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Live Fatwa (General Session)

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Thank you very much for joining us in this Live Fatwa session. We would like also to thank our guest, Sheikh Kifah Mustapha, for answering the questions directed to him. You will find the answers of your questions below.

Wednesday, Mar. 15, 2017 | 20:00 - 22:00 GMT

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Assalamualaikumwaarehmatullahiwaabarkatahu I wanted to ask whether is it permissible to remove public hair on arms and legs . I am really confused some people told me I can remove & few have told we shouldn't remove & they have even seen a scholar telling it . Now I'm in dilemma on whom should I believe



Salam alaikum

Removing hair that will change the appearance of a person is not preferred unless there is a need for it like medical and such.

The only concern I have is that if you are a male and wanting to remove the hair in which it will cancel your appearance as a male then yes it will be not preferred at all. Other than that a person is free to remove his hair and it’s not Haram.


Salam, I really want an answer on this and if you can't answer it then please find someone who can. Okay so my grandpa has been saying he sees snakes in his room. He says he hears them hissing and he kills them and stuff. He calls us in the room we go and we take down his bed and look behind his dresser and stuff. We tell him there is no snakes and if there were they would have killed him. But he goes back and we hear him looking next to the wall and under the bed. It's tiring. I don't believe it's black magic. And like I think its happening because maybe he's close to death and perhaps he's seeing snakes because of something bad he has done. I heard of that one story of the snake and the grave, where every grave dug a black snake showed up for the deceased man or the dream of Malik Ibn Dinar when the black snake kept following him. But I am not sure. If you have questions about him please do ask so you can figure out why he is seeing snakes. Please help! He is a Muslim He married a non Muslim women- I don't think she converted but she might have before she died. His kids followed their mother being Catholic He has a problem with money, he at times only cares about money lives for money Since our father died when we came to America grandpa let us stay in his house and we have for 10+ years and we have been taking care of him. There were days where he would get mad and yell at us and eat by himself until he wanted then came back. My mother and us used to get really hurt but we stayed because he had took care of us. But at times it got out of control that my mother couldn't handle the pain she'd say to us pack up we're going to leave somewhere better then here but that was years ago. These years he has gotten better but he still at times gets mad and starts blaming us for stuff and all. He has a lot of money but says he doesn't have anymore and he wrote his will he passed the money to his kids and he didn't say we have anything but Allah only knows. Maybe he saved something for us. Well yeah please help.



Salam alaikum

People at old age might be in status of dementia and probably remembering things that were in the past and feel that they see it. If you have looked multiple times and did not find anything most likely it is that your grandpa is imagining things.

If it makes him feel better maybe you can read the Quran for him. Next to that we have a Hadith that you make du`aa’ for Allah to clear the house from snakes by an actual call three times to the snakes to leave houses.


I am a doctor living in United arab emirates, I have clinic and I treat people with insurances and without it, the question is in this country it is mandatory to have insurance in order to have visa even I and my kids aquire it. The law doesnt force clinic to have insurance which is strange because all most all citizens have insurance. All most 99% people have insurance and would use it if thier sick. If I do treat people without accepting insurance I would have no patient's at all because people cannot afford it as medical treatment is very expensive without insurance and will not survive. In this case is my income halal treating people with insurance.I m in uae a muslimcountry the health national health insurance is owned by the government of the country



Salam alaikum

Medical treatment is in the area of extreme necessity that if it takes to use insurance to provide it, it should be fine and ok. Here we are not making a Riba based contract Halal, but rather we are saying because of the importance of saving the human we allow an exemption of using such insurance. Now this matter must be conditioned with the unavailability of free health service or Islamic insurance.

Now I am not sure but maybe there could be an Islamic insurance service over there try to see if it does exist and if you can use it.


Now that the kids have grown up female friends and I would love to take some holidays together preferably to see the world. Is it wrong to do so in Islam?



Salam alaikum

For adult girls travelling together as two people alone is allowed with these conditions:

  1. That it is proven safe and no harm will affect them.
  2. That family has no issue about it and in favor of it.
  3. That you avoid any Haram places or practices during trip and maintain your Salat and practicing your Deen.

I was discussing with my Christian friend that crimes in this present world are more than that of those God wiped out, the friend replied me that it's because Jesus (pbuh) died for our sins, please i need understanding on this issue.



Salam alaikum

We believe that no one died for our sins and that everyone will be liable in front of God alone depending on his or her deeds.

