Wednesday, Mar. 08, 2017 | 20:00 - 22:00 Makkah | 17:00 - 19:00 GMT
Session is over.
Wednesday, Mar. 08, 2017 | 20:00 - 22:00 Makkah | 17:00 - 19:00 GMT
Session is over.
I'm 33 years old mature unmarried lady? Is it not my right to seek my spouse, to go and meet anybody I wish or men who interested to marry?? Provided that it must be in open place and modest dressing.Similarly, can't I go to meet friend or for some beauty or medical treatment without father involvement? Do still at this age and being adult I need his permission? His controlling behavior irritates me because he interferes in matters so much and try to impose his beliefs and decisions. Though Islam gives woman right of freedom of belief, choice and movement! Regards
You have the right to find and choose your marriage partner. Your parents’ role in marriage is to help you make the right choice and not to coerce you. They can only object if you choose someone who is incompatible. And the compatibility is not based on wealth, status or caste; rather it relies on faith and character. The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “If someone of sound faith and character approaches for marriage agrees to it; otherwise, you are going to pave the way for corruption.”
The Qur’an also stipulates marriage as a contract based on mutual consent. That is why the Prophet (peace be upon him) taught in clear terms that there is no coercion with regard to marriage.
In conclusion: You are justified in finding a suitable marriage partner by using clean and open forums free of isolation, and un-Islamic dating practices prevalent in some societies. You don’t need to wait for your parents’ permission in doing so. However, once you have found one, you should try to get their blessing. If they just refuse for no reason other than ethnic or racial or material considerations, you have the right to get married even if they object to it.
You are also advised to refer to the following answer:
AssalamuAlaikum, I am married to a Christian lady, we have been married for 15 years. The union has produced 4 beautiful girls. The children are devout Muslims and follow me to mosque, while she practices her religion.My problem with her started when I discovered she had an extra marital affairs and we almost divorced, but had to reconcile because I really love her and I believe she loves me too, and we also took the children fate into consideration and since the discovery, she apologized and promise to stop.Despite this, she still keeps many male friends whom she claims are platonic, she socializes with them, mixes with them freely, goes to bear parlors and sits with them. She also chats with them on phone and on the Internet. This has caused a lot of anguish for me. And whenever I recall the previous experience about her extra marital affairs, I am always at pain, I am always full of fears, that she could easily go back to her old ways because of her life style. I fear that the way she is going, she can easily derail again. Her group of friends, environment and social background influence her way of life. I still love her very much despite all this, how do I solve this problem? How do I make her a better wife and a role model for my four young girls?
You were wrong in marrying a woman with such a background in the first place, especially if you have any knowledge of her past.
If you did not know, then, you are not to be blamed; however, you cannot continue in this relationship if she is persisting in her permissive lifestyle: going to parlors, hanging out with men, drinking, etc.
I feel sorry for you if you have no choice but leave her. As for your daughters, they will choose for themselves once they become adults. You ought to do your best to instill in them the love of God and moral and spiritual values of Islam not through preaching rather through examples and living a life based on them. Children learn what they practice or experience at home rather than what their parents preach.
Why do you have "Israel" on the country list but not PALESTINE? Why "Muslims"?! What is more necessary by the teaching of Islam? Spending most time studying the teachings of the religion or freeing AlAqsa mosque our first qiblah? It's fard ayn now with the present condition isn't it?
It is the duty of Palestinians to get united and work to free themselves from occupations; they have a right to do so by using all legitimate means.
It is also the duty of other Muslim countries to help them in their struggle for freedom from occupation. However, Muslim countries have been remiss in unifying their ranks on such crucial issues. I am sure they are accountable before Allah for their silence or even collusion with the occupiers.
As for individual Muslims living as minorities, their duties are limited to providing them moral support and align themselves with those who are against the occupation and expansionist agenda of Israel; there is no shortage of such people who support Palestinians in their legitimate struggle.
Assalam-u-alaikum.... I don't know why I have negative thoughts that women do not have equal rights in Islam. As all women have to leave their everything for husband but whenever they ask for something.... men always have to point that they are not answerable for their wives to Allah as they are not answerable to their wives in front of Allah because they are obeying their parents. The second point that makes me confused is that men will have horrain in Jannah... on the other hand women even will not have their husbands loyalty as they will have their horrain. Is it true that Allah will announce nikkah of Muslim men with horrain I have these questions because my husband is doing business with his father and he doesn't even have one holiday in a week. Whenever I asked him to get off on Sunday he refused. I told him that he is answerable for this so he said I am not answerable to you because I am obeying my father. So I don't have any right to ask a day off for me in a week?
You are mistaken in faulting Islam for your alleged behavior of your husband. If he is guilty of such actions, then he is certainly to be blamed. And you are wholly mistaken in blaming Islam for it. Islam is all about fairness and compassion.
