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What Are Our Duties towards Parents?

Questioner

Arif

Reply Date

Nov 18, 2017

Question

As-salamu `alaykum. Could you please shed light on the importance of showing respect towards one’s parents in the light of the Qur’an and Hadith keeping in mind the rude behavior of children of the present times?

Mufti

Answer


Parents

Wa `alaykum as-Salam wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.

In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.

All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.


In this fatwa:

There are many ways in which one can show parents kindness and respect, paying them a visit is one of the forms of dutifulness towards parents, in addition to treating them well, addressing them politely, trying to humble oneself before them, giving them gifts, and so on.


In his reply to your question, Sheikh Muhammad Saleh Al-Munajjid, a prominent Saudi Islamic Lecturer and author, states:

One of the main duties upon man is to show kindness towards his parents because Allah the Almighty says: “Thy Lord has decreed, that you worship none save Him, and (that you show) kindness to parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age with thee, say not ‘Fie’ unto them nor repulse them, but speak unto them a gracious word.” (Al-Isra’ 17:23)

One should show all kinds of good treatment to one’s parents. Ibn `Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) was once asked about the best deeds: “The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) says, ‘Having faith in Allah and His Messenger, then honoring one’s parents.” (Al-Bukhari and Muslim)

Obeying and honoring one’s parents is a means of entering Paradise. Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) quoted the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) as saying: “He is doomed, he is doomed, he is doomed.” Then someone said, “Who, O Messenger of Allah?” He said, “The person whose parents, one or both of them, reach old age during his lifetime but he does not enter Paradise.” (Muslim)

Respecting and obeying one’s parents is a way of showing gratitude to them for bringing one into this world.

So, a child has to show gratitude towards his parents for rearing him and taking care of him when he was young.

Allah the Almighty says, “And We have enjoined upon man concerning his parents. His mother bears him in weakness upon weakness, and his weaning is in two years. Give thanks unto Me and unto thy parents. Unto Me is the journeying.” (Luqman 31:14)

When a person gives his parents due regard, his own children will do the same to him. Allah Almighty says, “Is there any reward for good other than good?” (Ar-Rahman 55:60)

There are many ways in which one can show parents kindness and respect, paying them a visit is one of the forms of dutifulness towards parents, in addition to treating them well, addressing them politely, trying to humble oneself before them, giving them gifts, and so on.

Allah Almighty knows best.

Excerpted, with slight modifications, from www.islamqa.info

Editor’s note: This fatwa is from Ask the Scholar’s archive and was originally published at an earlier date.




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