There is probably nothing more difficult that could happen to a person than losing a child. I’ve done a video on this some time ago with Quran weekly called “the Loss of a Child”, there’s a project run by a beautiful family called, “Children of Jannah”…
There are many efforts out there to try to help people that are coping with the loss of a child because it truly does alter a person’s life.
May Allah comfort all those parents out there that have lost their children. May Allah allow their children to drag them into Jannah, and may Allah grant them peace in this world and Jannah in the next.
It’s a nightmare that none of us wants. And it’s a nightmare that the Prophet (peace be upon him) went through six times; the Prophet (peace be upon him) buried six of his seven children.
How do you even have any emotional capacity after burying your wife and six of your seven children in your own lifetime with everything else that’s going on? How do you still find it in you to smile at everyone and to still have so much to give to so many people around you?
The Dua of Umar
Umar ibn abdul-Aziz also one of those men who lost three of his children even though he died barely reaching the age of 40. And he makes this beautiful profound dua to Allah. He says:
“Oh Allah, you took back the soul of Sahl, Abdul Malik, and Muzhimah, and that did not increase me in anything towards you except for love for you, and only more desirous of that what awaits me with you. So take back my soul without me being negligent or careless.”
This is a tough one to come to terms with. so I don’t even want to act like a hypocrite here, and I would be the first to admit that losing a child is my greatest nightmare. May Allah protect all of our children.
But in this situation, what can we take from this man that went through so much in losing three of his children?
Umar did not claim that he wasn’t hurt by the loss of those children. It’s natural. The Prophet cried when his children passed away.
So Umar instead said that that loss did not make me resent you oh Allah. It only increased me in love towards you and only made me desire the hereafter that which meet with you even more, so take back my soul the way that you took back the souls of my children but let me not come back to you negligent or in a way that’s displeasing to you.
If you have suffered from great pain, try to convert that pain into pleasure in the hereafter. Do not pretend like the pain doesn’t exist in this life, it existed even with the Prophet, and with a great man like Umar.