Many new Muslim sisters think that marriage is the solution to their education. Although it is ideal, it isn't realistic. When we become close and comfortable with our spouses, we tend to become “lazy” in these matters, with teaching the other something that takes time, at the top of the list.
When you keep yourself busy, you will forget about feeling lonely. Don't put things that do not interest you in your routine, otherwise you will not stick to it. Ask yourself, “What do I like to do, and how can I make it something that will benefit me and my religion?”
New Muslims face numerous external factors that leave them alone, and isolated, leaving them feeling lost and hopeless. Since loneliness is the largest cause for depression amongst new Muslims, we will focus on that.
Marriage is a give and take, not take, take, take! When a woman is upset, she tends to verbalize her feelings, whereas the man wants to hold it in and not talk about it.
I asked for a lot of help when it came to learning to pray--and once I started asking, I started finding it. If I find that I'm losing my way, by sins or by losing sincerity in acts of worship, then the right thing to do is to turn back to Allah, ask for forgiveness, and ask for help.
Why tardiness is not something seen in the most erudite of scholars, and why I don't believe that it is religiously appropriate. And I maintain that view despite the prevalent disregard for time in some Muslim cultures.
By having this kind of peace, a person becomes like a magnet, people are attracted to their state of being, to their peace, to their knowledge as they are growing with it, and people want to know where did this peace come from.
As new Muslims battle with spiritual challenges, soaring moments of joy and a total reevaluation of the world they live in, what can we do to help?
When we enter Islam, we humble ourselves before God. The abuse from society only strengthens our trust in Him. Being mocked at or denigrated only makes us appreciate all the more, the trials that our beloved Prophet Muhammad faced.
Behaving how we are instructed in the Quran will help us build an unbreakable bond amongst Muslims, but Muslims must do their part first on the individual level, then on the community level, national level, then on the global level. We can’t achieve global unity if we don’t start with ourselves.
When you are reading the Quran, you may find verses that you get hung on. If you have the tafsir (explanation about the history and circumstance surround verses at the time they were revealed), then it can shed a lot of insight on confusing or unclear verses.