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“Make lists! In making lists, you can organize your thoughts linearly and develop your planning skills for school.”
Wa ‘Alaykum Salam wa Rahmatullah wa Barakatuh,
Not a thing to worry, dear sister, it is not too long at all! Don’t apologize for communicating your feelings! We are very glad to have you come to us.
I get the impression that you are stuck with emotions which you don’t understand where they come from or how to deal with them. At the same time, you seem aware of your character’s pitfalls. You understand that you “…get peer pressured easily”, and how this could cause regretful things. I applaud you for reflecting on this and encourage you to continue doing so.
As cliché as this sounds, you are transforming from a girl into a young woman. Your body is changing, and hormones are clouding your rational thinking. When you recognize this, you can put things into perspective. Don’t let your human body’s changes enslave your soul: recognize that it is normal to feel this way. This is not permanent; it is just a phase.
To understand what is causing your emotions, you should track your emotional responses to things that happen to you during the day. I encourage you to do this in a very focused and sensitive manner. So, don’t use social media for a few days; just focus on yourself.
– Start writing! Every single day, even when you don’t feel like it, and even when you feel fine, take a piece of paper and scribble it full of your thoughts. Whatever comes into your mind, jot it down. Write about the things that happened during the day that caused you to have a negative emotion – from the smallest little comment someone may have made to an argument you may have had with a friend.
– Make lists! In making lists, you can organize your thoughts linearly and develop your planning skills for school. ‘What are my priorities right now?’, and ‘What do I need to finish for school by the end of this week?’, and ‘How can I prepare myself for college?’ When information is buzzing in your head, it can get overwhelming and cause stress. Stress eventually bursts out in tears or anger.
– As for your faith, I encourage you to frequently do dhikr (remembrance of Allah). Your life sounds like it is very busy in this period, and therefore it is important to take quiet time away a few moments a day. You may want to use prayer beads or simply do with your fingers as described in the Sunnah. It is very soothing, and because you will so concentrate on reciting these words, your mind won’t be bothered with other less important things.
Sister, I know that you will be okay in sha’ Allah, and I hope you become aware of this, too. I would be very pleased to hear how you’re doing. Please don’t hesitate to message us again! And remember, laa hawla wa laa quwatta illa Billah; there is no power and no strength except with Allah (swt).
Salam,
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