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Affair After Affair; I'm not Attracted to My Husband

Affair After Affair; I'm not Attracted to My Husband

In this counseling answer: • You say he is obese so maybe you could make exercise an activity that you both engage in together. You might like to sign up to the gym together. • Find a beautiful place to go for a walk and make it part of a routine. Seeing beautiful scenery together will help …

I Can't Stop Lying to My Husband!

I Can't Stop Lying to My Husband!

In this counseling answer: “You might like to first keep your distance, give him a bit of space, and let him cool down a bit. When things are calmer, you can be alone with him in a peaceful environment, approach him, and talk gently about the matter and see if you are able to resolve things.” As-Salamu …

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Girlfriend Asking for the Wife’s Forgiveness

In this counseling answer: “Your friend needs immediate counseling. Your friend can work through the pain and grief of betrayal and abandonment that often are awakened when the husband has this kind of affair with another woman. She needs to address the safety issues at hand as well.” As-Salamu `Alaykum Sister, Thank you for your sincere concern …

Will I Be Able to Support My Future Wife & Kids?

Will I Be Able to Support My Future Wife & Kids?

In this counseling answer: “Know that what you are experiencing is perfectly natural in your situation. Do your best to mix with locals as well as other people who have moved from abroad and appreciate the blessing. In sha’ Allah, in time, your anxiety will reduce and you will enjoy your time there.” As-Salamu ‘Alaikum dear …

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I Can't Wait to Get My Period So That I Don't Need to Pray

In this counseling answer: • You need to get to the root of the problem which requires someone that is capable of helping you by understanding you and how you got to be where you’re at. • The few rules that we have in Islam are not meant to suppress or oppress. • Islam is …

I Can’t Overcome Laziness & Overeating

I Can’t Overcome Laziness & Overeating

In this counseling answer: • Women, in particular, overeat due to boredom, feeling deprived, comfort eating, a dislike of their body (self-sabotage), anxiety, depression and a myriad of other reasons. • Write down what you are feeling right before you eat a meal or reach for that tasty looking sweet. Also, write down how you felt …

Between Father & My Career: How to Choose?

Between Father & My Career: How to Choose?

In this counseling answer: • I would advise you to scrutinize the situation again. Compare and contrast the two places. List down your set of priorities and see which place offers you the best. • Sit with your father to discuss the issue. • Let your father know that his opinions matter. • Remember, it is …

I’m Scared to Get Married to a Middle-Easterner

I’m Scared to Get Married to a Middle-Easterner

In this counseling answer: • It is not right for parents to reject a marriage based on ethnicity. • To me, gender difference alone is a “set-up” by our Creator to test us. • You are not that young for marriage. • I suggest that the two of you not get married UNTIL this young …

My Long Distance Relationship

My Long Distance Relationship

In this counseling answer: “If you really depend on God, then everything will fall into its proper place and be made clear to you. Take the means you can, but do not get attached to “what you want”; be open to the “whatever is best” principle. Trust in God and instead of asking Him to …

Can't Get Over My Ex-Girlfriend

Can't Get Over My Ex-Girlfriend

In this counseling answer: • You are only going to feel depressed if you do not focus on the blessings that God gave you right now. • Your ex-girlfriend’s opinions of you do not matter anymore and know that the satanic forces are whispering to you to feel depressed. • Never ever contact your ex again. …



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