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I Like a Guy on Campus; What to Do?

I Like a Guy on Campus; What to Do?

In this counseling answer: • You need to choose to do something beyond fantasying and assuming what could be in your mind. If you can interact with this brother on campus in appropriate settings, this can give you a better sense of who he actually is and give him a chance to know you. • …

I’m a non-Muslim, But I Love a Muslim Man

I'm a non-Muslim, But I Love a Muslim Man

In this counseling answer: • Love requires sacrifice, communication, compromise, trust that grows stronger over time. • Allow yourself to heal from this ordeal. • Spend time with positive people. • Know what you want in a significant other. As-Salamu ‘Alaikum Sister, Thank you for sending us your question. It is apparent that you are heartbroken about your recent break-up …

From Monogamy to Polygyny: How to Help My Wife Cope?

From Monogamy to Polygyny: How to Help My Wife Cope?

In this counseling answer: An apology to her about this betrayal will help her deal with the situation Try to see the situation from her point of view and how she probably felt when she found this out. Try to give your first wife extra support in this difficult time. Ensure that you love her. As-Salamu ‘Alaikum …

Parents’ Fights Have Ruined My Life

In this counseling answer: • It might be a good idea to talk to them, either together or separately, depending on which you feel more comfortable with, and let them know how their fighting affects you. • You should not feel like the one to blame for someone else’s problems, even your parents’. What you can …

I’m So Sick of Being Sick All the Time!

I’m So Sick of Being Sick All the Time!

In this counseling answer: •Implementing extra hand washing can often reduce the transmission of illnesses. •You may also want to ensure that the surfaces in your home have been sanitized, especially the kitchen and bathroom areas. •Increase your family’s nutritional options with more healthy foods. Eliminate or reduce harmful foods such as processed foods, sugar, …

Since I Wore Hijab, My Life Has Been Ruined

Since I Wore Hijab, My Life Has Been Ruined

In this counseling answer: • Appearance really isn’t the most important thing. • The way you respond to your trial, by seeing the benefit in it and trusting Allah (swt) to see you through, will make clear to Allah (swt) that you truly are a believer. As-Salamu ‘Alaikum sister, Alhamdulillah, this is great that you have …

Abuse, Sex, Boyfriends: I Want to Purify Myself

Abuse, Sex, Boyfriends: I Want to Purify Myself

In this counseling answer: • Find a counselor/mental health professional in your area and start a therapy. • Take time to appreciate yourself and value yourself without seeking out a boyfriend. What are your goals in life? Do you want to go to college? Do you want to work/volunteer? What makes you happy? • Appreciate and love yourself. …

My Husband is Fond of Having Girlfriends

My Husband is Fond of Having Girlfriends

In this counseling answer: • You have two options: you will get a divorce or he MUST change his behavior and treat you with love and respect. • It is important to understand each other’s needs. You should ask him why he is cheating and what you could do to make him feel satisfied with …

I Need Financial Independence from My Husband

In this counseling answer: • Set a good space to have this conversation regarding finances. • Acknowledge his efforts as a provider over the years and show gratitude for his generosity. • If he asks why you don’t feel secure, open the discussion regarding disclosure and transparency around family budget and spending trends. • Emphasize …

I Just Found Out The Man I Love Is Married

I Just Found Out The Man I Love Is Married

In this counseling answer: •He has been lying to you for almost two years. This immediately indicates that he is incredibly dishonest. •She is your sister in Islam, and deserves that you look out for her in such a situation. At the very least, do not do something which you know will continue to harm …



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