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“It is absolutely vital that both husband and wife learn to discuss and collaborate with each other, especially when it comes to differences. Do not wait until he asks you and initiates something. Be proactive and open.”
As-Salamu ‘Alaykum Sister,
Thank you for sending us your question. Since I am not an Islamic scholar, I will be answering your question from a mental health professional’s point of view. If you would like more detailed answers specifically related to the Islamic point of view, then I would kindly refer you to send your question to our website’s “Ask the Scholar” section.
Sister, you write that there are two issues with your marriage that have been bothering you to a great deal and that you have been married for two years. Before I answer your question, I would like to ask you: how has marriage been in general? Since the last two years, have you found in your husband the kind of husband you desire? Other than the two issues you mentioned above, do you feel that you have a strong relationship with your husband? I ask these questions because they make way for how the both of you interact with each other, and how you solve issues between each other. Since I don’t know the answer to the above questions, I will have to generally answer.
Your first issue seems like you get bothered by your husband refusing to shave his pubic hair. For lack of better wording, how do you feel about his pubic hair? If it bothers you (I am only assuming since you didn’t mention that it bothered you), why so? Have you told your husband how you feel about it? What is his reasoning for keeping it? Since you didn’t mention how you felt about it, then my suggestion would be to keep all channels of communication with your husband open. Be open and honest with your husband, and encourage him to be open as well.
The same goes for the second issue you brought up about him not allowing you to see your father. You both need to have a conversation about it. He needs to know exactly how you feel, and he needs to honestly tell you his feelings.
Sister, it is absolutely vital that both husband and wife learn to discuss and collaborate with each other, especially when it comes to differences. Do not wait until he asks you and initiates something. Be proactive and open; have these honest conversations with him. Make it the mode of communication between you and your husband. This type of openness helps your marriage become stronger, more trusting, and more fulfilling. I ask Allah to help the both of you learn to become better communicators and to nurture your relationship.
Salam,
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