Thursday, Feb. 16, 2017 | 20:00 - 22:00 Makkah | 17:00 - 19:00 GMT
Session is over.
Thursday, Feb. 16, 2017 | 20:00 - 22:00 Makkah | 17:00 - 19:00 GMT
Session is over.
i am in a relationship with a divorcee lady. she has a daughter from her ex husband. i want to get married with her . she is a very good person . she has brought me close to Allah because before meeting her i was not practicing salah and now i am just because of her.. now as i want this relationship with her for lifetime i have two issues one issue is that my parents will not agree (according to me) for a few years. and 2nd thing is she had lots of problems with her parents after divorce and they threw her out of their house last week. as ihv promised her i will marry her. she is coming here where i am living right now ( away from my parents also) . i have told her that she can come but iwont stay with her before nikah. if i will tell my parents they will not allow me for this bczi am not a divorcee and she is 4 years older than me . should i make nikah with her without informing my parents and after nikahi will inform them?? will my nikah be Halal if it is without taking permission from parents? please answer
As you should know in Islam, we are not allowed to keep an illicit relationship. There is no concept of boyfriend and girlfriend in Islam.
So, if you have been guilty of such a sin, I would advise you to seek repentance.
Once both of you have done so, you may marry; it is good for you to get the blessings of your parents; if they are just refusing based on materialistic considerations, you are allowed to go ahead and marry her.
If you do so, you still need to continue to keep good relations with your parents and honor and serve them as best as you can.
A friend of mine is asking that her daughter and her husband are both 25 and her husband has a 22 year old unmarried brother. At times he comes to stay at their apartment and sleeps there sometimes for a week at a time despite him having his own flat in the same building one floor down. Also at times they go to a summer flat and the brother stays with them although again he has another flat about 15 min away. Is it appropriate in Islam that three young adults in their 20's sleep under the same roof although as mentioned above there are other accommodations? Also what can the wife do if the husband insists they stay together under one roof during the visits since her father believes it is haram as has been warned by the prophet PBUH and refuses to speak to her for continuing to share accommodation at times despite there are alternatives for the brother. The daughter is torn between pleasing her husband and defying her father who states he will cut his ties with her if she continues to do what he believes is haram.
Your husband is wrong in insisting that his brother who is an unmarried adult stays with you in the same apartment on a regular basis. The Prophet (peace be upon him) warned us against such actions: He said, “In-laws are death!” (Al-Bukhari).
In other words, even as isolation involving two strangers is a grave sin, exposing ourselves to isolation with in-laws is far worse; it could be as severe as death!
The Prophet (peace be upon him) also told us to stay away from the doubtful for it may inadvertently lead to that which is clearly haram; it is like cattle allowed to graze near the protected territory; by doing so, it may end up trespassing and grazing there!
Therefore, he stated: “Whoever stays clear of the doubtful will guard his honor and religion.” (Muslim) But as for those who do practice what is doubtful may end up hurting their honor and religion!
You, therefore, have the right to insist that the brother discontinues this practice.
If he does not, you have the right to part ways as he is playing with fire.
AsalamuAlaykum. So, I've been trying to study Waswasa and Shaytaan's methods and I've recently discovered something called 'An-nafs'. An-Nafs is people's lust and desires from what I've learned. Recently, I've been getting extremely distracted in salaah with bad thoughts and ideas and it kind of disturbs me. I try to focus on what I'm saying in salaah but then when i finish, i find myself going on youtube and wasting time, watching weird videos instead of doing dhikr, homework, or other productive things. I've found that the state of my heart isn't as it was before! This makes me feel kind of hopeless and I think Allah will forgive me but then I feel like I'm going a little easy on myself so I just stop. On top of that, I'm getting thoughts that challenge my faith and it makes me want to go back now and I wish I had never distracted myself if I knew this would be the outcome. My questions are, how can i be CONSTANTLY productive in my time and thankful, and if I ever fall into this again (I'm trying to avoid to) what do I do?
In answering your question, I cannot do any better than citing here one of my earlier answers to a similar question:
“Since you have been addicted to an extremely pernicious habit that destroys your spiritual soul and thus leading to self-destruction, you must urgently summon your will power and take all the necessary steps that you can muster in order to wean yourself of it immediately.
