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Live Fatwa (General Session)

Sheikh Ahmad Kutty
02 April, 2017

Dear Brothers/Sisters,

 

Thank you very much for joining us in this Live Fatwa session. We would like also to thank our guest, Sheikh Ahmad Kutty, for answering the questions directed to him. You will find the answers to your questions below.

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AssalamualaikumwarahmatullahiwabarqatuThank you for taking the time to answer my question!I am a Muslim revert, alhamdulillah. My husband, my children and I live in an Islamic country. My mother who is a Non-Muslim is getting married very soon. My questions are as following. Will her husband be regarded as my stepfather by Islamic law although both are Non-Muslim? If he was infact to be seen as my stepfather would there be something to consider?I need to know the EXACT sources, quotes, chain of narrators etc. for this because I don't want to earn the displeasure of Allah (swt).I found different websites that all stated he'll be considered my stepfather (mahram) which mostly cited Qur'an (verse 4:23) but the Quran doesn't speak about non-Muslims in that regard. Since we are not allowed to inherit from a non-Muslim I thought this might be a sign those websites aren't correct on the issue.Please advice me as soon as possible (the wedding will take place next week! May Allah reward you for your great service to Muslims and Non-Muslims alike!



Your mother’s husband is a mahram because of marriage. There are four persons considered as Maharim (close relatives you cannot have marriage relations) for a woman via marriage:  Husband’s father, husband’s son, husband of wife’s mother, husband of wife’s daughter. However, the bar to marriage with the mother’s husband comes into effect only after the consummation (of marriage). In other words, no bar exists if the marriage is dissolved before consummation.
In conclusion, your mother’s husband is considered your step-father even though their marriage is no solemnized according to the rules of the Shari`ah. Since they are not Muslims, their marriage is deemed as long as it fulfills the requirements of the particular religious denomination to which they belong.  Islam recognizes the validity of marriages of the People of the Book as long as they conform to their acceptable norms and customs.

AssalamuAlaikumwarahmatullahwabarakatuh. Kindly permit me to ask and clear my feelings about issues relating to the title of my question. On issues where the Qur’an is clear and unambiguous, does one has to refer to Hadith or Sunnah to extract rulings relating to same issue but are clearly against the Qur’anic provisions. Example, punishment for zina is clear and unambiguous in the Qur’an but in the Hadith the punishment is categorised, lashing the unmarried and stoning of the married to death. I feel that in matters as serious as putting a person to death the Qur’anic viewpoint should be sufficient. Surprisingly, stoning to death of adulterers is clearly found in the Christian Bible. Another issue is the killing of apostates, which is a Biblical doctrine not found in the Qur’an and which the Muslims have imposed upon themselves. Please provide to me some clarifications. I hope God opens my eyes and mind to comprehend the reasons behind these and some others issues I perceived as problematic. May Allah reward you for the good work you are doing. Ma assalam



Approaching the Qur’an without reference to the Sunnah is wrong. Allah did not send His messenger only to deliver the Book as if he were a delivery man who is not interested in the contents of what he delivers. Rather, Allah tells us in no uncertain terms that He did send down the Book to the Prophet (peace be upon him) so that he expounds the message to the people.
“And upon you [too] have We bestowed from on high this Reminder (i.e. the Qur’an), so that you might explain to the people all that has been sent down to you as a message for them that they might heed the lessons.” (Qur’an 16:44)
Therefore, the companions, as well as all of the succeeding generations, looked at the Sunnah as the infallible interpreter of the Qur’an. Therefore, for anyone to claim that he can dispense with the Sunnah in understanding the Qur’an he is simply self-deluded; he is guilty of making up a new religion.

