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Is Looking at the Opposite Gender Haram?

26 December, 2023
Q As-Salamu `alaykum! I hope you could shed light on the issue of looking with desire at the opposite sex. Jazakum Allah khyran.

Answer

In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.

All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.


In this fatwa:

What Islam prohibits in the sphere of sex includes looking at a member of the opposite sex with desire. This is because the eye is the key to the feelings, and the look is a messenger of desire, carrying the message of fornication or adultery.


 Looking at Opposite sex with Desire

What Islam prohibits in the sphere of sex includes looking at a member of the opposite sex with desire. This is because the eye is the key to the feelings, and the look is a messenger of desire, carrying the message of fornication or adultery.

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This is why Allah Almighty has commanded the believing men and the believing women alike to lower their gazes together with His command to guard their sexual parts:

“Tell the believing men that they should lower their gazes and guard their sexual organs; that is purer for them. Indeed, Allah is well-acquainted with what they do. And tell the believing women that they should lower their gazes and guard their sexual organs, and not display their adornment, except that which is apparent of it; and that they should draw their head-coverings over their bosoms, and not display their adornment except to their husbands or their fathers or their husbands’ fathers, or their sons or their husbands’ sons, or their brothers or their brothers’ sons or their sisters’ sons, or their women, or those whom their right hands possess, or male servants who lack sexual desire, or children who are not aware of women’s nakedness; and that they should not strike their feet in order to make known what they hide of their adornment.” (An-Nur 24:30-31)

Several Divine Injunctions to men and women

These two verses contain several divine injunctions. Two of them pertain to both men and women, namely, the lowering of the gaze and the guarding of the sexual organs, while the rest are addressed exclusively to women.

We have to distinguish between the expressions, ‘lower their gazes‘ and ‘guard their sexual organs’. While the sexual organs must be totally guarded without any leeway, the lowering of the gaze is only partial. This is because necessity and the general interest of the people require that some looking at members of the opposite sex be allowed.

Lowering the gazes‘ does not mean that in the presence of the opposite sex the eyes should be shut or that the head should be bowed toward the ground, since this would be impossible. In another place, the Quran says, ‘Lower your voice’ (Luqman 31:19), which does not mean sealing the lips.

Here, ‘lowering of the gazes‘ means to avert one’s gaze from the faces of the passers-by and not to caress the attractive features of the members of the opposite sex with one’s eyes.

Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) told Ali ibn Abi Talib, Ali, do not let a second look follow the first. The first look is allowed to you but not the second.’ (Ahmad, Abu Dawud, and At-Tirmidhi)

Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) considered hungry and lustful looks at a person of the opposite sex as ‘the zina (adultery or fornication) of the eye,’. He said: ‘The eyes also commit zina, and their zina is the lustful look.” (Al-Bukhari)

He termed the lustful look zina because it gives sexual pleasure and gratification in an unlawful way. This is also what Prophet Jesus (peace be upon him) is reported to have said in the Gospel of Matthew: You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery’. But I say to you that everyone who so much as looks at woman with evil desire for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart. (Matt. 5:2728)

Indeed, such hungry and lustful looks are not merely a danger to chastity but they also result in agitation of the mind and disturbed thoughts.

Allah Almighty knows best.

Editor’s note: This fatwa is from Ask the Scholar’s archive and was originally published at an earlier date.