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Ramadan,`Eid, and Family Conflicts

Ramadan,`Eid, and Family Conflicts

Answer: As-Salamu `Alaikum sister, Thank you for your question. It is a very good one in that it refers to an important topic related to family relations. Islamically, we must remember that maintaining family ties is of the utmost importance in the sight of Allah (swt). We should do everything in our power to maintain …

Engaged, But I’m Still in Love with My Cousin

Engaged, But I’m Still in Love with My Cousin

Answer: As-Salamu `Alaykum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh my sister, Your effort to reconnect with a childhood friend, your cousin, was an innocent initiation, but it was at a time when you were both able to marry each other. If there was nothing to your relationship with your cousin, would you have kept the nature of …

Husband Cheats on Me Online while I’m Pregnant

Husband Cheats on Me Online while I’m Pregnant

In this counseling answer: After unfaithfulness has been discovered, it is very hard to build the trust again. It’s possible but takes time. Therefore, the counselor suggests that the husband seeks professional help and stop using the internet for a while. She also suggests that the wife looks after herself and tries to be attractive when he is …

Please Help, My Husband Gives Me Silent Treatment

Please Help, My Husband Gives Me Silent Treatment

In this counseling answer: As-Salam `Alaykum, I noticed you are from the U.S. I am wondering if your husband is a US-born. I would like to know more about that so that I can put your situation in context in my mind according to the influence of culture. Were you married in the US? Is …

When I Get Depressed, I Do Not Feel Like Praying

When I Get Depressed, I Do Not Feel Like Praying

In this counseling answer: Depression is the 4th leading cause of disability worldwide. Therefore, the counselor advises people struggling with depression to always seek Allah’s help, to seek counseling, and to begin journaling as it’s an effective way of getting out the feelings and examining issues in your life which may be causing depression. As-Salamu ‘Alaykum, …

A Working Muslim: I Don’t Feel Ramadan

A Working Muslim: I Don’t Feel Ramadan

In this counseling answer: In Ramadan, Muslims should organize their time according to their abilities. Even if you are a working Muslim, there are many ways to benefit from this blessed month. You can read at least a few verses from the Quran after each prayer or whenever you have a break at work; say …

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Can't Trust Husband; What Should I Do?

In this counseling Answer There are some cultural differences between Arab and American Muslims. For instance, Arab men can easily sow affection to their close male friends and family.  Though the counselor advises the sister to sit down with her husband and explain to him that she understands there are cultural differences in communication at …

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I Feel I Have Been Played With

As salamu alaykum sister, I am sad to hear of the confusing time you are having with your marriage.  I do not know if you live together, or not, if you ever did or if there is family there to help you.  I am not clear on how long this has been going on or …

Ramadan Makes Me Feel Guilty and Delinquent

Ramadan Makes Me Feel Guilty and Delinquent

Answer: As-Salamu `Alaykum, Thank you for your question and your honesty regarding your feelings about Ramadan. I think your insight into your inner feelings is serving you well. It seems that Ramadan reminds you of a much deeper issue with which you have been struggling throughout your life: this overwhelming feeling of guilt, which you …

Number-One Killer in Intimate Relationships

Number-One Killer in Intimate Relationships

Answer: From counselor Najma M. Adam: As-Salamu `Alaykum,  What happened during the first ten days of marriage is quite normal. Usually, at the beginning of marital relationships, the sexual urge is quite high, but you should not be deceived into thinking that this is the usual; nevertheless, not touching you for two months is quite …



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