Obedience to the Prophet (peace be upon him) is integral to obedience to Allah: “Say [O Prophet]: “If you love God, follow me, [and] God will love you and forgive you your sins; for God is much-forgiving, a dispenser of grace.” (Qur’an 3:31)

Having said this, however, I do not mean to say that we must accept each and every report found in the collections of hadith as if they were integral aspects of sunnah to override the plain meanings of the Qur’an. For sure, as shown by the companions like `Umar, `Aishah, and others, we ought to disregard the doubtful and dubious traditions when faced with incontrovertible evidence or principles of the Qur’an.
The issue of Rajm you mentioned has been approached this way by some of the eminent scholars such as the late Shaykh Abu Zahrah; however, this view is not widely accepted by other scholars.
It is true there is no mention of Rajm is not found in the Qur’an; so we may take it to mean that it is not the standard punishment enforced for Zina at all times. However, we cannot deny Rajm since it has precedents in the practice of the Prophet and the pious caliphs.
Having said this, we ought to point out that Rajm is more like a deterrent than a punishment as the conditions of enforcing it are at best extremely rigorous and therefore next to impossible to implement it. The Prophet (peace be upon him) has already instituted the principle: “Avert punishments when and where there is a modicum of doubt.”
Therefore, I would agree with those who call for a moratorium on such corporal punishments as called by Dr. Tariq Ramadan and others. By doing so, we are not in any way tampering with the Shari’ah; rather we are enforcing it by looking at its primary objectives and purposes.
We have numerous precedents for imposing moratorium such as the following: Hudud are not to be implemented during the state of war; Umar’s refusal to enforce cutting off hands during famine and starvation, etc.
As for the killing of apostates, we have reasons to believe that it was implemented only in cases involving treason. In other words, neither the Prophet nor the pious caliphs ordered hunting down those who left Islam – for exercising their freedom of conscience.   Freedom of conscience is one of the fundamental tenets of the Qur’an reinforced through dozens of verses; hence we cannot dispense with it.
Mind you the soul and spirit of Shari’ah is justice, compassion, and mercy.
Allah knows the truth.

Asalamualikum is it permissible in Islam to remove hair from arms and legs .I have excessive hair growth and soon I'm getting married.



As a woman, you are allowed to remove hair from arms and legs. However, it is best that you do it yourself; if you are unable to do it, you may seek the help of others, provided you don’t expose your private parts.

In other words, you need to keep the part between the knees and navel covered from others except for your spouse or for certain medical treatments, when necessary.

Assalamalikum I was just wondering when was Adam on earth



I have no idea. While such questions are interesting, it is of greater importance for us is to know why are we here on earth and what is the purpose of our existence and how to attain felicity that is becoming of us as humans.

Assalamualaiukumwarahmatullah,Two years ago I decided to study medicine. And of course, everyone was so happy especially my parents. After that I went to the United States to study English for one year with my sister because my school is teaching medicine in the English language. I don't even know whether I did something right by going abroad without a mahram. After I came back to my country I started my medical studies with my sister. My parents rented a house in a city in which my university is located. So we were living together. As the days went by I started realizing that I do not want to study medicine. After some arguments, eventually, we came back to our old house. Now me and my sister are staying at home. I do not know what I want to study and what I want to do with my life. Because I cannot decide what I want to do, my parents are getting irritated and disappointed. There are arguments going on everyday. They ask me "what are you going to study? Are you going to stay at home for all of your life like those girls who does not have as much mental capacity as you do? Allah gave you this intelligence and you are wasting it, you are being ungrateful to Allah. What are you going to do on the day of judgment when Allah asks you 'why didn't you use the intellect I gave you'? If you become a doctor you can serve people, you can have a better life. If you don't become a doctor and you live according to your ideas, you are going to be miserable..." They are saying all this stuff and I don't know what to study. Everyone around me, all the people I talked to, all the scholars I sought advice from are saying become a doctor, Muslim women need Muslim doctors. Okay, I know they need good Muslim women doctors but I don't want to serve in that field, my intention is not for Allah. So even if I study medicine would it all be a waste because I am not doing for the sake of Allah and I don't even like the job. Let's say I decided some kind of a job and I am going to study it. The university that my parents want me to go is not in my hometown and there is no way we can move together as a family again since I disappointed them so much. So this means that I have to stay in a dormitory without a mahram. I have to travel alone without a mahram. Is it even permissible in Islam for a girl to travel alone? Am I disobeying Allah for not studying medicine and serving the Ummah? One scholar told me that it is fardh upon me to become a doctor because I am capable of doing it and Muslim women need it. I seek your advice.



If you have the necessary skills and aptitude to study medicine and become a doctor, you should go for it; if you don’t, then it is best you choose some other field to excel. One may serve God by shining in the work one does as long it is beneficial for humanity and is sanctioned by Allah.
Simply going to become a doctor because your parents or someone else wants you to do so is not desirable. It may even be detrimental to the community for as they say, “a half learned physician is a danger to health!”.
My advice to you is to ask yourself: what is it you want to pursue as a goal to excel and contribute to the community?

