Interfaith Marriage Work?

Can a Long-Distance Interfaith Marriage Work?

In this counseling answer: “Can an interfaith marriage work between a Muslim and a non-Muslim believer? Yes, it can, but it can become very challenging. So, to protect against surprises, talk about your differences before marriage to see if you can work them out such as the issue of holidays.” As-Salamu Alaikom, Peace to you, …

Motherhood Has Brought Out the Worst in Me

Motherhood Has Brought Out the Worst in Me

In this counseling answer: “You seem to be internalizing your husband’s value system because you are devaluing yourself the way he is. Your husband is ungrateful to you so you are ungrateful to yourself – buying into his way of thinking. It is an easy mistake to make when he defines your world. However, his definition …

Don’t Let Unislamic Traditions Ruin Your Life!

Don’t Let Unislamic Traditions Ruin Your Life!

Answer: Wa ‘Alaikum Salaam my dear sister In Islam, You have a few serious problems here: One, Allah guided you after you made Istikhara, so I would be afraid for your soul if you turned away from that guidance. AND, the guidance was so wonderful and promising. The world is full of bad marriages – …

I Feel So Neglected in My Family

I Feel So Neglected in My Family

Answer: Wa ’Alaikum Salaam my dear sister in Islam, Your situation is undoubly hard because your sisters gave into your parents’ expectations; therefore they now got used to it and think it is right and that you too should do their bidding when it comes to their desires about who you should be as a …

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Irresponsible Father, Ask for Divorce?

In this counseling answer: “If your husband just doesn’t care about you and the kids, you have a right to a divorce and maybe you should get one. In either case, you will need to choose to divorce him or suffer it out, hoping for your reward from Allah in the Next life (and maybe …

Nail biting

My 4-Year-Old Daughter Bites Her Nails

In this counseling answer: “Nail biting, like any bad habit is a symptom of something else which is causing a person stress, usually. A bad habit is an artificial form of relief for something that the person cannot get relief from by changing the thing that is causing them the stress.Thus, I would look first at that which …

Help! My Husband is Too Tough With Our Girls

In this counseling answer: “I think we need to figure out how to let them “play” and explore and get what they want a lot – when it is safe. And, yes, it means our life is taken over with theirs. That is why I don’t believe in the feminist movement—because we need to devote …

After My Third Child, I Have No Interest in Sex Anymore

 In this counseling answer: “I suggest that you consider—or reconsider—what “sex” means to you, what it does for YOU—what function does it serve in YOU, not your husband. If your benefit in it is that you are serving your husband’s needs, that is a great motive, BUT, he then is getting in line with everyone …

10-Year-Old Daughter Talks Too Much

 As-Salaamu ‘alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhum, Thank you for asking this important question. As mothers, we are driven by an overwhelming responsibility to “care” for our children, i.e., protect them. This is good and healthy and I would never tell you to stop doing this. I can feel, in your question, your strong desire to …



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