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An Angel Outdoors, Something Else Inside

An Angel Outdoors, Something Else Inside

In this counseling answer: • Make an appointment with your husband to talk about these matters. You should prepare yourself by writing down your thoughts and some strategies on how you believe both of you can work to resolve some of the issues facing you. • Discuss what kinds of responsibilities can be shared. He needs …

How to Get My Husband to Talk to Me?

In this counseling answer: • You have to be patient with your husband and help him understand that you appreciate him and that you sincerely want to know what he is thinking or what he is feeling about a certain matter. • If you like details, you can encourage him by asking specific questions that …

Make-up At Home: Fun or Sexualization of Girls?

Make-up At Home: Fun or Sexualization of Girls?

In this counseling answer: • Your husband merely needs to learn more about the Islamic scholars’ rulings on the permissibility of wearing makeup in the manner that you are with your daughters. • If we do not teach our children how to navigate the gray areas in life, they will either find Islam unfulfilling and impractical or …

Parents’ Fight & Forthcoming Arranged Marriage Stress Me Out

Parents’ Fight & Forthcoming Arranged Marriage Stress Me Out

In this counseling answer: • Instead of telling your dad directly that he is wrong and pointing fingers at him, you should try telling him how you feel. Do it when you are alone with him, so he does not get too defensive. • Leave the room when your parents are fighting. • Find some …

I Broke My Own Hymen

I Broke My Own Hymen

In this counseling answer: • Even if you did break your hymen, you are still a virgin. • A girl’s/women’s hymen can break naturally from playing sports, a fall off of a bike, or other strenuous activities. • There is no need to disclose to your future husband that you used to masturbate. As-Salamu ‘Alaikum dear sister, …

Jailed by My Ex; I Want Revenge

Jailed by My Ex; I Want Revenge

In this counseling answer: • Seek help immediately for your mental health issues from a professional in your area. • Revenge is Allah’s (swt) and holding on to hateful feelings, revengeful desires, or other harmful thoughts towards self or others is emotionally dangerous. As-Salamu ‘Alaikum dear brother, I am sorry to hear about what your …

My Daughter Left Home Due to My Husband's Scrutiny

My Daughter Left Home Due to My Husband's Scrutiny

In this counseling answer: • Dictatorial behavior flies in the face of the “consultation” ordered in Islam in the surah called “Consultation” and Surat an-Nisaa where Allah (swt) states that you are equal (in marriage), but the man is one degree above. (Quran 2:228) • But don’t judge him harshly either; he is sincerely doing what he thinks …

I’m Always Sad; How Can I Feel Content?

I’m Always Sad; How Can I Feel Content?

In this counseling answer: • Lists can help us organize our thoughts and see which ones are rational and which ones are not. By making lists, we gain a visual perspective of how we are thinking. • Look at your “worry” list and see which ones are left that are within your control and those that …

Get Married Now or Wait Until She Graduates

Get Married Now or Wait Until She Graduates?

In this counseling answer: • We want to remind you that frank communication and trust in Allah are going to help you come through this situation, and nothing else. • We do not encourage prolonged engagements but suggest that you consider performing the nikkah (marriage contract) and waiting until she finishes her studies to actually live together. …

20 Years After Divorce, I'm Still Depressed

In this counseling answer: • Social support is what you need. • Engage more in Islamic society in your region. You could find a lot of work and supportive relationships. As-Salamu `Alaikum dear sister, I was pleased to read your insightful e-mail. I feel that your problem is more social than psychological. I am truly pleased …



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