In this counseling answer:
“I know the feelings of loneliness can be overwhelming as a revert as we all need good Muslim sisters to do things with, learn from, and feel connected to. But, in sha’ Allah, it will change in time. I encourage you to reach out to other Muslims and other venues (meet-ups, study groups, etc.) to make friends.”
As-Salamu ‘alaykum dear sister,
I am sorry to hear of the difficulties you are going through in the social areas of your life. It is wonderful that you place great emphasis on building a relationship with Allah as well as learning of Islam, but as a human being, you also need friends and good companions to do things with and learn from.
Sadly, when some revert to Islam, they often find it difficult to know where and how to fit in due to some sisters seeming to be standoffish. Although this should not be a problem in our ummah, often it is due to culture, traditions, long-standing friendships, etc. Sometimes, sisters are not aware of a new revert Muslim’s need of friends and, thus, the revert is left on her own. May Allah touch the hearts of these Muslimahs and make them more welcoming and inclusive of others.
With that said sister, I would kindly suggest you to visit other mosques, if you are able. Expand your circle of Muslim contacts beyond just that mosque.
Also, there are Muslim meet-ups all over. If you google “Muslim Meet Up” in your area, you may find some Islamic groups who meet and study Islam while also engaging in fun, social activities. If you use Facebook, there are groups for reverts which may prove to be encouraging and useful.
Also, as you stated you were in college, check out your student associations and see if there are any Muslim groups you could join. Most colleges and universities have them.
I know the feelings of loneliness can be overwhelming as a revert as we all need good Muslim sisters to do things with, learn from, and feel connected to. But, in sha’ Allah, it will change in time. I encourage you to reach out to other Muslims and other venues (meet-ups, study groups, etc.) to make friends. In the meantime, you will come to know what works for you and surely Allah will guide you. Make du’aa’ that He guides you towards righteous, good friends.
You are in our prayers dear sister. Please let us know how you are doing.
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