In order to empower yourself to achieve this, you should seek beneficial counselling and therapy preferably from those professionals in the field who are conscientious Muslims; if such Muslim professionals are not available from those who are ethically and morally conscious. It is important for you to wean yourself of these pernicious habits; the consequences of persisting in them are simply unthinkable; they would undoubtedly corrode your spiritual soul and cause your spiritual death.
Sins by their very nature are addictive, for it is in the very nature of carnal soul to seek pleasure in sins. As Busiri has rightly said, “Carnal soul is a like a baby; if you neglect him, he will grow up clinging on to the breast-milk for ever, but if you wean him off, he will be weaned off.” I suggest a few tips which you can use to empower yourself:
1) Visualize and meditate on the ugliness of this heinous sin and conjure up images of hell fire as painted in the Qur’an and the Sunnah as many times as possible until such time that whenever you are tempted to visit such sites or view such scenes will be constantly playing in the screen of your mind; thus even as you have associated this addiction with pleasure you will come to associate it with pure pain and suffering.
2) Convince yourself—by taking all measures such as listing all the negative things about such habits, and listing the verses and traditions about the gravity of sins—of the urgency of removing this malignant cancer from your life; remember it is far more serious than cancer attacking your body since your soul survives you even after your physical body has disintegrated in the earth.
3) Imagine how terrible a loss you will be facing were you to die while being addicted to this most heinous sin?
4) Seek strength from Allah by crying to Him for succour; but you can never seek the help of Allah unless you seek to establish connection with Him through regular Prayers; so never be slack in Your Prayers.
5) Schedule your time in such a way that you are never left with any time to think of such matters; Imam Shafi said: “If you don’t occupy your mind with good works, your carnal soul will make you busy in bad deeds!”
6) Surround yourself with spiritual and Islamic influences and virtually immerse yourself in them.
7) Always hang around with good Muslims who are busy doing good works; join a halaqah where spiritual training is imparted together with study of Islam.
8) Make your mind and tongue busy with dhikr Allah; say the following words and others frequently:
SubhaanaAllaah; al-hamdu li Allah; laailaahaillaAllaah, Allaahuakbar;
walaahawlawalaaquwwataillaa bi Allaah; astaghfirAllaaha al-azeem min kullidhanbinwaatoobuilaahi
(Glory be to Allah; praise be to Allah; there is no god but Allah, Allah is Great; there is no power or strength except by the will of Allah; I ask forgiveness of Allah from all my sins and repent to Him.)
9) Once you have been weaned of these pernicious habits, you should seriously consider marriage; marriage is the protection against temptations.
I pray that the Beneficent Lord of Mercy save us all from the evil inclinations of our souls and make us hate disbelief, transgressions, and sins; and may He endear to our hearts faith and good works-Ameen.”
Sir I want to ask if I can pray Salah anytime and as much as I like. I mean can I pray Nafl between Fajr and Zhuhr, Zhuhr and Asr, etc. and what does the Hadith mean where Allah says..when one prays Nawafil, I become his sight, legs etc.
You may offer supererogatory (or voluntary) prayers any time except three times when prayers are forbidden: These times are: When the sun is rising; when the sun is at the meridian until it declines and when the sun is setting. We are to avoid Prayer at these times to distinguish ourselves from pagans who worship the sun.
Therefore, you are allowed to offer Nawafil (optional prayers) all other times. However, you should never limit the voluntary acts of virtue to prayers; rather, they include all acts of charity and kindness and service to humanity or God’s creation.
The hadith you have alluded to is a sacred tradition; it is a narration of the Prophet from Allah. It teaches us how to attain the stage of Ihsan or excellence in worship. When we reach such a stage, we stand to gain tremendous spiritual benefits. Thanks to this, he thinks, speaks and acts only to please Allah as he has merged his will with the will of Allah. Hence he always enjoys the grace, mercy, protection and tranquility – as a divine gift.
I pray to Allah to inspire us to attain excellence in faith.
I never liked being a woman. We get too emotional, we care about our appearance too much, and compare to men they have it much easier. Suppose if Allah allow me to change gender in Jannah? I wonder how it is like to be a man, to care about cars and protein and muscles. Will Allah allow me to switch back and forth?
