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Thinking of Committing Suicide after Rape

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Reply Date

Jul 08, 2018

Question

In India, there are many cases of torture and rape of Muslim girls. Those who go through such a situation think of committing suicide, which is haram in Islam. As parents, how can we teach our kids to manage this kind of critical situation? kindly give me the answer. Jazakallah khairen.

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Answer


Suicide

In this counseling answer:

“While suicide is haram and a very desperate and sad way for a girl to escape these horrors, rape and torture is haram as well. Communities must come together and form coalitions, groups of defenders. That is to say that these girls should be protected by the men (and women) of the community.”


As-salamu alaykum,

Thanks for writing to us. Sadly, I do not have an answer. Your concern is one of utmost importance and felt by many. Truly, certain places have a higher rate of these horrendous crimes.

It is appalling. While suicide is haram and a very desperate and sad way for a girl to escape these horrors, rape and torture is haram as well. Communities must come together and form coalitions, groups of defenders. That is to say that these girls should be protected by the men (and women) of the community.

Men should be trained in defending their families and communities against rape and torture. Girls need to be empowered and learn that it is not their shame if they are raped but rather it is the shame and sin of the men who do such heinous acts.


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Girls need to be taught that if someone harms them, they need to be able to tell someone, to seek help and get it, with condemnation. Further, centers and non-profits needs to increase in the outreach to young women and girls and offer more professional services and interventions.

While these are very small suggestions brother concerning a huge, sad, horrendous condition, we must start within our ummah and within individual communities-to take care of each other, if we don’t-I just do not know. But it is time, it’s beyond time.

Salam

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About Aisha Mohammad-Swan

Aisha Mohammad-Swan received her PhD in psychology in 2000. Aisha worked as a Counselor/Psychologist for 12 years for Geneva B. Scruggs Community Health Care Center in New York with a focus on PTSD, OCD, depression, anxiety, substance abuse, marriage/relationships issues, as well as community-cultural dynamics. She is certified in Restorative Justice/ Healing Circles, Conflict Resolution, and Mediation, and is also a certified Life Coach. She is currently studying for her certification in Islamic Chaplaincy, and takes Islamic courses at SHC. Aisha works at a Women's Daytime Drop in Center, and has her own part-time practice in which she integrates counseling and holistic health. Aisha also received an MA in Public Health/Community Development in 2009 and plans to open a community counseling/resource center for Muslims and others in the New York area in the future, in sha' Allah.

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