If medicine is the field you choose, go for it and focus on it and seek to excel in it. If you were to do so with the intention of serving Allah by serving humanity that would be an excellent act of worship meriting great rewards. If, on the other hand, your natural aptitude is to become a lawyer or writer or social scientist, etc. then go for it and try to excel and serve the community with the intention to please Allah. Muslims today are in dire need of social scientists who would use their expertise to promote the cause of truth and justice.

Asalaamailakum, I am married for 6 months. Since my husband is settled in another state so after my wedding I had to shift with him as well as my in laws. We were together for 5 months. Now my in laws want to shift back to their native. However, i don't want to go as i want to stay with my husband but my in laws are forcefully taking me along as they say they don't want to stay alone. My husband also doesn't want me to go but has no option. I am 4th months pregnant and all this is stressing me a lot. We are newly married and wanted to stay together but his parents are not agreeing. Please tell me am I bound to go with them or not. I don't have want to live without my husband. Can you please explain my rights as a wife?



If your husband is forced to leave, then I would advise you to agree to his wishes to move with him. Perhaps he is doing so to please his parents and to be able to serve them if needed.
You should pray to Allah to give you peace of mind and help you cope with the challenges you are facing. Remember such challenges are part of life; for as Allah says, after hardship comes ease. So, you should agree to go with your husband and pray to Allah to bring you comfort and give you strength to face the challenges. Allah says: ‘Whoever is conscious of God, God gives him a way out.” (Qur’an 65:2). “And whoever is conscious of God, God will give him ease in his concern.” (Qur’an 65: 4).

It has been 1 and half year of marriage and it came to my knowledge that wife is infertile? Is it enough reason to go for 2nd marriage only for want of children? I do not want to leave her just because of the reason that she is infertile.



You don’t need to leave your wife for this reason. You may continue to pray to Allah to heal her and reverse her condition. Mind you there is no shortage of men and women who were deemed as infertile miraculously healed and gifted with children.
I would urge you to make Istighfar unceasingly.  The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “Whoever clings to Istighfaar always, Allah will bring ease for him and appoint for him a way out of difficulties.”

 

In fact, this is the lesson we learn from the story of Prophet Nuh who preached to his people saying: Repent and ask forgiveness of Allah; if you do so, He will send down water pouring from the skies and bless you with wealth and children.
So, seek possible treatments, if available and make lots of Istighfar; if it is Allah’s will for you to have kids, He will grant your wish.
There is no need for you to marry another wife, for as you should know, there is no guarantee you will have children with her.

As-salmu alakium, are Muslims allowed to be an organ doner? I know how important it is for a Muslim to conserve life any way possible and to help others in need, but does a person have to be buried with all organs upon death in order for it to be a propel burial?



Organ donation is permitted in Islam if it is done within the permissible limits prescribed by the Shari`ah.

The following are the conditions scholars have stipulated for donation:

Conditions associated with a living donor:

1. He/she must be a person who is in full possession of his/her faculties so that he/she is able to make a sound decision by himself/herself;

2. He/she must be an adult and, preferably, at least twenty-one years old;

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3. It should be done on his/her own free will without any external pressure exerted on him/ her;

4. The organ he/she is donating must not be a vital organ on which his/her survival or sound health is dependent upon;

5. No transplantation of sexual organs is allowed.

Conditions associated with deceased donors:

1. It must be done after having ascertained the free consent of the donor prior to his /her death. It can be through a will to that effect, or signing the donor card, etc.

2. In a case where organ donation consent was not given prior to a donor’s death, the consent may be granted by the deceased’s closest relatives who are in a position to make such decisions on his/her behalf.

3. It must be an organ or tissue that is medically determined to be able to save the life or maintain the quality of life of another human being.

4. The organ must be removed only from the deceased person after the death has been ascertained through reliable medical procedures.

5. Organs can also be harvested from the victims of traffic accidents if their identities are unknown, but it must be done only following the valid decree of a judge.”