God can wipe out people if He wishes but He the Almighty gives people a chance to repent and ask for forgiveness. So even with lots of crimes out there, we should always work hard to invite people to Islam and pray they practice good deeds insha Allah.


As salaamu alaikum. If a person has special needs, are they obliged to seek knowledge? If they are, how should they seek knowledge?



Salam alaikum

Seeking knowledge is something very honorable but it is obligated only in the basics of faith and Islam for people who are of special needs or not. Meaning if you believe in Shahadah and you know how to pray and fast… then you are all good.

The more you learn the more you will be rewarded insha Allah


Asalamualaikum ,My question is that I like a non Muslim girl and I want to marry her. She is ready to change her faith and become a Muslim. My concern is that if she is changing her faith just for me would it be convenient for me to marry her?



Salam alaikum

You being the reason for her to accept Islam is fine, meaning you can marry her. But she should be told by the Imam taking her shahadah that she has to mean it sincerely for Allah not for you.

Educate her about that and help her understand that faith should not be affected by social life.


Assalamoalaykom, my husband divorced me without the presence of family members, he uttered 3X I Talaq you he mentions my name inside of his car. But after that he talaq me he said to me that I trust him. He said in Islam is allowed the slave wife, because I love him, we do intimacy after talaq. But after I reading about slave wife is not applicable now in this era. The time was had a slave wife is time of kuraish. I am confused now! My question is he is still my husband, after he uttered to divorce me then he touched me. I hope those of you are given me a right answer, or do I make a sin because I agreed that after talaq we do intimacy? Jazak Allah khairan....



Salam alaikum

 

I lean to the view that if Talaq was said while you were in your menstrual period it does not apply at all regardless of how many times he said it. So when he said Talaq 3 times, if you were on your period or there was an intercourse before that in the past days, you are still his wife and divorce did not apply at all.

 

If you were clean and no intercourse took place before the past days then Talaq is valid but only one time not three times. He still has 2 more Talaq chances before total separation happens.

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In both cases you would be his current wife insha Allah and no need to practice something that does not apply to our time.


Aoa. After consulting many people .I got you as a hope after Allah. It's been 6 years to my marriage and I have two beautiful sons Mashallah. Me and my husband made a good couple. We were happy in our life. When two years ago he would try to avoid me. Our sex life deteriorated. I asked him but he would just smile. Sometimes I would feel pity on him. It had become very difficult for him to attain sexual satisfaction. And now for the past one and a half year we hadn't had sex at all. He now confesses that he is good when he is outside. he wants to come home soon and make love but as he enters house his feeling changes. He says he feels his body burning when he comes near to me, he is a doctor and very good man. He was really good at the beginning of our marriage. We both are young and want to have a good marital life, I am very depressed. Please help.



Salam alaikum

 

I see two issues, one has to do with mental wellness in feelings towards you and the second has to do with physical or medical issues.

 

In many cases, stressful life hardships affect men and it invades their mind in a way it distracts them from the ability to control their intimate needs and feelings. And if he came to his wife once and he did not perform well, his mind will start reminding him of his inability in a way he will be afraid it will not work again and he actually convinces himself with such!

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So intimacy becomes a personal challenge that scares him and he avoids it to avoid embarrassment. This has to be treated mentally by inviting methods of self-confidence and being fair with the self and taking it in steps gradually with some sexual proper education that can help a lot insha Allah.

 

The second one is to check his medical status as to make sure no illnesses are affecting his performance. And if it is the case, then the doctor will advise the best way to deal with this.

 


Salaam I got married in July 2016. Arrange marriage before marriage he was very excited about marriage and it was his decision to get married. No one convince him but after he got married he was rude and tuff to me. It was family wedding so we met only once before wedding. I stayed with him for 18 days after marriage then came back to Dubai as visa problem then he almost started ignoring me and now he came after 8 months to me still was not happy with me. I felt its only me who is trying. He doesn't like me. He is 50 years old and I am 30 years old. This is his 3rd wedding and mine second. He is matured but he is avoiding me always. He never calls me or financially support me that's not a problem I am working myself so I always call him. He has not taken any responsibility of mine he said he will do for my visa for England and we will live together but I feel he is delaying every time. Please tell me any wazifa by which Allah give him Hadayat and he starts loving me. I am really worried this time I really want our marriage to work, but he doesn't love me. If I want to talk to him he always says I am busy bye. I am very worried tell me what shall I do? I give charity. I pray 5 times and do du`aa' still it's the same.



