The purpose of fasting is not to make us hungry and thirsty, or to deprive us some of our comfort. The real purpose of fasting is that we practice taqwa.
We control ourselves to stay away from sin even when we feel like rushing to do them. And we do it only because we fear Allah and want His pleasure. That is the end goal. That is our destination, and that is achieved by having self-control.
In this counseling answer: The counselor urges the brother to come clear about who the father of the child is and assume the responsibility for his deeds. He further advises him to reflect on this experience and use it for good while seeking Allah (swt)’s forgiveness. Read the brother’s first message here. As-Salamu ‘Alaykum, Thank you …
A lot of times we go through low moments, and when we go through that, we justify our sins. The worst thing you can do is end up in one of those major sins. You don’t want death to come to you while you’re in that state, as the Prophet (peace be upon him) mentioned, devoid of belief.
In everyone, there are souls that wish for ease, a life that borders luxury, a trip to an exotic country for a month without lifting a finger for work. But between all of that, it is so easy to be distracted from our dues towards God and be deceived by the simple promises that this world makes.
We read about the trials of those before us, how they remained steadfast and God was with them – how then can we give up? We read that whoever trusts in Him, then He will be sufficient for him, that He answers all dua’ (supplication) – how then can we despair?
Being pleased with ourselves leads us to commit violations against ourselves and forgo the very happiness that we claim to be pursuing. It also prevents the kind of critical self-reflection that can lead to positive growth.