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Does My Husband Really Love Me?

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Nov 22, 2017

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I had a love marriage. I know my husband loves me a lot, but I often have serious doubts about myself and my husband. We have one cute daughter who is 3 months old now. How to change myself? How can I find out whether my husband loves me?

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Does My Husband Really Love Me?

In this counseling answer:

“The best way to address your feelings of uneasiness is to be open with your husband. Tell him and show him how you feel about him. Do not wait until he does it. He has no idea how you feel and what you expect.”


As-Salamu ‘Alaikum Sister,

Thank you for sending us your question. It appears from your question that you are married to your husband whom you love, and you have blessed with a baby daughter three months ago. May Allah bless your family and grant you all success in this life and the next.

It appears that you are having doubts about your husband’s love towards you, and you are not sure about how he feels about you. Sometimes, feeling this way can be normal, especially at the beginning of a marriage when the both of you are still getting to know each other and starting to learn each other’s different communication styles.

The best way to address your feelings of uneasiness is to be open with your husband. Tell him and show him how you feel about him. Do not wait until he does it. If you feel that a positive change needs to take place in your marriage, make it happen instead of waiting around for this change to happen and expecting it from your husband. He has no idea how you feel and what you expect.

Do not shy away from your feelings and showing him how you feel. Be transparent and open with him, and chances are that he will eventually learn from you and possibly do the same. Transparency, openness, and honesty are vital components of a successful marriage.

May Allah grant you and your family happiness and contentment in this life and the next and grant you stability and peace.

Salam,

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Aliah F. Azmeh is a licensed clinical social worker who practices in Detroit, Michigan. Aliah graduated with a Master's degree in Social Work from the University of Michigan in 2007 and has experience working in the United States and overseas. Aliah currently works as a clinical social worker and provides individual, family, and marital counseling at Muslim Family Services in Detroit, MI.

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