Salam alaikum

I do not believe that there are any Wazifa as you called it that will make people love each other. Love is a feeling of attraction towards something seen as perfect or needed. Marriage comes in levels: the minimum has to do with liability in financial support and no abuse. Many marriages are surviving on that but of course it is not what Islam teaches that spouses should stop there. The maximum will include tranquility, love and mercy as Allah the Almighty described in the Qur’an.

My advice to you is that when he comes back to have a real talk with him as to what he plans for this relationship. If you are giving it all effort to make it work, ask him if he is willing to do the same. He must be clear of his intentions and step up to his manhood and take responsibility. If he needed just help as to guidance, seek local imam counseling but if he said he is not interested anymore in this relationship or marriage, start thinking really of the worst scenario God forbid and your plan for that.


AOA... I want to ask what are the limitations of sex in Islam, apart from having sex during menses and anal sex, is everything allowed such as sucking the private parts and in case of fear of impurity going in the mouth, is it OK to touch, kiss or lick penis with a condom, I am sorry to ask such question but i want Islamic rulings? And apart from it, I have another question: are sexual fantasies allowed in Islam? Such as thinking of some other men or woman during sex with ones wife or husband? (for example the man is thinking of another man and another woman during sex like film stars .... or vice versa or man thinking of another man and having sex with his wife ? I am really sorry to ask but I need Islamic rulings? I need clear answers.



Salam alaikum

 

As for oral sex from both genders toward each other, I believe it has to do with cleanliness and personal respect not being haram as a ruling. I do not see a text in the Shari`ah that directly prohibits it.

 

Some scholars used the verse in the Qur’an “and those who are guarding their private parts” as a base to prohibit it but I believe anything to be declared haram must have a Sahih and Sareeh text meaning an authentic like Qur’an verses all authentic or declared authentic Hadith and clear meaning not assumed.

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Having said that, if it is not prohibited in the Shari`ah, it still has to be considered in relation to cleanliness of the area not to be touched with any filthiness of urine and in relation to people’s personal respect as many women or men might not feel comfortable about it, so you cannot force your spouse to do it.

 

As for the fantasies issue, it really has to do with the dictionary of pictures in someone’s mind. If you are looking at things in movies that are haram or not appropriate you have already doomed yourself that you will always compare your spouse to that in movies and it is not fair.

 

Intimacy is something beautiful from spouses toward each other. So do not destroy it by inviting foreign figures even into your mind. Those figures in movies have their own social problems with their spouses and no one is perfect.

 

My advice, clear yourself from such scenes and pictures, look at your spouse in a totality personality not just physical and Allah will make you enjoy the halal to its peak insha Allah.


Assalamualaikum, I am in a very difficult situation please reply to my query. I used to like a boy who was very pious and prayed and used to fast, give charity, help others and pray tahajjud as well. We liked each other and many a times he helped me raise in my iman. He brought the proposal to my parents but my parents refused based solely on the cast system him being pathan and me being syed. I still liked him and we tried our best to please my parents and seek their approval but all in vain. I tried to talk to other elders of the family but they all believe in same caste system so no-one helped me. My parents used to beat me alot till my face used to swell. My brother used to physically molest me since many years. This physical beating and verbal abuse went on for one and half year. So one day when i feared for my life we went ahead and did nikah as per hanafifiqh. We had the qazi, and a muslim man (sane adult) at the nikah ceremony. We read our nikah and qazi and another muslim man heard offer and acceptance of the nikah. we declared the nikah infront of our family and friends. Marriage was consummated.Then my parents forcefully brought me back home by making false promises and then they started beating me and strangled me and threatened me to forget the boy or else they will kill both of us. They kept me in seclusion and i was not allowed to talk to anyone. Then after sometime they married me off by pressuring me , to another man who is also a good man but he doesn’t know anything about my past. My family threatened me not to tell. Now few years have passed and i am living with this another man. If i leave my parents will again beat me and harm me. And they emotionally blackmail me that they will lose their reputation if I leave second man. My first husband has never given me talaq or i have asked for khula. Please help me what should i do? I have kids also with second man what is the status of both marriges? I have always wondered what will Allah do with me but i still believe what he does is for good. My parents separated me from first man on bases of many lies like my nikah was not valid. please help me what should i do islamically



Salam alaikum

My advice to all our sisters and brothers is to be conscious of social and cultural practices in certain places that will affect the well-being of a person versus what could be a practice of Islam.

