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Cousin Emotionally Abuses Me to Marry Him

Cousin Emotionally Abuses Me to Marry Him

In this counseling answer: Whilst it’s not possible to go back and change things, you can repent for these actions, avoid ending up in this situation again and seek marriage in a halal way. As-Salamu ‘Alaikum sister, It is understandable why you feel distressed in this situation, especially because you have now been involuntarily forced …

I Crave More Time with My Husband!

I Crave More Time with My Husband!

In this counseling answer: • Strive to become assertive which means to seek a win-win situation when dealing with others. • Get closer to your husband and truly nurturing your relationship with him. As-Salamu Alaikum Sister, Thank you for sending us your question. I am sorry to hear about your situation with your in-laws. I …

Shall I Refuse My Friend's Marriage Proposal?

Shall I Refuse My Friend's Marriage Proposal?

In this counseling answer: Honestly examine your feelings when it comes to yourself and how to view other people. How do you feel about yourself as a woman? As a Muslim? What are your life goals? What do you wish to improve about your character? How do you think others perceive you? Taking your time and getting …

A Divorcée: Can I Still Have Hope to Remarry?

A Divorcée: Can I Still Have Hope to Remarry?

In this counseling answer: As the population of Muslims is vast from different countries and ethnicities as well as schools of thoughts regarding marriageable women (meaning a lot of Muslim men marry for piety, not previous marital status) your chances of getting married are very good! You just have to find those who follow the …

I'm Attracted to the Same-Sex

I'm Attracted to the Same-Sex

Answer: As-Salamu ‘Alaikum brother, Thank you for writing us. This is a situation that occurs more often than one would think. Sometimes it is a passing phase while at other times it is not. While you did not say which country you live in, being exposed to stimuli, images, and certain behaviors which are openly …

Human Psyche from the Islamic Perspective

Human Psyche from the Islamic Perspective

In this counseling answer: “The three main stages of nafs described in the Qur’an are the Nafs al`Ammara (The nafs that urges evil), Nafs al`Lawwama (the nafs that blames), and Nafs al`Mutma`inna (The nafs at peace). Similarly, Feud describes three components of the personality: the id, the ego and the superego.” As-Salamu ‘Alaikum, To answer the first part of your query, the Islamic understanding of the psyche and Freud’s model of …

From Depression to Schizophrenia

In this counseling answer: “Long-term depression is not something that can be stopped just because one desires to. The body is finely tuned to the mind, and physiological aspects like how you sleep or eat, metabolism, heart rate and your immune system are affected by long-term depression. If you can consider a sport like swimming, or …

Shall I Marry a Guy Who Doesn't Regret His Past Sins?

Shall I Marry a Guy Who Doesn't Regret His Past Sins?

In this counseling answer: “You don’t have to pursue a marriage to this man. There are plenty of other single, pious men who are seeking a spouse and whom may be more suitable. The choice is yours, but it is important that you think it through carefully as it is a very important decision to …

Telling Past Sins to Husband: Necessary?

Telling Past Sins to Husband: Necessary?

In this counseling answer: “Telling your husband more details about your past will only make things worse. Do not share any more about it, especially if you feel God has forgiven you and brought you closer through this journey.” As-Salaaamu ’Alaykum sister, May God increase you in knowledge and patience with your situation. I hope you …

Sisters Blame Me for Causing Disunity in the Family

Sisters Blame Me for Causing Disunity in the Family

In this counseling answer: • Talk to any close relative whom your sisters respect and feel shy from. Let that person talk to your sisters and draw their attention to their bad behavior. • They will most likely argue with you less if you are confident and show them that their comments haven’t affected you. Be …



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