Thursday, Feb. 16, 2017 | 20:00 - 22:00 Makkah | 17:00 - 19:00 GMT
Session is over.
Thursday, Feb. 16, 2017 | 20:00 - 22:00 Makkah | 17:00 - 19:00 GMT
Session is over.
I got married with my paternal cousin and in return his sister got married with my brother. On Islamqa website it says that this type of marriage is called Shighar marriage and it is forbidden in Islam. I am married for more than four years and all these time I am living in stress, anxiety and confusion as I feel my nikah is invalid and I should redo the nikah so my husband and I become permissible for each other. I believe my nikah is invalid and I should do a new nikah for two reasons; First, I was engaged with my cousin (who is my husband now) without my consent and I was not happy with this decision but my parents considered it the best decision for us, my brother and the whole family were happy with this decision. And after two and a half years of our engagement, I did my Nikah. Secondly, I read on Islamqa website that this type of marriage is regarded as Shighar marriage and is forbidden in Islam. Even there are different opinions on this type of marriage as some say the nikah is valid and other say the nikah is not valid, but since I read on this website,I believe in my heart that my nikah is invalid and that I should redo the nikah. Note, at the time of my engagement I wasn’t aware that this type of marriage is forbidden in Islam, but just before my Nikah I read on Islamqa website and became aware that this type of marriage is forbidden in islam. Although I was a bit confused because there are different opinions on the validity of this type of marriage, as some Scholors/madhabs say it’s forbidden and other regard it permissible. But I believed in my heart that it’s forbidden after reading it on Islamqa website and still I did my Nikah. Also, I had fear that how my family will react if I tell them that the type of marriage we were doing is forbidden in Islam by some scholars and that they will not accept it because it’s common in our society and no one says this type of marriage is haram. After my nikah I never feel at peace, I always get confused and worried as whether my nikah is valid or not, I asked several times and different people about shighar marriage, some of them said if meher is given then the Nikah becomes valid and is not considerd Shighar marriage, however another said the Nikah is forbidden but if it’s done in ignorant or you were not aware that it’s haram prior to the nikah ,then the nikah is valid and I don’t need to do a new Nikah but the rest of the family should be inform to stay away from this nikah in the future. But before my nikah ,only I knew that this nikah is haram through the Islamqa website. I read also that even if consent, Maher and all the requirements of nikah is done still nikahshighar is forbidden in islam.I told my husband that I want to do a new Nikah, he is not happy and does not agree with my decision. He says it’s all in my head and that our Nikah is valid, we don’t need to do a new nikah and what people will say. I told him I will never feel happy and at peace and our relationship will suffer if we don’t do a new nikah, now he accepted my decision. I am afraid if my father don’t agree with a new nikah , How can I convince him. Both me and my husband have little knowledge about Islam.My intention now is only to do new nikah so we can become persmisble for each other. I don’t want to go against the teaching of Islam. I want to accept my husband the way he is and to live in halal relationship. We don’t have children yet and I am always thinking and stressing over the nikah issue.What I understood from Islamqa response is that my Nikah is valid because Maher is given and other requirements of the Nikah were met. But I feel confused about the consent as without consent the nikah becomes invalid. In our community many parents don’t ask children their consent and most of the time that I know their children are happy with their parents decisions and in their marriage. But I wasn’t happy when I got engaged, and when I did my nikah I don’t remember now how I felt, whether I sincerely accepted it or felt I don’t have a choice. I decided to do a new nikah. What is your advice, should I do a new Nikkh and if yes how should we do it?. For a new nikah,do I need new maher, new witnesses, or can witnesses be the same? Do we need to document it or verbal is nikah enough. Do we need to redo the nikah privately or we need to announce it, my husband agree to redo the nikah but wants to do it privately Should my brother do a new nikahtoo.I know many relatives who are engaged and are going to do this marriage, how to inform them.
I don’t see any reason for you to be confused over this issue. Shari`ah condemned Nikah al-shighaar because it resulted in injustice for the women involved: This is the case when each marriage is entirely dependent on the other in such a way when the mahr of one is the marriage of the other.
As I can I understand from your question that was not the case with you. The only fault was they did not consult you. However, since you were an adult and you never objected to it, there is no reason to question the validity of the marriage.
I would advise you not to pick and choose fatwas.
To make decisions in critical cases such marriage and divorce would be like someone acting as a jury, judge and executioner at the same time.
While stating this, I assume that a recognized Marriage Officer or imam solemnized the marriage in conformity with the laws of the land you reside.
So, don’t confuse yourself by random readings of such issues.
Is it obligatory for women to attend prayer including salat ul Jumu'a at mosques?
It is not obligatory on women to attend daily prayers in the mosque or be regular in Jumu`ah. The reasons are clear: women’s duties as mothers, nurturers, and caregivers are far more important and have greater priority as it affects the future of the family and community. Therefore they are relieved of such obligations.
Having said this, I must also point out that the above should not be taken to prevent women from praying in the mosque or attending Jumu`ah; in fact, they have been doing that since the time of the Prophet. We know that the wives of the Prophet as well as other women companions were wont of praying in the mosques unless prevented from doing because of exceptional circumstances.
I have been studying Eckhart Tolle and some concepts of Buddhism in the past months and I have some questions to clear things up.How is man's mind defined in Islam? Are thoughts coming from the brain or the soul? Is consciousness the same thing as thoughts or are those separate things? How does the mind and the thoughts relate to the ego, the nafs?Do we in Islam believe in the concept of "mindfulness"? If yes, how to reach this state?I heard of a saying in which Ali ibn abi Talib, RadiAllahu anhu, said, that he could control his thoughts. Is this saying correct and if yes, how can one reach this state?
