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What to Do to Save My Distressed Marriage?

What to Do to Save My Distressed Marriage?

In this counseling answer: “Make sure you try different ways of approaching your husband if you are not getting any responses or interest from him to discuss issues.” Salaam sister, It is unfortunate that you are in such a situation and while I commend your patience there is a breaking point for all people. You …

In-Laws Forbade My Husband to See Us

In-Laws Forbade My Husband to See Us

In this counseling answer: “There are independence and wholeness that comes through this kind of suffering, strength, and extra abilities that only those who walk through this kind of fire can know. The level of spiritual attainment that a woman gains through this kind of suffering is beyond what I can describe here. You will understand …

Avoiding Social Interactions Like The Plague

Avoiding Social Interactions Like The Plague

In this counseling answer: “To clarify brother, the fact that you have social anxiety is no fault of your own. You are but one of the millions of people who happen to suffer from the disorder, for which alhumdulilah there is treatment!” As-Salamu ‘Alaykum brother, Mental illnesses are disorders which are part of a triage that comprises the mind, …

Cutting Bad Habits to Become a Better Young Muslim

Cutting Bad Habits to Become a Better Young Muslim

In this counseling answer: “Perhaps organizing your days will help. While I am not sure if you are in school or working, or have free days, organizing the things you want to accomplish will help you stay on track and get things done.” As-Salamu ‘Alaykum sister, You have great insight and perspective into your issues. That …

Wife Fell in Love with Her Cousin

Wife Fell in Love with Her Cousin

In this counseling answer: “Since you know that you and your wife can get along great (according to what you said about how your first 10 years were), that is a very special thing in the world today and should be preserved, if possible. I know, she ruined it, but maybe she can learn from her …

Pious Husband Betrays Me: I Feel Lonely

Pious Husband Betrays Me: I Feel Lonely

In this counseling answer: “Please do not think that seeking counseling is a weakness on your end. It is the contrary! Seeking counseling means that you are proactive and vigilant about being present in your life and making informed decisions.” Salamu ‘Alaykum Sister, Thank you for sending us your question. I am sorry to hear about …

Old Friends Always Remind Me of My Sinful Past

Old Friends Always Remind Me of My Sinful Past

Answer: As-Salamu `Alaikum dear sister A, First, I have to remind you that in sha’ Allah all your sins are now totally wiped away. They don’t exist anymore as you have sincerely repented, took a new path, and took several steps toward Allah. So, congratulations! Forget about the fears that Allah won’t forgive you; Allah …

Feeling Intimidated By Abusive Relatives

Feeling Intimidated By Abusive Relatives

Answer: As-Salaam ’Alaikum Sister, I am sorry to hear about your problems. Going through life in this world is a constant exercise of patience and tolerance. Our religion requires its followers to show patience under provocation and to disregard and ignore the abuse. Unfortunately, there are many cases of abusive families, sometimes with even close relatives …

Husband Flirts on FB; I Doubt His Love

Husband Flirts on FB; I Doubt His Love

Answer: As-Salamu ‘Alaykum Sister,  Thank you for sending us your question. I ask Allah to grant you the courage and strength to be assertive and to love yourself. I also pray that both you and your husband will cherish and value your marriage. Sister, it seems like you feel insecure about your husband’s past (and …

Cultural Customs: His Parents Won’t Accept Me

Cultural Customs: His Parents Won’t Accept Me

In this counseling answer: “The solution for this situation is pretty much in your boyfriend’s hands. He has to speak up and act against this forced marriage. I guarantee you his parents won’t kill themselves considering that it is a major sin in Islam. It is all a “well-played game” of over exaggerated guilt that …



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