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'Why I'm Still Single?'- A Single Muslim Man Speaks Out

I have often wondered whether this is an active choice, a curse, or simply a matter of circumstance. At my age and from my cultural background almost everyone I know is married and has children. At times I wonder whether it is the lifestyle I have adopted, but at other times partition blame to the …

Husband Left Me & The Kids for Another Woman

Husband Left Me & The Kids for Another Woman

In this counseling answer: • He has violated your Islamic rights in numerous ways, as well as the rights of your children. • It is better for you and your children to focus on your own well-being. • Seeing a qualified counselor is also very beneficial for yourself. • Show them as much love and …

I Changed My Mind; I Want to Refuse This Proposal

I Changed My Mind; I Want to Refuse This Proposal

In this counseling answer: • If you are not attracted to him and prefer someone else, then this may make it difficult to develop relations between the two of you. • If you choose to decline the existing proposal, be sure to be kind in doing so since arrangements have already been made. • Make …

He Seems to Be a Good Man, But I Dislike His Family

He Seems to Be a Good Man, But I Dislike His Family

In this counseling answer: • You can reject the proposal if your heart is not convinced about marrying that particular guy. • Wealth and a good status is not everything to look for in a marriage. Knowing the potential spouse’s personality, likes and dislikes are also quite important. • Be sure to set appropriate boundaries with …

He's Getting Married, But I Still Love Him

He's Getting Married, But I Still Love Him

In this counseling answer: • He is going to get married to somebody else. As you stated, he signed his contract for marriage. You need to leave him alone not talk to him anymore nor message him. • Write a journal concerning this issue. • Make another list of the things that you would like …

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I'm Not Attracted to My Wife, Help!

In this counseling answer:  “Brother, your wife sounds wonderful.  She’s pious, she’s smart (she’s a doctor), she loves you and treats you well, and she seems very patient and compassionate-given the circumstances she is in.  She sounds like many men’s dream girl in fact. Brother, I think you do in fact realize this and are …

Middle-Eastern Marriages: Like a Lottery?

Middle-Eastern Marriages: Like a Lottery?

In this counseling answer: “My advice is to honor the cultural customs so long as they do not infringe on the clear Islamic guidelines I have mentioned above. In case that happens, you must be open and communicate your needs to your family. You need to remind them and present to them the Islamic evidence for …

Parents’ Fight & Forthcoming Arranged Marriage Stress Me Out

Parents’ Fight & Forthcoming Arranged Marriage Stress Me Out

In this counseling answer: Islam has given freedom of choice to those who wish to get married. Try speaking to your mother about this matter and tell her about your concern. Ask her why your father finds this proposal suitable for you and what qualities he has seen in your cousin. I am sure your …

They Forced Me to Marry My Cousin

They Forced Me to Marry My Cousin

In this counseling answer: • Talk to your parents further about this and go with them to consult and seek advice from a local Imam or religious scholar. • Before you do anything at all, we urge you to learn about the Istikharah (supplication for guidance) Prayer. As-Salamu `Alaykum,  Thank you so much for writing to us …

Dealing with Cultural Differences in a Marriage

Dealing with Cultural Differences in a Marriage

In this counseling answer: • A way to overcome this is to educate each other about your different cultural backgrounds. Talk to each other about traditions within your cultures and expectations for the man and the woman or treatment of others, for example. • Never lose hope that Allah (swt) will see you both through, …



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