Wa `Alaykum As-Salam dear sister,
Sister, you seem to be very anxious and self-conscious. Often, the root of this level of anxiety is a real worry deep inside you that somehow, as a person, you are not good enough.
You were not born with this worry; you picked it up from your environment and experiences. Perhaps, you have a very critical voice in your head now, like a tape recorder. Indeed, healing must come to the core of your being so that you really accept yourself and love yourself the way Allah created you!
I ask you what in the world is a nose or hair or eyes supposed to look like anyway. We are all unique and beautiful creations of Allah. If you do have a curved nose, be proud of it. I happen to have a big nose; I like it. It is the nose that Allah gave me.
Sister, focus on your spiritual development. Don’t create such a small universe where you are the center of it. Forget about yourself and you will have a new freedom that once you taste, you will never want to let go.
Life has so many ups and downs. One minute you have money, the next minute you don’t; if you value yourself by how much money you have, you will never find happiness. One minute your body will be in fashion, and then all of a sudden that will change. In the 60’s, they pushed skinniness, then in the 80’s curves… the 90’s…. 2011… One minute, the world says women are supposed to have large bosoms; the next they are supposed to have long necks. The world will never make up its mind about what it wants.
Look toward Jannah, wear a beautiful hijab, and learn good manners. See the beauty in every woman and praise femininity; embrace femininity and forget about the size of your thighs, the shape of your nose, the type of bosom you have.
Learn to smile and laugh and enjoy the sunshine and pray to Allah. Let the softness of your heart show. Think of others and their needs and how you can serve them. Don’t think about yourself so much. This is the cure for your anxiety. And do not criticize yourself for feeling anxious either.
I say these words in love. Almost every girl I have met has this same issue; you are not alone. I am just trying to show you an easier path – one that if you follow, you will appear to be very beautiful to almost everyone you meet regardless of your nose, your physical height, or anything else.
A young lady who has a love for Allah and purity in her heart with a desire to serve others is irresistible. Your nose is perfect, too. So, no more time in front of the mirror. Put on your hijab, pin it with a pretty pin and then go live life and enjoy it. Put a cloth over your mirror if you have to.
Bring a pocket Quran with you and every time you feel self-conscious, read a Surah. Then say Alhamdulillah.
Tell me what you have done and how it is working.
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