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Each of Us Got Married, He Died; I Still Miss Him

Each of Us Got Married, He Died; I Still Miss Him

Answer: Wa `Alaikum As-Salaam dear sister, Thank you for your question. You sound like a very self-sacrificing individual. It also seems that you are not bogged down by the past and are able to see the positives in every situation. It is truly unfortunate that your parents said no to a suitable person, whom you …

I Fell in Love with an Atheist

I Fell in Love with an Atheist

Answer: As-Salamu ‘Alaikom, Dear sister, have no worries as they will interfere with your ability to literally feel and experience what living on the spiritual plane of existence really is. Attachment to this world of dunya is the result of our “lower nature” which pulls us “to sleep”, if you will. These ideas take time …

Husband Abuses Me and My Kids and Blames Me for It

Husband Abuses Me and My Kids and Blames Me for It

Answer: As-Salaamu `Alaikum Sister, Jazak Allah khairan for writing back with the details of your problem. This situation does not bode well for you or your children, and living with this for a prolonged period is not healthy for any of you whether physically or emotionally. But I am wondering what exactly your dilemma is. …

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Don't Want to Marry After Committing Zina

As-Salaamu ‘alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Bararkatuhum, I am glad that your haram relationship was started on a marriage note—that helps, but not much. You have a much bigger problem that is your marriage choices. You need to make a huge tawba for your past huge sin of zina. If I were the brother wanting …

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Husband Masturbating Instead of Having Sex with Me

As-Salaamu ‘alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Bararkatuhum, This question is hard to answer, not because there is no answer but because it is his problem, not yours. Your problem is that he is making his problem yours, Thus, it is hard to answer because we cannot control other people’s behavior. That said, I still do …

How to Put an End to My Husband's Emotional Abuse?

How to Put an End to My Husband's Emotional Abuse?

Answer: As-Salamu `Alaikum dear sister, I can feel the difficulty and heaviness of the situation you are going through. It seems you have gone through a lot and that you have exerted a lot of efforts and paid a lot from your emotions throughout the years of this relationship. Thus, it is very normal that …

I Hate The Look of My Fat Husband

I Hate The Look of My Fat Husband

Answer: As-Salamu `Alaikum dear sister, Thank you for your question. While you state that his weight is a primary concern in your marriage, it seems that there are other deeper issues that are present in your marriage as well. First, let me address your question as to whether your attitude toward your husband is justified. What …

My Newly Wife's Past Bothers Me

My Newly Wife's Past Bothers Me

Answer: As-Salamu ‘Alaykum brother, As I am not an Islamic Scholar, I can only advice you from a relationship perspective. However, AboutIslam’s scholar suggests not uncovering what Allah has already chosen to cover for you. If He Most High has covered your past sins, it is not right that you should bring it up to your future spouse. …

Sexual Abuse, Disorder & an Illegitimate Child

Sexual Abuse, Disorder & an Illegitimate Child

Answer: Wa ‘Aleikom Salam dear sister, I am so sorry to hear of all the pain you have endured, especially the sexual abuse. It must have been very difficult keeping that inside of you all those years. I am glad to hear, however, that you have sought professional help and received a diagnosis. You presented …

I Cheated on My Careless Husband & Left Home

I Cheated on My Careless Husband & Left Home

Answer: As-Salaam ’Alaikum sister, Here is my advice based on what you shared. I have listed them as practical options for you to reflect on and I pray to Allah to guide you to the best means and outcome in sha’ Allah. Going back to your husband without telling him of your affair: The reasons …



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