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How to Reconcile Between My Best Friends?

How to Reconcile Between My Best Friends?

In this counseling answer: Wa ‘Aleikom Salam Dear brother, Allah will surely bless you because of your efforts aiding reconciliation. It is highly advisable to end such conflicts between people. Three of you have spent a very good time together where the memories of childhood are engraved in every individual and such friendships usually last …

Husband’s Ultimatum: Second Wife or Life without My Children

Husband’s Ultimatum: Second Wife or Life without My Children

In this counseling answer: “It is necessary to be aware of the negative/difficult side of the choice. Then you will need to decide whether you will be able to cope with those difficulties and to accept them from the position of a strong, responsible individual and not from the position of a helpless, weak victim.” As-Salamu …

Can’t Forgive My Dead Husband Who Cheated on Me

Can’t Forgive My Dead Husband Who Cheated on Me

Answer: As-Salaamu ‘Alaykum, Sister, do you know this saying, “there are three types of business: (a) my business, (b) your business, (c) our business. I think this falls under my business.” Questions like how a person will be punished for their wrong doing, if they will be forgiven, what their end will be or when …

Husband Cheats on Me, but I Am the Unfaithful

Husband Cheats on Me, but I Am the Unfaithful

Answer: Wa ‘Alaykum As-Salam dear sister, I am sorry to hear about this situation. I think there are two main issues to deal with here. The first is your husband and the situation in your marriage and the second is his cousin trying to communicate with you to show an interest in marriage while you are …

I Lost My Hair; I Will Never Get Married

In this counseling answer: “I urge you to make a list of all your attributes, good points, accomplishments, and blessings. Review them daily. View yourself with confidence and respect. Look internally to ensure you are not neglecting your needs for stress reduction, which will reduce anxiety and enjoyment.” As Salamu ‘Alaykum Brother, Thank you for writing …

Husband is Abusive, But I Am Afraid to Divorce

Husband is Abusive, But I Am Afraid to Divorce

In this counseling answer: ” if you feel that your marriage is not serving any of the purposes and meanings above and you have tried marital counseling, involving elders, and even abuse is involved, which is a very serious matter, you need to evaluate the situation and decide on how you would like to move forward.” …

My Brother is Drifting Away from Islam

My Brother is Drifting Away from Islam

In this counseling answer: “I think the most important thing to focus on is not the fact that he is not offering prayers but rather why he had a knife under his bed, and what he has been doing. Based on my experience, I can share with you common reasons why teens start to act …

I Caught Him Watching Porn; I Can’t Trust Him Anymore

I Caught Him Watching Porn; I Can’t Trust Him Anymore

In this counseling answer: ” The first step is to admit that he probably did not think about this as an issue. It is not your fault sister; many men have this habit to watch porn even before they get married. You should confront him about it, and he must admit that it is a problem …

Anxiety, Panic & Guilt of Masturbation

Anxiety, Panic & Guilt of Masturbation

In this counseling answer: ” If you are seeking a possible permanent change, then CBT may be effective for stopping masturbation. ” As Salamu ‘Alaykum brother, Thank for writing to us with your most important question. Anxiety and panic disorders are most uncomfortable and at times frightening as I am sure you know. I applaud your ability …

He Suddenly Became a Violent Middle-Eastern Man

He Suddenly Became a Violent Middle-Eastern Man

Answer: Wa ’Alaikum Salaam my dear sister in Islam, I feel completely drained after reading your question. I can only imagine how you feel! This is Islam (not what your husband is doing): “And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquility in them; and He …



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