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My Dreams Came True & This Scares Me

03 December, 2016
Q Salam Aleikom. First of all, I really appreciate your beautiful website. It is my hope. I want to ask you about some of my dreams. I am an engineer; however, after completing my studies, I decided not to pursue my career in engineering. Instead, I’ve applied for a governmental job which requires a long procedure of written examinations and interviews. Every candidate has three attempts. Giving up engineering and joining an entirely different field was my choice. I did Istikharah, and although I saw no dream, I was perfectly satisfied and continued with my preparation for the exams. I passed the interview but did not get the job due to limited seats. This made me depressed. After two years of hard work, I have not been able to fulfill the expectations of my beloved parents.Regarding my dreams: before the result of my written examination, I saw a dream in which one of my fellows didn’t pass the exam while I did. I was very sad and recited some verses and prayed a lot for that person. I didn't tell anyone about the dream being afraid that it might come true. But it came true. That person did really not pass the examination. Now, before my final result, I saw a dream which I don't exactly remember, but it brought a sad feeling about me not being allocated. I tried my best to ignore that dream being afraid of the result.Now that again came true. I am very frightened these days. I plan to start preparing for another attempt, but I saw another dream some days ago: one of my teachers was warning me about the result of my second attempt. This was very clear. He repeated his statement twice or thrice that the interview panel might not consider an allocation again. I am scared. What enhanced my fright is that before going to sleep, I was talking to Allah to guide me what to do next. I want to apply again, but I am afraid whether Allah gave me a message, or was it because of my obsession with failure.In this regard, I want to explain you how I have been trying to establish a connection with Allah. During the last two months, I tried to love Him more and more. I wanted Him to talk to me. I wanted to see Him. I was obsessed with knowing more about spirituality. One night, while I was sleeping, I was thinking He might one day tell me if my actions are dear to Him or not. That night, I heard a voice during a dream telling me that the meditation I have recently started before sleeping is appreciated. I was very happy. While I was working with strengthening my relationship with Allah, this failure came to me. I know and believe that there is something good for me in this. But what I should do next, I don't know. Should I give a thought to my dream or should I use my intellect? Kindly tell me what to do.

Answer

Answer:

Wa ‘Alaykum As-Salam,

Your heart is indeed very pure. First, you have not failed. You have engaged in learning experiences. You will in sha’ Allah become aware of why you had the experiences that you had over time as your life unfolds. There are no mistakes. Allah is perfect, and He creates a perfect world. You have chosen to walk in this awareness. You are a very highly intuitive person. You might have difficulty with trusting your path and your intuition, and you might doubt things when they do not appear to be as you believe they ought to be. You have not failed, nor has your intuition failed you. I sense that Allah is, indeed, pleased with you, because when a person does his/her actions with the desire to please Allah, this brings delight to our Creator.

The way to pray before your next exam is to pray for the will of Allah to be revealed to you through the results of the exam. Study and do your best. But this time, not to pass or fail, but rather to do your best and learn what you are supposed to learn from the experience. If you pass, great; wait and see what happens next. If you do not pass the test, take some time and make a list of what you have learned from the whole process that you can generalize to your life as you move forward. No matter what happens, you will have an engineering degree and the added knowledge of not only the particular job you were testing for, but of the process of applying for a governmental job and increased test taking skills. Many governments work this way where you take and re take exams, interview several times, and for several different positions, before you get a job. Each time you take an exam or interview, you gain experience that helps you the next time. You might even seek out advice about exam taking and interviewing if you do not feel confident. Yet, I imagine that you do have a certain level of confidence in you skills and abilities at this point.

I can truly understand that you might be feeling like, “What now Allah?” “Where are you taking me?” “What do you want me to do anyway?” That is ok. Life unfolds, and more opportunities will appear. I do not believe that your last dream was a message telling you not to take the test, but rather to continue participating in all areas of life, including applying for appealing jobs, taking tests and going to interviews with less attachment to the outcomes.  This way, you are doing your part while also waiting upon the Lord to place you where He would have you be to fulfill His will for you.

You can trust your intuition. You dreams are symbolic messages designed to increase your awareness of your intuition. Continue asking Allah for personal revelation and guidance before you fall asleep. Over time, you will learn how to put the dream and the intuition together to understand clearly what the guidance is. Perhaps this is the work that Allah is doing inside you. Sometimes, what appears to be outward events and circumstances are really just reflections of what we are developing on the inside. I have no doubt that you will find the correct work – the work that is yours to do, in sha’ Allah.

Salam,

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About Maryam Bachmeier
Dr. Bachmeier is a clinical psychologist who has been working in the mental health field for over 15 years. She is also a former adjunct professor at Argosy University, writer, and consultant in the areas of mental health, cultural, and relationship issues.