There is no such thing as a Super Mama. This is a consolation, because society puts a heavy burden upon women to juggle nearly everything in the home, as well as earn some form of income.
Besides the job description and career path, pertinent matters that need sorting out, such as leave (including maternity and sick leave), child benefits, flexi-time (if possible), overtime and weekends (you have to decide whether or not you would like to be contacted then), possibilities for a career-shift to work from home.
Although Scandinavians are very well-off, I didn't see anyone flaunting their wealth the way we see in other countries. There seemed to be a social code that made people want to keep a low profile in public and blend in with the crowds without standing out too much.
What can we, reverts, bring with us on the journey and what should we leave behind? Over coffee and biscuits, I asked Mary to describe what it had been like to become Muslim 30 years ago.
The gap between how good we all manage to be and what we should be, was simply made clear. The natural goodness of those around me has become something I now take for granted.
Would you still turn away for friends who would have no hesitation to leave you when a better opportunity arises for them or even forget you after a while? What about the pleasures of this world? Do you think what gives you pleasure at this age, may change a few years from now?
We want all the comfort of the West and at the same time, we would like to see pious kids to practice Islam, do not date, dance, listen to music and attend the mosque regularly! This may be a great example of having the cake and eating it too. We want two opposites at the same time. Is there a solution?
Instead of always thinking about what you don't have, or a problem you are facing, the easiest way to humble yourself is to think about those who wish they could be in your shoes, instead of thinking of whose shoes you would like to be in.
Some new reverts just get fed up because they cannot bear the criticism from their close friends or their family anymore. Consequently, they feel embarrassed to meet other Muslims or go to the mosque to avoid more problems.
The main thing that new Muslims need to do to protect their faith is to gain knowledge from sound sources of what Islam actually does teach.
I recently met a new Muslim sister who said that all the reasons given to her for the existence of God did not satisfy her until she read/heard the scientific proofs of God's existence in the Quran. How could some of this information be available over fourteen hundred years ago? How could Muhammad, an illiterate man have known these?