 

In many cases, introducing the proper Islamic practices against cultural ones need time and involvement from elderly and scholars. In your case, I wish you had thought of all that before initiating a relationship with a person that most likely you and him knew from the beginning it will go into a dead end.

 

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I do not like to give Fatwas in personal cases away from the practiced schools of Fiqh in the region you are living in. So my intake on that is this:

 

If your parents contacted a scholar and asked him about the status of the marriage you had before with that man and the marriage was declared void by the scholar according to his school of Fiqh that he practices, then you are Islamically fine as the scholar and the parents take liability in such decision.

 

Now you are married and this is the reality you are in. I ask you to give this current husband of your which you were blessed to have children with him a chance to live with you in an honorable life. Maybe Allah will bring good in such marriage you are in and it will be a better life for you and your kids. Your current husband deserves that from you. If you feel he is not the right person to you and you need divorce, make that decision without any relativity to your past issues.

 

Finally, I ask you to clear your mind from the past and focus on the present and the future ahead of you and enjoy life as it is meant to be with your husband and kids.


Asalamalekum I have a couple of questions 1) I have decorated my house and have put wall paper with patterns and pictures of places, people and animals. Is this ok to have pictures in the house? 2) Is wall art painted on walls permissible in the form of animals such as birds, cats, etc.?



Salam alaikum

 

1- Many scholars look at pictures in the direct reference mentioned in the Hadiths that if interpreted literally it will mean total prohibition. The Hadiths like when the prophet (peace be upon him) told Ali (May Allah be pleased with him): “do not leave a picture but destroy it” or the one that when the prophet (peace be upon him) came by `A’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) and saw some curtains with pictures on it he said: “people of these pictures would be punished on the Day of Judgment.”

 

I personally believe that the prophet (peace be upon him) was referring to the term pictures as entities that were worshiped along with God, and second to the fresh status of Muslims who used to worship pictures and now became Muslims.

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In that context, I see that prohibition was based on such reason. But now when Muslims have clear idea about pictures as just art work with no intention of worship, I do not see an issue in that at all.

 

In conclusion, if you wish not to put it to be just extra safe from any doubts, indeed it is better. But if you put pictures of people or animals with no divine or sacred assumption to them, then it should be fine.

 

2- The same answer to question #1 would be for this one two, meaning that I do not see any haram in wall art. If you decide to avoid it just for any doubts that it will always make you feel uncomfortable about it, then better not to do it.


Salam Alaikum, Recently I have come to find out that names that contain meaning that have to do with associating partners with Allah SWT are not permissible to have. My name contains the meaning of a flower and of a character in Greek mythology who is supposed to be the son of a god (astaghfirullah) and also the meaning of extreme self love and pride. Because of this I have always found my name repulsive and felt very uncomfortable having it. I wanted to change my name to either Hira or Noor. Is the name Noor allowed in Islam as it is also one of the names of Allah SWT (An Nur)? And in many cultures, last names come from the rank or class your family is in society, however only Allah SWT knows who is better by the level of iman in their heart. Is it permissible have a name that states ones rank? Jazakallah Khair



Salam alaikum

 

Islam reflects values and ethics in all its rulings and indeed names are one area in that. If you add that names are meant to describe things in reality and Muslim parents are to demonstrate the concept of us being servants to God then we understand the Hadiths of the prophet (peace be upon him) urging parents to name their kids like Abdulrahman or Abdullah, etc.

 

People do have the right to change their personal names and in this case I see that your original name does not make you feel comfortable, so it should be OK.

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Now names like Noor or Karim that might match one of the Names of Allah should be permissible because Allah called his prophet (peace be upon him) in the Quran Ra’uf and Raheem.

 

As to ranks, it really depends on the culture you live in and for that reason I ask you to consult the scholars of the region you live in to have a better understanding of what that name means legally and socially.


Salamu alaikum warahmatulaita'alawabarakatu. Sheik, I came across a verse in Suratul-Taubah, verse 80 and I don't really understand especially the part where Allah (swt) said He will never forgive even if you ask for forgiveness seventy times. Thank you.



Salam alaikum

This verse was in relation that Allah the Almighty was telling the Prophet (peace be upon him) not to make Istighfar for the hypocrites. Using the number 70 is an Arabic practice that refers to exaggeration in number not just 70. That means even if you make Istighfar for the hypocrites so many times 70 or more, God had already known their status of hypocrisy and will not forgive them.