Your question is not an easy one. All that we can state with certainty is what we learn from the Qur’an:
Man in Islam consists of body, mind and soul. Even as our physical muscles can be nurtured and strengthened, likewise, our mental and spiritual muscles can also be strengthened through appropriate works or exercises befitting each.
Just as the outer world of senses is complex and diverse, the inner world of spirit and consciousness is also complex and diverse, if not more. The Qur’an teaches us that the soul is what makes us human; it is also referred to as nafs, although both words have various dimensions and propensities.
Human beings have been endowed with souls; they have innate inclinations towards good and inclination towards bad. And those who foster the good will succeed and those who foster evil will perish.
The soul in man is from the breath of the Divine; as such, it is immaterial.
On deeper reflection of the Qur’an, spiritual masters of Islam have told us that even as the material world has its traps, snares and dangers and it takes practice to navigate and explore the world of senses, the mysteries of the spiritual world are even more complex; so to navigate this world without the light of revelation and authentic spiritual manual will expose us to dangers. Devils are waiting at every turn to deceive us in the spiritual world. Therefore, those who seek to explore this world independently of the guidance of revelation are at best projecting their own subjective experiences as truths or representations of realities; or stated differently, they are projecting their own ego and devilish whisperings as authentic spiritual experiences.
Ekhart Tolle is a practitioner of the so called New Age Spirituality; for sure he has drawn on the spiritual insights of various religious traditions; however, one cannot rely on them.
If you wish to acquaint yourself with the Islamic perspectives on the mysteries of the soul, you should study the works of Imam Ghazali; his masterpiece Ihya is an encyclopedia of Islamic ethics and spirituality. If you don’t have the patience to engage in a deep study, you should at least consult his book translated in English as The Marvels of the Heart. It has been translated and published in England with an excellent introduction by T.J. Winter who is a scholar of Islam from Britain. Here is the link to it:
Eckhart Tolle is not an authority or spiritual matters; he is rather more like a proponent of New Age Spirituality. Since it is not based on revealed Law and spiritual method, one can only read such works with extreme caution. For sure, he has drawn from insights from the spiritual wisdom of various religious traditions; however one cannot treat his explorations into soul, spirit and consciousness as though they were authentic. At best they are his subjective experiences.
One may follow scientific methods of practicing mindfulness. While engaging in these exercises a Muslim should chant the names of God or dhikr instead of using dubious expressions and phrases derived from the pagan traditions.
Muslims throughout centuries have developed spiritual mindfulness through diligent practice of dhikr. There is no need to make it complicated; once we condition ourselves to focus on dhikr and trust in Allah and seek His help, He will take care of the rest for us. Allah says: “Lo! It is only through celebration of the Remembrance (of God) that hearts can rest in peace (or stated differently) attain a tranquil state.” (Ar-Ra`d 13:28)
I am so thankful to Allah for bringing me to His Path ; I am so grateful for His Blessings.I have been in a relationship for over 17yrs unmarried (I reverted to Islam in 2012) and as I continued reading the Quran I realized the importance of marriage. The man I'm living with is a non-muslim and since I reverted there has been rarely any peace.I have and continue to seek Allah's help and have had increasing thoughts of leaving but don't know if I am right to leave after all the good that the man I'm with has done for me ( it hurts him to know that we may not be together) And, I've been out of work due to back injury and will not be able to return although I am able to work in a different environment. So thoughts of whether I will find another job comes across my mind also- knowing that I'll be on my own. But on the other hand, I am feeling a strong urge to leave because I don't want continue being unhappy.I have told him that I don't want intercourse because we're not married. (It's been almost a year) I really am so sorry that I didn't take heed to what my parents told me when I was younger about having an intimate relationship without marriage.Please advise.
Let me first commend you for choosing to revert to Islam. I pray to Allah to help you remain steadfast and bless you in your efforts to do so.
Now that Allah has guided you to the straight path and opened your hearts to follow the truth, it is advisable that you stop living with the man without marriage. If he chooses to believe in God and His revelations, then you may marry him and continue living with him.
Otherwise, it is clearly wrong. I pray to Allah to inspire you to make the right decision.
I know such a decision can be hard on you. However, you may do well to recognize the fact that God is in charge of all the affairs of the universe including your life and mine. He reminds us in the Qur’an that God always open doors for us when we choose to turn to Him: “Whoever is mindful of God, He will provide for him (or her) a way out of troubles.” (At-Talaq 65: 2); and “Whoever is conscious of God, He will provide him (or her) comfort and ease in all of their concerns.” (At-Talaq 65:4).
I pray to Allah to shower you with His mercy and grace.
A Muslim who was praying behind the imam did not make intention to follow the imam, but he made intention to pray the current fard. Is this prayer valid?
As long as he makes the Niyyah to pray the current Fard, the prayer is valid. While praying behind the imam, there is no need to specify that he is doing so, although it is desirable to do so.
There is nothing in the sources clearly stipulating such a condition. Therefore, the original principle of latitude and flexibility applies here.
Is Shahada said by a mentally ill person (Schizophreniac) considered as valid? And also, if a person uttered it without knowing all its conditions? A person did it, but did not practice Islam. Should he compensate for all missed fasts and prayers since that time?
It all depends on his ability to make judgments. If he can decide for himself and is able to take care of himself then he is considered sober and in possession of his senses; as such, his testimony is valid.
The fact that he did not know all of the requirements and conditions does not absolve him from his essential duties. So, if he has been neglectful in the past, he should make up.
If he is unable to make up for all of them, he should ask forgiveness and compensate for them by doing whatever optional acts of charity that he is able to perform; he should also make a firm resolution never to neglect his essential duties again