I am a wife and a mother for 2 years old boy and our second child is on his way. Me and my husband met each other when we was 20yrs, we were young and rushed into getting married. He always used to go out with friends and have fun, I knew that habit but I also thought and believed things would change when we get kids. That we both would settle down. For me it was no problem, I started focusing on my new family right away and when I became mother I gave all my time to my family.I work full time and provide for our family. My husband studies full time. I got pregnant with our first child right after the wedding, we was only getting to know each other better. That time I found out that he hasn't stopped his bad habits, which was drinking once in a while. We talked a lot and he promised it would change. Now it has been 3yrs since that promise and during this time he goes out with his friends but always convinced me he wasn't drinking only having fun. He mostly sleeps by friends afterwards so I believed him.Everything changed couple days ago when he went out for his friend's birthday and came home few hours later, he came to sleep next me in our bed just casually. I smelled right away the alcohol, I got furious and woke him up and forced him to leave our house. I said how dare he to come and sleep next to me like its nothing, and how he could lie to me all these years that it was over.He left and took few clothes, probably staying by a friend. The question is now what shall I do? I love him, he isn't a bad person or father just young and lost. I have given him chances to change but with no result. I am half way pregnant and I get no support from him, I cannot tell my family any of this. Should I divorce him and take care of my kids, I am broking in to pieces. Please help me before it's too late.



Generally speaking, as the Prophet, peace be upon him, has reportedly stated, “Divorce is the most hated of all permissible things”. If one has no valid ground or reason for resorting to it, it may, therefore, be considered either undesirable or sinful.

However, there are certain exceptional cases, when divorce is considered as either desirable or even obligatory. If, for instance, one of the couple leaves Islam altogether, divorce becomes obligatory; it will be considered desirable when one of the spouses is leading an un-Islamic life-style and is neglectful of the pillars of Islam. Your case falls under this category.

Based on what is stated above, if you find your husband’s un-Islamic life-style intolerable you are permitted to divorce him if he is not willing to change. Being an alcoholic or consistently neglecting obligatory prayers are considered genuine reasons for seeking divorce.

Having said this, however, I must advise you not to rush to seek a divorce from him. You should first try to seek proper Islamic counseling. If no one is available for counseling, you may at least some wise people in the community to try to advise him. If all attempts fail to convince him to change, then you are entitled to seek a divorce from him.

Salam practically assist on how to bathe for janabah as am getting married soon. Thank you.



The proper method of ghusl (ritual bath) involves the following steps:

1. Make the niyyah (intention) to perform ghusl for purification.

2. Wash your private parts thoroughly with water.

3. Perform wudu’ (ablution) except for washing your feet, which you can do later while bathing the body.

4. Wash the entire body, starting with your head and the right side, followed by the left.

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5. It is preferred that the whole body be washed three times. The minimum is once.

Having completed the above, you are considered eligible to perform the salah (prayer).

Sir i have a question that if a man had a night fall or having sex with his wife. Then it is compulsory to do a ghusul. I know this, but my question is that after having sex the man does't not get time for a ghusul due to some circumstances. The man does his work as per routine...the food he eats or cooks is halal or haram. And please let me know whether he can wash clothes or not.



I cannot understand why you are trying to rationalize your neglect of performing the obligatory ghusl. After all, all it takes is a few minutes. It is not much different from taking the time to use the toilet, brush the teeth, and doing regular daily chores before venturing out to work.
If you have been doing this and rationalizing it, then you are simply wrong. You can never justify it. Therefore, you ought to repent and redo all those prayers you have missed.
If you did look at it as a priority, you would never have done this as a habit.
So you must ask yourself: how much of a priority it is for you to perform ghusl and perform your obligatory prayer?
As a Muslim, it should be a top priority for you.
As for the other questions, they are not very relevant, for your neglect of ghusl, though an abomination, does not have any effect on the matters you have mentioned.  While saying I do not deny the fact that you would be deprived of Allah’s blessings when you neglect His commandments.