Jannah and its precise nature belong to the realm of ghayb (Unseen); as such, it is beyond our ordinary means of cognition and reasoning.
Therefore, we are not allowed to speculate about its precise nature and details. It is not different from a baby in the womb speculating about the nature of life outside; we do not have the faculties to perceive the realities beyond senses.
Therefore, we believe what is given us in revelation leaving the precise details to Allah; its true nature will be revealed to us when we pass away from this material phase of our existence. The Prophet said, “In paradise there awaits us such bliss the like of which no eyes have seen, no ears have heard, and no mind could ever conceive or imagine.”
Furthermore, Islam also teaches us that we ought to accept the will of Allah. It is Allah who chose your gender even as He is the one who chose your parents, your place, and date of birth, etc. He is All-Wise and All-Knowing.
So, as a Muslimah, you ought to accept Allah’s choice for you, and thank Him. As for what some women may do which might not be very rational or unmannerly, that is their business; you should leave them alone while trying your best to purge your heart of such traits of character. Remember each person is responsible for himself or herself.
As'salamuAlykum, A scholar living in Toronto, said the following in one of his videos on Youtube. -When Adam(AS) repentted and Allah SWT accepted his repentance. He prayed 2 Rakah of Shukr and it was the time of Fajr and that is how the Salatul Fajr became mandatory for Muslims. -When Ibraheem (AS) prayed for a son and Allah SWT gave him Ishaq (AS) he prayed 4 Rakah of Shukr and it was the time of Zhhur and that is how Salatul Zhuhr became mandatory for Muslims He said the same for Asr, Maghrib and Isha and connect to other prophets that Allah accepted their Duas and they prayed 4, 3 and 4 rakahs of shukr consecutively. Is this true? If it's not, please inform him not to mislead people. He also said in another video that prophet (pbuh) did not die and he is still alive and the proof he presents is that there was no Salatul Janazah performed for him. Please clarify.Jazak Allah
I don’t know his sources on the above statements on the institution of the five daily prayers in Islam. There is nothing in the authentic sources of Islam to warrant them; as such, they are purely subjective, if not hallucinations.
Imam Malik has cautioned us against relying on spurious and dubious narrations. In other words, it is important for us to rely on well- established precedents and teachings in regards to ritual matters. The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “I have left you on a highway broad and definite; whoever leaves it and takes to side streets, will only perish.”
As stated by Imam Ibn al-Mubarak and others, ‘Isnad is integral to religion; otherwise, everyone would end up making up his or her religion.”
In other words, to attribute something to religion without evidence from the sources is a grave sin. Imam Ibn al-Qayyim considers it as akin to associating partners with Allah.
As for the alleged statement that the Prophet did not die, it is even more heretical; it is at once repugnant to reason, revelation and Muslim consensus: Allah says: “The fact is you are going to die, and they too are going to die. Then you will, on the day of resurrection, debate in the presence of your Lord.” (Az-Zumar 39: 30-31)
And the Qur’an reiterates the fact that the Prophet like all other prophets before him is a mortal and that no human being has been destined to live eternally in the material world: “But we never granted immortality to any human before you; so if you die, will others then be immortals?” (Al-Anbiya’ 21:34)
As we learn from the sources, when the Prophet (peace be upon him) passed away, some of the eminent companions like `Umar denied the fact. And it was Abu Bakr who after ascertaining the fact of his death, addressed the congregation saying: “Whoever has been worshipping Muhammad let him know that Muhammad is dead; but whoever has been worshipping Allah, let him know that Allah is Ever-Living and will never die.” He then recited the following verse: “AND MUHAMMAD is only an apostle; all the [other] apostles have passed away before him: if, then, he dies or is slain, will you turn about on your heels? But he that turns about on his heels can in no wise harm God – whereas God will requite all who are grateful [to Him].” (Aal `Imran 3:144)
And the Prophet’s death and funeral are also well documented in the sources. The companions prayed his Janazah individually: As Imam Shafi`i states: “Each one of them did pray individually without any imam. The reason because of the high status of the Prophet (peace be upon him) they wanted to preempt any feeling of competition or rivalry…”
It is the narrative accepted by Muslims. If anyone says otherwise, he is simply hallucinating and making up things. That is why our eminent scholars warned us against getting carried away by unsubstantiated stories based on hearsay and wishful thinking.