Islam has raised the status of woman way before all other great religions. Islam taught from the very beginning that men and women are created from a single soul at a time when they were debating whether women have souls or not. It was in such a milieu that Islam arose raising the status of women as equal partners of men; Allah states:
“I shall not lose sight of the labour of any of you who labours [in My way], be it man or woman: each of you is an issue of the other.” (Aal `Imran 3:195). And it spells out the equality in the following verse:
“ VERILY, for all men and women who have surrendered themselves unto God, and all believing men and believing women, and all truly devout men and truly devout women, and all men and women who are true to their word, and all men and women who are patient in adversity, and all men and women who humble themselves [before God], and all men and women who give in charity, and all self-denying men and self-denying women, and all men and women who are mindful of their chastity, and all men and women who remember God unceasingly: for [all of] them has God readied forgiveness of sins and a mighty reward. (Al-Ahzab 33:35).
I would challenge anyone to pull out a verse similar from any of the world’s scriptures. The verse articulates in no uncertain terms the equality of men and women.
At the same time, Islam also takes into account the different roles of men and women. Women’s role as mothers raises them even to a higher status in Islam: that is why the Prophet said, “Paradise lies at the feet of mothers.”
As for treatment of wives, Allah orders men to treat them most honorably with the utmost kindness. That is why the Prophet declared: “The best of you is the one who is the kindest to his wife or spouse.” In other words, a man’s character in the sight of Allah is judged not by his ritual life rather by his character, which in turn is determined by how he treats his wife.
As his wife, you have every right to have free time with your husband. If he is a conscientious Muslim he should look at the Prophet as his exemplar: we learn from the Prophet’s wives that he would spend time with them regularly no matter how busy he was with his duties as a ruler, teacher, preacher, and spiritual leader. He cannot claim to be busier than the Prophet (peace be upon him).
In light of these, your husband’s behavior cannot be justified in Islam, and it behooves him to change.
Assalamualaikum! I need comprehensive explanation about qasr (short raka'ats on a traveller) jazakallah
While traveling you should pray Qasr. Qasr means shortening. It applies only to prayers with four rak`ahs: Zhuhr, `Asr and `Isha’. Shortening them means to pray two rak`ahs instead of four.
After having done so, you don’t need to perform the regular Sunnahs except Witr. One should not skip Witr. It should be prayed as three rak`ahs or a minimum of one rak`ah.
I pray to Allah to inspire us all to be diligent in performing Prayer.
For further details, you may refer to my answer linked here:
Is it permissible to listen to music in Islam even if the lyrics are clean? Is it permissible to listen to songs that use instruments?
In answering this question, I cannot do any better than citing below one of my earlier answers here:
Music is an issue that has been hotly debated by scholars of the past and the present. While many of them have been generally inclined to condemn all forms of music – with the singular exception of al-dduff (tambourine) in weddings -, quite a few of them have taken a more positive approach of considering only music containing sensual, pagan, or unethical themes or subliminal messages as being categorically forbidden.
The latter view seems to be more consistent with the general nature of Islam, which is undoubtedly a complete way of life that caters to all of the genuine human instincts and needs within permissible limits. Thus to say that all music is forbidden in Islam does not seem to agree with the balanced approach of Islam to issues of human life and experience.
Traditions often cited by the first group scholars to justify condemnation of all musical instruments and music, according to some scholars, are considered as either spurious, or phrased in such way solely because of their associations with drinking, dancing, and sensuality.
While everyone agrees that all forms of music that contain pagan, sensual themes, or subliminal messages are clearly forbidden, the latter group of scholars considers all forms of music free of such themes and messages as permissible.
As a matter of fact, we know from the authentic traditions that the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, not only allowed music in the weddings but also listened to girls singing: While listening to girls singing on such an occasion, he interrupted them only once when they sang the following verse, “In our midst is a prophet who knows what will happen tomorrow”; whence, the Prophet, peace be upon him, told them, “Cut this sentence out, and continue singing what you had been singing earlier.”
There is nothing in the sources to indicate that the above permission is limited to the occasion of wedding, as some people tend to think.
In light of these, according to the last mentioned group of scholars, music that is deemed to be free of un-Islamic and unethical themes and messages – the same is true of musical instruments so long as they are not used for the above – have been considered as permissible.
A final word: Islam clearly prohibits mixed dancing of males and females.
As far as learning music is concerned, it is permissible only if the person is doing so by strictly complying with the Islamic teachings and guidelines. Such guidelines prohibit all forms of music that use themes or messages forbidden in Islam. So long as a person chant these themes entirely and limit himself to noble messages and ideas, it may be considered permissible so long as his intention is to give a means of comfort and soothing of the soul or creating a lawful way of entertainment. The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said: “Once in a while create outlets for your hearts.” In other words, we should not make music an obsession distracting us from the remembrance of Allah and carrying our religious duties.”
You may also access the answer posted here as well: