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He Used Me, Then Dumped Me

He Used Me, Then Dumped Me

In this counseling answer: “I would suggest that you focus on yourself and your goals from this point forward. If you want to work on becoming a better Muslim, then, by all means, work towards this goal. Understand that Allah took you away from this guy because He loves you and wants you to live …

Will We Be Sexually Compatible After Marriage?

Will We Be Sexually Compatible After Marriage?

In this counseling answer: “Take your time to talk to him more, have few meetings with him in person in a safe space, get to know his family, and let him know yours. I strongly advise you to keep your du’aa’ and let God lead your decision. If everything seems easy in order for you and …

Husband Doesn't Work & Wastes My Money

Husband Doesn't Work & He Wastes My Money

In this counseling answer: • In case your husband does not take responsibility for his role in this horrific situation and stop abusing and using you and start acting like a Muslim man, you need to get as far away from him as you can. You need to rotect yourself from a life of sin. …

How to Help My Husband Quit Smoking

How to Help My Husband Quit Smoking

In this counseling answer: • It is important to remember that you cannot make a loved one quit smoking as ultimately the decision has to be theirs for success to be achieved. • Try to be patient and supportive as your husband goes through the quitting process. As-Salaam ’Alaikum Dear sister, Thank you for your …

Mom’s Inappropriate Behavior with Dad’s Friend

Mom’s Inappropriate Behavior with Dad’s Friend

In this counseling answer: • It is most wise to behave in such a manner both in your professional life and in your personal life that no one would raise suspicion. • Let her know again about your worries that this man might try to take advantage of her. Wa ‘Alaykum As-Salam, You have a …

Separated, but I Still Love My Wife

Separated, but I Still Love My Wife

In this counseling answer: • Give yourself some time to heal, and then start searching for a new wife. But don’t rush into a marriage without having some feelings for the woman you choose and be careful never to compare her to your previous wife. • If you find a suitable girl,  discuss your main subject of concerns at …

I Can’t Bear Living with My Bossy In-Laws!

I Can’t Bear Living with My Bossy In-Laws!

In this counseling answer: • Recognize what a blessing Allah has given in not just one area of your life but two. • Go live with your husband. • Your mother in law is your mother’s sister, so ask your mother as I believe she knows from experience how and what works best in terms …

Porn Sickens Me But Can't Stop!

Porn Sickens Me But Can't Stop!

In this counseling answer: • You need to identify the contributing factors and make changes in your life. This means avoid the people who remind you of porn, get rid of the sources, and add positive influences to your life. • Find your passion in life (the positive kind) and allow those interests to dictate …

Leave My Irreligious Family or Stay for Mom’s Sake?

Leave My Irreligious Family or Stay for Mom’s Sake?

In this counseling answer: • Care for your mother, but don’t let her decide your life. • Living in a society that is or is not Islamic, this question is tricky, too. I agree with your friends: it is the same everywhere—and sometimes worse in “Muslim” countries! As-Salaamu ‘Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu Dear Brother …

Afraid of Wedding Night Disaster

Afraid of Wedding Night Disaster

In this counseling answer: • What you have been experiencing is completely normal. • Focus on other aspects of being a good husband as the sexual part will work itself out naturally. As-Salamu ‘Alaykum brother, Thank you for writing in with your most important question. Your concern is a very common one which many men …



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