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Am I Not Pretty Enough for Hijab?

Am I Not Pretty Enough for Hijab?

In this counseling answer: “Do not worry about what strangers on the street or co-workers say because they are not close people to you whom you should care for. Even if there are close people who say these sorts of ill-mannered comments, forgive them and remember what matters at the end is Allah’s (swt) opinion of you.” …

Job, Family, Cut ties

My Wife's Family Doesn't Like My Job, Should I Cut Ties?

In this counseling answer: “As you are a revert to Islam and have knowledge of Islamic principles such as peaceful and loving relations, I encourage you brother to seek to continue to keep your family close to you. This may mean hearing painful things from time to time-but it is coming from a deep place …

I Left Him But Worried About What He Thinks of Me

I Left Him But Worried About What He Thinks of Me

In this counseling answer: Focus on the ‘here’ and ‘now’ instead; this is the only thing we have control over. Reflect on the fact that Allah (swt) has saved you from that evil cycle you were in with this man. Use it to praise Allah (swt) and be grateful for the fact that He saved you. …

Pretty & Pious, But No One Wants Me to Be His Wife

Pretty & Pious, But No One Wants Me to Be His Wife

In this counseling answer: “You need to get rid of your inner deconstructive voice of rejection. Don’t feel sad if a family refuses for marriage. Instead, thank God that He saved you from getting involved with someone inappropriate. Spend some time with yourself and do things that you love or have always wanted to do.” Dear …

Dealing with The Spouse's Past

Dealing with The Spouse's Past

In this counseling answer: “Understand that if Allah (swt) forgives your husband for his past, then you should as well. Remember how Allah (swt) is compassionate and merciful towards us. Your husband certainly deserves your compassion and mercy, too. Forgive” Wa ’Alaykum Salam sister, Thank you for writing us. Kindly pass the following answer to your friend, in sha’ …

Fiancé Wants Kids, I Want to Continue My Studies

Fiancé Wants Kids, I Want to Continue My Studies

In this counseling answer: “You must voice your expectations to your partner and request compromises so that both of you get what you need, and you will avoid resentment from the beginning of your marriage. Remember, relationships take two people to work together. In case you get pregnant before you finish your studies, don’t be afraid …

I Hate Being a Quiet Introvert

I Hate Being a Quiet Introvert

In this counseling answer: “We all may have certain traits by ‘nature’, whether they be introverted or extroverted. The key is that although we may have these traits by nature, we can manage them in a way they do not affect our personal and professional life negatively, and we develop other traits that ensure we are …

Shall We End Our Relationship for Our Parents’ Sake?

Shall We End Our Relationship for Our Parents’ Sake?

Answer: As-Salamu `Alaikum dear sister,  Thank you for writing to us. I wonder if there is a way that this guy proposes to you through a third person who the family knows and trusts; it doesn’t have to be through you. You can just keep yourself out of the whole picture and let this third …

Abusive Father & Critical Husband: I’m Depressed

Abusive Father & Critical Husband: I’m Depressed

Answer: As-Salamu ‘Aleikum, Thank you for reaching out to us with your problem. We’ll try our best to help you, in sha’ Allah. First and foremost, children need a safe and secure home free of violence, and parents who love and protect them. From what you have described, it sounds like you have had a …

Wife Seeks Divorce Because I’m Transgender

Wife Seeks Divorce Because I’m Transgender

In this counseling answer: “If indeed you are within your Islamic rights medically, I would further suggest that you both engaged in marital counseling as well as counseling with a trusted Imam if your wife agrees. If she does not, then the only recourse you have is to heal from this breakup and possibly seek friendship among …



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