Delaying Hajj Because of Family Problems: Permissible?
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Delaying Hajj Because of Family Problems: Permissible?

Questioner

Himdan

Reply Date

Jul 16, 2018

Question

As-Salamu alaykum. I am speaking on behalf of my brother. He is planning to do Hajj this year, but for the following reason he is confused about whether he should do so. Unfortunately he is on bad terms with his wife and they are not living together. He is living with his parents and she is living alone with their son. Since his marital problems remain unresolved-i.e. he has not divorced her and neither are they living happily together, he is unsure whether it is right for him to leave his problems unresolved and do Hajj. Could you please give some advice on the matter.

Mufti

Answer


Delaying Hajj Because of Family Problems

Wa `alaykum As-Salamu waRahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.

In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful. 

All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.


In this fatwa:

When a Muslim is able to do Hajj, he should hasten to do it, and it is not permissible for him to delay it for no reason, because the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: “Hasten to do Hajj – i.e., the obligatory Hajj – for none of you knows what will happen to him.” (Ahmad) The Prophet also said: “Whoever wants to do Hajj, let him hasten to do so.” (Abu Dawud)


With regard to your question, Sheikh Muhammad Salih Al-Munajjid, a prominent Saudi scholar, states:

What you have mentioned about your brother’s problems is not a reason for delaying Hajj, because Hajj will not prevent him from dealing with this problem, since it is within his power to try to solve this problem and finish with it before he goes for Hajj.

His Hajj may be the means of his problem being solved, because of the help from Allah it may bring and the blessing of Hajj and obedience to Allah. It may be that he will make duaa during his Hajj with regard to this matter, and Allah will answer and relieve him of this distress.

Moreover, our advice to your brother is that he should not hasten to divorce his wife, rather he should take his time and not rush into anything. For divorce is something that Allah dislikes.

If the problem between him and his wife is because of negligence on her part regarding one of the duties towards Allah, such as if she neglects to pray or is not chaste, etc, then he has to warn her and remind her about Allah, and call her to Allah, and try to guide her to obey Allah. If she persists in not responding to him, then in that case there is nothing to be gained by keeping her.

But if the problem between them is of the common type of problems between spouses, and has to do with differences of opinion concerning day to day life and household matters, etc., then he has to be patient and treat her kindly, and try hard to correct what he thinks is inappropriate. Allah says:

“…and live with them honorably. If you dislike them, it may be that you dislike a thing and Allah brings through it a great deal of good” (Al-Nisaa’ 4:19)

The husband has to live with his wife honorably and keep her company in a good way, refraining from harming her, and treating her kindly.

Living with her honorably also means putting up with any annoyance that his wife may cause him, and he should remember that he will have a great reward for that from Allah.

A man may dislike his wife, but he keeps her out of obedience to Allah and treats her kindly, and then Allah brings about a great deal of good from that. He may be blessed with righteous children from her who will benefit him in this world and in the Hereafter; or his dislike may be taken away and replaced with love, as often happens.

The Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) said: “No believing man should hate a believing woman; if he dislikes one of her characteristics he will be pleased with another.” (Muslim).

What this means is that it is not appropriate for a believing man to hate a believing woman, because even if he finds some bad characteristic in her for which he may dislike her, he will find another, praiseworthy, characteristic for which he will love her, such as her being chaste or kind or obedient, or some other good characteristic. The same is true of all people, each person has some good attributes and some bad attributes.

The wise man is the one who weighs up both the good characteristics and the bad.

Your brother should make a lot of du`aa’ in the places and at the times when du`aa’ is especially encouraged, during Hajj and otherwise, asking that Allah may reconcile him with his wife and create love between their hearts.

Allah Almighty knows best.

Editor’s note:This fatwa is from Ask the Scholar’s archive and was originally published at an earlier date. 




About Sheikh Muhammad Saleh Al-Munajjid

ًA well-known Saudi lecturer and author

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