Wa ‘ Alaykum Salaam,
Ahh, the innocence of youth is something a parent wants to keep for their child! This is a good thing.
First, I recommend giving an honest assessment of the child’s environment to identify where she may have gotten these messages of love. Influences come from so many places!
I agree with you. Age 10 still has so much fun and innocence involves. Preserving it is a must. I recommend asking your daughter the reasons she hesitates to play with boys. Having modesty is a good thing. She may feel confused about playing with boys and having appropriate boundaries. We don’t know. Clear up misconceptions she may have. Ask what she believes is the best engagement between boys and girls.
Lastly, this may be her personality. She may be a young girl who will be modest in the presence of boys! If so, allow her to have her innate personality. She gets to develop her own personality. In sha‘ Allah.
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