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Don’t Wives Have Value in Islam?

Don’t Wives Have Value in Islam?

In this counseling answer: • Islam prohibits abuse. It is a sin. • If you have family in the area, I suggest you reach out to them. • Seek counseling. As Salamu ‘Alaikum dear sister, Yes! You have many rights in Islam as a Muslim, as a woman, as a wife, and a mother. Please see this …

Husband Cheated with a Prostitute: Shall I Seek Divorce?

Husband Cheated with a Prostitute: Shall I Seek Divorce?

In this counseling answer: • Martial counseling will help both of you talk about how your current situation is affecting both of you. • You need to ask yourself and your gut whether this marriage is worth fighting for. As-Salam ‘Alaikum dear sister,   It seems you’ve been going through a difficult marital life. I’m …

I Feel I'm Just a Maid for My Husband

I Feel I'm Just a Maid for My Husband

In this counseling answer:  • Make istikharah to Allah for direction. • Ask your husband to attend marriage counseling with you to try to save the marriage. As Salamu ‘Alaykum sister, First, may Allah (swt) reward you for your piety and patience. You are a beautiful sister who deserves to be treated with kindness, love, and respect. You are …

How to React to a Husband's Flirting with Other Women

How to React to a Husband's Flirting with Other Women

In this counseling answer: • Talk to him about how it makes you feel when he talks to other women. • Engage in activities together to make him busy and distracted from this awful habit. As-Salamu ‘Aleikom sister, Thank you for contacting us regarding your concern. Unfortunately, flirting is a common problem in every society, …

Self-Confidence Crash: My Husband Stares at Other Women

Self-Confidence Crash: My Husband Stares at Other Women

In this counseling answer: Focus on your positive attributes such as maybe your smile, or your eyes, or your facial structure, and begin to look at yourself as a beautiful creation that Allah (swt) has made. Make a list of your good and beautiful aspects physically, emotionally, spiritually, and intellectually. Begin to walk in that …

Save Me from Depression!

Save Me from Depression!

In this counseling answer: • The best treatment outcomes are when the treatment includes medication and counseling simultaneously. • Pray and make du’aa’ that Allah keep you safe from anyone’s envy. Salamu ‘Alaikum dear brother, It seems you display some typical symptoms of clinical depression. It is very difficult for me to be certain and diagnose you remotely; …

I've Always Wanted to Be a Girl

I've Always Wanted to Be a Girl

In this counseling answer: • It seems you have higher levels of estrogen; a hormone responsible for the female development and feminine energy. • You have some traumatic experiences with your sexuality and positive male interactions. • Seek counseling and work through any sexually traumatic events which have influenced SSA with a therapist. As-Salaam ’Alaikum brother, It is …

She Has a Sinful Past; Shall I Marry Her?

She Has a Sinful Past; Shall I Marry Her?

In this counseling answer: • Only marry her if you truly recognize that her past is no better than yours. • You need to get your relationship right with Allah (swt) and start keeping your daily prayers. As-Salamu ‘Alaykum dear brother, It seems you are in a dilemma. First, you were friends with this girl, …

Often Scolding My Wife: Do I Have Mental Illness?

Often Scolding My Wife: Do I Have Mental Illness?

In this counseling answer: “Please, find a trusted psychiatrist or mental health professional in your area and find out if you are, indeed, suffering from a mental illness since you mentioned that some behaviors are uncontrollable. Please, do not hesitate to help yourself and to get the right kind of treatment to improve your overall …

What To Do When Your Husband Looks at Other Women

What To Do When Your Husband Looks at Other Women

In this counseling answer: Focus on your children, yourself, making du’aa’, and truly trusting that Allah will work this situation out. Take control in a positive and Islamic manner. Seek professional help and seek marriage guidance. As-Salamu ‘Alaykum sister, Thank you, dear sister, for writing to us again. I am so sorry things have not gotten better. It …



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