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Shall I Leave My Work & Country for My Husband?

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Apr 16, 2018

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Assalam alaikum. I am a 27 years old woman working for 4 years. I got married 2 years ago, but we are not together yet. Now our families are planning to get us married, but I have been living my whole life outside my home country and do not like living there due to fewer facilities.

However, my husband is brought up there and he is not interested to come here with me and, therefore, I would be required to resign and settle with him there. My hubby is a nice person. We just chat but this discussion of my job creates problems between us. I find it difficult to settle where he lives and he doesn't want coming here. Thus, we are delaying the marriage.

I'm very confused about what if I couldn't settle there as my sister didn't like that place either. My husband is trying to convince me and I did say that ok after marriage I would resign because I don't want to upset him. But I’m not happy about it. I definitely want us to be together but don't want to give up on my job.

Many of my friends are against my decision of resigning as they say “you never know how things will be and how you will adjust.” I am very scared to leave. After resigning here my career ends completely as I cannot work back home due to safety reasons in my job. I can’t study either. So, I will be 24/7 at home. My life here is the opposite.

Please advise me. I know from religious part, I can’t refuse my husband, but what to do now to convince myself?

Counselor

Answer


Shall I Leave My Work & Country for My Husband?

Salam Aleikom,

In this video, you will learn what you could do when your husband works abroad and you are hesitant whether to move there.

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