As-Salaamu `Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu,
I would like to say first that you do not have to apologize for your question. You have some concerns and this is why we are here to answer your questions or help you explore and address concerns you may have.
There is love, there is infatuation, there is the distraction, and then there is the obsession. Although you have only described your situation briefly, it seems that you are infatuated or you have a crush on a girl whom you met at your previous school. You feel distracted and your thoughts about this girl prevent you from focusing on your studies.
What would I like to ask you is that are you still communicating with this young woman or have you developed this infatuation with this girl from a series of positive experiences that you had at your previous school? You stated that you think about this girl all the time. What are you doing when you are triggered by thoughts about this young woman?
As human beings, when we feel empty or have not developed that close relationship with Allah (swt), we often search for objects, people, and many other things to fill the void that we may be experiencing spiritually and emotionally.
I am wondering if this girl is someone who was kind to you and you were able to establish a healthy relationship with her. I can imagine when you think of her, it must trigger a sense of happiness that many young people feel when they have a crush.
Sometimes, we tend to think of a crush or an object of our affection more when experiencing stressful times. It seems that you are dealing with a lot of stress at home and you seem to be isolating yourself from your family, but your thoughts of this young woman seem to be an escape for you.
At the end of the day, the answer to every hardship is Allah (swt). I think as human beings, we often underestimate the power of du`aa’, but we cannot see the future and Allah (swt) has an important plan for all of us. I would urge you to embrace a journey of personal growth and seek out ways to establish a connection with your creator no matter how small these efforts may seem to you.
What you will discover is that as you make progress in your own personal growth and connection with the Creator (swt), the difficulties and hardships will improve around you because your knowledge and faith will have improved. This will affect the solutions you develop for your problems and the way you approach them.
Islam is a way of life. As long as we live on this earth, there will always be room for us to grow as individuals and Allah (swt) knows best.
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