As salamualaykum, I am a new Muslim ( thanks to my lovely wife and of course by the will of Allah (SWT)). I am still learning the rules and laws of Islam on mercy of Allah (SWT). I have moved to different state to settle and get better life for my family. But right before I moved, I heard about istikharah prayer and I did. Very same night my prayer was answered by Allah (SWT). I saw blood on my forehead (not running blood but it was like when you get your skin peeled off). Anyway, it was my first time doing istikhara and getting it answered. I didn't understand it. And still I moved to different state. Now I am at the new place and realized the meaning of that answer. I have never missed any Jumma prayer Since I started praying it. But here I am missing Jumma prayer because of my work schedule and lots of other small things. I am trying to change my job time though just to get chance pray Jumma.I don't know how many more is to come. I am confused now and want to know what to do? Should I go back where I came from? Or just stay here and ask for forgiveness from Allah (SWT) because it was my mistake. Your advice would be very helpful to me and my family, so please help me. May Allah (SWT) give mercy on all.



I empathize with your situation and pray to Allah to inspire you to make the right decision.

 

I would urge you to see if you can speak to your boss to allow you flex time to accommodate your Jumu`ah schedule. Try to talk to him and explain to him why it is important for you to attend the Jumu`ah prayer. Let us assume he agrees.

 

In case, he is not cooperating; then you may stay on the job until such time you can find another job where you don’t face such challenges.

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See if you can find another job in the city.

 

If you cannot find any, then perhaps you should think of relocating to another place or the city you came.

 

I would urge you never to fail to turn to Allah asking His help. After all, Allah is in charge of all of the affairs of the world, and He has the power to bring relief and ease. Allah says: ‘Whoever is conscious of God, God gives him a way out.” (Qur’an 65:2). “And whoever is conscious of God, God will give him ease in his concern.” (Qur’an 65:4).

 

Therefore, pray unceasingly using this supplication:

 

Allaahumma aghninee bi halaalika an haraamika wa bi fadhlika amman siwaaka

 

“O Allah, make me self-sufficient with what You have made lawful for me so that I am not compelled to turn to that which You’ve declared as unlawful for me, and grant that I remain content with Your favor so that I have no need to look to the favor of anyone else.”

What about the study of girls in co education system. Does Islam allow this?



Islam stresses the importance of education as a religious duty.
There is nothing in Islam that forbids girls and boys are sharing the classrooms as long as they conform to the Islamic guidelines governing male-female interactions.
Men and women used to share public spaces including mosques and markets during the time of the Prophet (peace be upon him), and there was no concept of physical partition.
Islamic guidelines in this regard above all stress modesty and shunning of undue display of charm eliciting lustful stares and advances.
As long as these guidelines are observed, there is no reason to ban co-education.

 

Can a non-Muslim girl marry a Muslim man? Asslamalaikum. I'm a non Muslim. But I trust Allah- peace be upon him. more than anyone and anything. I pray him everyday .Without praying him. My day won't go. I didn't convert to Islam officially. But im always into Allah - peace be upon him . I have fallen in love with a guy a year ago and he is a Muslim. I'm very serious about my relationship and future with him. But he is clearly telling me that his parents will not agree because I'm a non Muslim. I have no idea why any of the Muslim guys are cheating upon girls like this. I have seen a lot of guys doing this. This is haraam . Allah will not accept this I feel. He loves me so much but Im very sad that he's not thinking about the future. I'm a girl. I can't leave it just like that. Everyday, I pray Allah that. O Allah you know how sincere Im with Shoaib. How much I love him. Please help me. Please get me and him married. Otherwise just kill me. Because I can't see him with anyone else. I need not commit suicide. My heart will break and I'll die. Allah please help me. Everyday I pray him cry a lot while praying. I don't have any psychological problem. I'm just a girl who's very sincere in her relationship and he is my life. I have no idea what's happening in my life. I'm very successful in my career. I have a master's degree with 92%. I'm happy.but the major part of my life is Shoaib.im very sorry if I have spoke wrong anywhere. I'm just talking my heart out.



Marriage is about life-long partnership based on mutual love, respect and shared beliefs and practices.
That is why it is important for the partners in marriage to have common shared beliefs, practices and feasts and celebrations which create bonding and cement their relations.
My experience as a family counselor spanning over four decades teaches me that it is only marriages built on such a foundation can endure and last. Marriages lacking such a foundation is bound to fail and break up. So, if you are wise, you should only consider marrying a person with the same shared beliefs, values, and spiritual practices.
We make the mistake of confusing idealism with real life; married people are bound to face the many challenges and pressures of real life; without a shared belief system and values they would quickly fail and fall apart.

