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Telling Past Sins to Husband: Necessary?

Telling Past Sins to Husband: Necessary?

In this counseling answer: “Telling your husband more details about your past will only make things worse. Do not share any more about it, especially if you feel God has forgiven you and brought you closer through this journey.” As-Salaaamu ’Alaykum sister, May God increase you in knowledge and patience with your situation. I hope you …

Depression & My Arranged Marriage

Depression & My Arranged Marriage

In this counseling answer: • I suggest that you both seek marriage counseling in order to help you adjust to this marriage and to create a bond. • If after trying all you can your marriage still does not work, you may seek a divorce. As-Salamu ‘Alaikum dear brother, I am sorry to hear of …

Husband Ill-treats Me for Not Having Kids

Husband Ill-treats Me for Not Having Kids

In this counseling answer: • His job is to comfort you not to abuse you about it! • You may need to stand up to your husband and tell him that his behavior is not Islamic. As-Salaamu ‘Alaikum my dear faithful sister in Islam, Your question moved me extremely because of your suffering and because …

Self-Confidence Crash: My Husband Stares at Other Women

Self-Confidence Crash: My Husband Stares at Other Women

In this counseling answer: Focus on your positive attributes such as maybe your smile, or your eyes, or your facial structure, and begin to look at yourself as a beautiful creation that Allah (swt) has made. Make a list of your good and beautiful aspects physically, emotionally, spiritually, and intellectually. Begin to walk in that …

Husband Disrespects Me and My Parents

Husband Disrespects Me and My Parents

In this counseling answer: • You might begin by letting him know how you feel. • If there is no chance that the two of you can make amends, for the sake of your daughter, you will need to seek a separation so amicably that is in her best interests. • Be kind to yourself. As-Salamu ‘Alaikum sister, …

My Husband's Bad Habit of Criticism

My Husband's Bad Habit of Criticism

In this counseling answer: • The key is to practice changing criticisms into subjective complaints. Use gentle “I statement” that relay your complaint without making your partner feel attacked and in turn defensive. • Notice generalizations like “always” and “never” aren’t used, and the expression is subjective which is less likely to feel like an attack. …

Fiancé Cannot Accept My Sinful Past

Fiancé Cannot Accept My Sinful Past

In this counseling answer: • Since Allah has covered a person’s sins, it is not anyone’s business to seek to lift Allah’s cover of confidentiality. • Point out that if Allah has provided the provision for your forgiveness by Him the Almighty, why does he feel that he is in a position to place himself …

Ex-Fiancé's Memory Still Hunts Me

Ex-Fiancé's Memory Still Hunts Me

In this counseling answer: There is nothing “wrong” with remembering someone you once loved. Especially when you are NOT remembering him because you want or need him, but simply because he was/is such a great guy. As-Salaamu ‘Alaikum, I am very happy for you that you have a wonderful and blessed marriage. In today’s world …

Why Don't I Want to Have Sex?

Why Don't I Want to Have Sex?

In this counseling answer: • Once you are stuck in this routine with negative feelings towards sex, you will only continue to reinforce these feelings. • The root cause of the problem is probably more likely something outside of the relationship such as stress due to work. • Rekindle the relationship; go out on dates …

I Don't Love My Wife Like Before

I Don't Love My Wife Like Before

In this counseling answer: • Understand and love your wife for who she is and where she is at. • It is your job to help her understand why she should wear the hijab or do other things in Islam. Help her learn. • Start seeing yourself as the head of a new family and …



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