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The Fear of Loosing My Parents is Killing Me

11 December, 2016
Q Salam Aleikom. I am suffering very badly from the fear of loosing my parents, especially my father. I always pray to Allah to grant them a long life and have full faith in Allah. This fear is not letting me live. I love my father more than anything and this fear makes me afraid and it keeps coming to my mind. No matter how much I try to be positive, I am always afraid. Only fear of loosing him comes to my mind. Please tell me what to do?

Answer

Answer:

As-Salamu ‘Aleikom,

In late teen or early adulthood, it’s normal part of growth and development and normal part of separation from your parents to begin to think about their mortaility as well as your own. At this period of life, we start having families, we are working away from home, we are in collages and universities; and we begin to think about our childhood and not being at home. What’s behind is missing that parental connection as well as realizing that death is inevitable. There is no way getting away from it. From Allah (swt) we came, and to Him (swt) we return.

In this realization, oftentimes, the fear of losing our parents can become a mental health issue, an anxiety that we think about on a daily basis. It is usually normal and taken in a context. Sometimes, it is an opportunity to increase our imaan (faith), to draw closer to Allah (swt), to learn more about Islam and Allah’s (swt) plans for us, in sha’ Allah.

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Salam,

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About Aisha Mohammad
Aisha has a PhD in psychology, an MS in public health and a PsyD. Aisha worked as a Counselor/Psychologist for 12 years at Geneva B. Scruggs Community Health Care Center in New York. She has worked with clients with mental health issues such as anxiety, depression, panic disorder, trauma, and OCD. She also facilitated support groups and provided specialized services for victims of domestic violence, HIV positive individuals, as well youth/teen issues. Aisha is certified in Mindfulness, Trauma Informed Care, Behavioral Management, Restorative Justice/ Healing Circles, Conflict Resolution, Mediation, and Confidentiality & Security. Aisha is also a Certified Life Coach, and Relationship Workshop facilitator. Aisha has a part-time Life Coaching practice in which she integrates the educational concepts of stress reduction, mindfulness, introspection, empowerment, self love and acceptance and spirituality to create a holistic healing journey for clients. Aisha is also a part of several organizations that advocates for prisoner rights/reentry, social & food justice, as well as advocating for an end to oppression & racism. In her spare time, Aisha enjoys her family, photography, nature, martial arts classes, Islamic studies, volunteering/charity work, as well as working on her book and spoken word projects.