In this counseling answer:
• You do not need to hold off getting married until you have a job if this could potentially cause you to sin as your needs are not met.
• Fasting is recommended.
As-Salamu ‘Alaikum brother,
Alhamdulillah, your concern for falling into sinful actions and seeking advice on how to avoid it is a good sign of piety. You recognize that your high sex drive affects your faith, and you have done the correct thing in moving forward to seek a halal means to have this need met. Dating is not ok in Islam, but it seems you have now sought to make this relationship halal by seeking marriage to this person. Alhamdulillah, you say that both parties are happy for you to move forward with the marriage. I am really glad to hear that!
Whilst having employment is an important role for the husband in order to provide for the wife and family, it is not an essential requirement. The most important thing, certainly in your case here, is to protect yourself from falling into sin. You do not need to hold off getting married until you have a job if this could potentially cause you to sin as your needs are not met. Your intention to seek employment is there and, in sha’ Allah, you will get a job. A respecting spouse-to-be will be patient with you in attaining employment and would be happy to move forward with the marriage before then in order to protect your deen – both yours and hers alike.
In addition, fasting is recommended in your situation which can help you to overcome such urges that you have been experiencing.
May Allah (swt) grant you happiness in your marriage and help you to find a job quickly. May He (swt) make your spouse the coolness of your eyes and help you to grow together in Islam.
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