It is best, therefore, not to rush to navigate the rough waters without proper tools or preparations.

Assalamalikum I was just wondering it says paradise will be a peaceful place so does that mean there won't be noise fun noise like if someone wants to do carpentry or drive a car or play paintball gun, etc.



You are making the mistake of measuring the experience of Paradise with the experiences of this mundane and transient world. There is no comparison: How can it be when the former is incomparable and untainted bliss while the latter is pleasure tainted with pain, sorrow, and imperfection?

 

So, if we still try to compare the two, we are not different from that of an infant in the womb trying to think of his experience as a measurement to imagine what awaits him outside the womb. It is wholly absurd and irrational.
Furthermore, matters of heaven and hell belong to the realm of Ghayb, and as such, it lies beyond human cognition and rational thinking. So, we must accept it as as stated in the revelation: “In the heaven is such bliss the like of which no eyes have seen, no ears have heard about, and no mind could ever conceive!.”

So rest assured, if we get there, we shall experience such utmost bliss beyond which all other experiences pale into insignificance.
Therefore, instead of raising such questions, we may do well to focus on how to get to Paradise in the first place.
I pray to Allah to honor us all to live as Muslims, die in a state of faith, and gather us all in the company of the righteous. Amen.

As-salam alikum I was just wondering I have a few questions I that I was just wondering if you could answer please1. 5:27 says Adam's sons sacrificed animals so it makes it sounds like they had domestic animals but Adam and Noah had to exist 70 thousand BC but domestication didn't exist till 8 thousand BC. So how do we explain this because also Noah loading animals it makes it sounds like domestication so how do we explain this?2. 25:20 says every prophet walked the markets but again Adam and Noah didn't come till 70 thousand BC and markets didn't appear till 8 thousand BC unless markets mean trade or bartering for meat for tools etc., so how do we explain this? Jazaka Allah3. Also the Quran and hadith talks about money and poor people but there wasn't money and there wouldn't have been poor people as such because everyone was kinder poor same level if you know what I mean in Adam and Noah day. So how do we explain this? But the main questions are the first and the second.



I have no answers to your questions. Your questions are based on speculations. In other words, you are stating hypothesizes and speculations as if they were proven scientific facts. Facts are facts; they cannot be confused with opinions based on conjecture. Allah says: “And [since] they have no knowledge whatever thereof, they follow nothing but surmise: yet, behold, never can surmise take the place of truth” (Qur’an 53:28).

 

Therefore, I do not agree with your assumptions with regard to the sacrifice of Adam’s sons.

 

2- As for the second question, you forget the central message of the verse: That Prophets are not angels or divine beings; rather they are mortals who are not above the fundamental norms and customs of the people of their time.  So, the mention of walking in the markets should not be taken to mean as if they were walking the modern shopping malls; humans are social beings, and as such, they would congregate and interact and exchange goods, etc. So, there is no reason to deny this Quranic assertion.

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3- Likewise, the Qur’an’s teaching on charity is intended to address situations where there are poverty and suffering. It does not apply to a utopian or ideal state where everyone is self-sufficient, and hence there is no question of poverty.

As-salam alaikum,Recently something I wished never happened did. My older brother passed me his phone so I could look at family pictures and I stumbled upon evidences that he has been watching pornography. I was in SHOCK. It felt as if my knees went wobbly and all blood drawn out from my veins. My parents raised him with true islamic morals and a strong mentality of modesty concerning sexuality. He's a good kid (19) and I really love him, but since that day I've been cold towards him and whenever he approaches me I feel disgusted, knowing what goes on in his room, head and phone. I always thought my brother was NEVER one of those guys, I thought he was a man. I'm a female (17), so I cannot undersatand what goes on inside boy's minds, but I also can't understand those who rationalise this behaviour. What is haram is haram. I can't look at him the same way and he has been sensing it. What should I do? I can't tell my parents as they are going through a rough time and besides, who am I to unveil his wrongs? Should I confront him? Should I keep it shut and pray he finds his path? Should I just brush past it? What should I do? I hate this, I feel anger and disapointment. How to approach him?



I can very well empathize with your situation. I would urge you not to abandon your brother or boycott him. If you were to do so, you are only pushing further and further to drown. You would not hesitate to save him if you were to see him sinking.

