In this counseling answer:
• I suggest that you both seek marriage counseling in order to help you adjust to this marriage and to create a bond.
• If after trying all you can your marriage still does not work, you may seek a divorce.
As-Salamu ‘Alaikum dear brother,
I am sorry to hear of your marriage to someone you did not feel compatible with. We are to marry whom we chose if they meet the Islamic requirements. In the end, you did chose her; therefore, I see no reason for you to feel guilty.
I would suggest, dear brother, that you try to find the good in her. Do things together that you both enjoy and get to know one another as „friends” first, and perhaps the love and attraction will grow. Make du’aa’ to Allah (swt) that He (swt) puts love between your hearts and secures the marriage.
Also, brother, I suggest that you both seek marriage counseling in order to help you adjust to this marriage and to create a bond. Marriage counseling can be very effective for couples who have either drifted apart or think that they no longer love each other. It can open up new thoughts and ideas that are beneficial to a couple’s growth and bonding.
Lastly, I would not suggest trying to have a child now. It would only add to the stress as you do not love her. You may even resent this down the road. Additionally, if you do choose to divorce her later, which is within your right of you although you know Allah (swt) dislikes divorce, the child would also suffer.
If after trying to make your marriage work by getting to know one another, looking for her good points, getting marriage counseling, seeking the advice of a trusted imam, you still cannot resolve your incompatibility and attraction issues, then according to Islam, you may divorce.
While you have not been married very long brother, I ask that in sha’ Allah, you give yourself and your wife a chance to grow together. May Allah (swt) put love and affection between your hearts.
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