The situation he is in is worse than physical drowning since he is endangering his eternal life by corrupting his soul by developing an addiction to porn.

So, you should approach him lovingly and advise him. Perhaps he may need professional counseling to wean off this pernicious habit.

On tips to break free of such addiction, let me cite here from one of my earlier answers:

“Since you have been addicted to an extremely pernicious habit that destroys your spiritual soul and thus leading to self-destruction, you must urgently summon your will power and take all the necessary steps that you can muster in order to wean yourself of it immediately.

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In order to empower yourself to achieve this, you should seek beneficial counselling and therapy preferably from those professionals in the field who are conscientious Muslims; if such Muslim professionals are not available from those who are ethically and morally conscious. It is important for you to wean yourself of these pernicious habits; the consequences of persisting in them are simply unthinkable; they would undoubtedly corrode your spiritual soul and cause your spiritual death.

Sins by their very nature are addictive, for it is in the very nature of carnal soul to seek pleasure in sins. As Busiri has rightly said, “Carnal soul is a like a baby; if you neglect him, he will grow up clinging on to the breast-milk for ever, but if you wean him off, he will be weaned off.” I suggest a few tips which you can use to empower yourself:

1) Visualize and meditate on the ugliness of this heinous sin and conjure up images of hell fire as painted in the Qur’an and the Sunnah as many times as possible until such time that whenever you are tempted to visit such sites or view such scenes will be constantly playing in the screen of your mind; thus even as you have associated this addiction with pleasure you will come to associate it with pure pain and suffering.

2) Convince yourself—by taking all measures such as listing all the negative things about such habits, and listing the verses and traditions about the gravity of sins—of the urgency of removing this malignant cancer from your life; remember it is far more serious than cancer attacking your body since your soul survives you even after your physical body has disintegrated in the earth.

3) Imagine how terrible a loss you will be facing were you to die while being addicted to this most heinous sin?

4) Seek strength from Allah by crying to Him for succour; but you can never seek the help of Allah unless you seek to establish connection with Him through regular Prayers; so never be slack in Your Prayers.

5) Schedule your time in such a way that you are never left with any time to think of such matters; Imam Shafi said: “If you don’t occupy your mind with good works, your carnal soul will make you busy in bad deeds!”

6) Surround yourself with spiritual and Islamic influences and virtually immerse yourself in them.

7) Always hang around with good Muslims who are busy doing good works; join a halaqah where spiritual training is imparted together with study of Islam

8) Make your mind and tongue busy with dhikr Allah; say the following words and others frequently:

SubhaanaAllaah; al-hamdu li Allah; laailaahaillaAllaah, Allaahuakbar;
walaahawlawalaaquwwataillaa bi Allaah; astaghfirAllaaha al-azeem min kullidhanbinwaatoobuilaahi
(Glory be to Allah; praise be to Allah; there is no god but Allah, Allah is Great; there is no power or strength except by the will of Allah; I ask forgiveness of Allah from all my sins and repent to Him.)

9) Once you have been weaned of these pernicious habits, you should seriously consider marriage; marriage is the protection against temptations.

I pray that the Beneficent Lord of Mercy save us all from the evil inclinations of our souls and make us hate disbelief, transgressions and sins; and may He endear to our hearts faith and good works- Ameen.

Sir which style of salah is correct according to sahihhaddes.hanafi or salafi.sir I am very confused.



You may pray according to any of the authentic schools, including Hanafi, Maliki, Shafi`, Hanbali. You may also follow the method of prayer by the eminent Salafi scholars.
The differences among these schools do not concern the basic format of Prayer; rather, they concern only the minor details.
Having said this, I would rush to state: If you are coming from a country where the majority of Muslims and your community follow any of the four schools such as Hanafi or Malik or Shafi` or Hanbali, I will urge you to stick with their practices.

 

If, however, you face an issue for which you wish to seek expert guidance, you may turn to any of the respectable scholars, regardless of his school affiliation.
Finally, I would also urge Muslims not to be rigid about differences among schools on such matters creating division and disunity. We may do well to remember that most of these differences originate in the practices of companions and successors, yet they never condemned each other for such differences; rather they continued to pray for each other and greet and pray for each other.