In this counseling answer:
•Islamically there should be no difference between our own children and those that are put in our trust, whether they’re our step children, adopted or foster children put into our care. You always have to remember that you have to answer to Allah for the way you care for them.
•Raising kids is a challenge altogether, even with our own kids we have to always remember to do it for Allah, may Allah guide us all, and protect our kids.
Answer by Fatin Khairallah
May Allah bless you and guide you in raising members of our future generations of Muslims to the straight path.
The answer to your question is within you, it’s up to us how we look on it. Islamically there should be no difference between our own children and those that are put in our trust, whether they’re our step children, adopted or foster children put into our care. You always have to remember that you have to answer to Allah for the way you care for them.
Our best examples are from our beloved Prophet Muhammad (PBUH). We know how kind he was to Zaid, which led to everyone referring to Zaid as the son of Muhammad (PBUH). Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) also helped raise `Ali his cousin who helped his uncle.
Even our own children, are a trust, and we have to handle them with care. And you will always have peace and tranquility in your heart when you dedicate everything you do, and your intentions for the sake of Allah. That will make everything easy to deal with knowing that you’re dealing with Allah.
Raising kids is a challenge altogether, even with our own kids we have to always remember to do it for Allah, may Allah guide us all, and protect our kids.
Answer by Hwaa Irfan
In reference to ADHD specifically, if your stepson is on prescription drugs, it is wise to have him checked regularly to ensure that he is not allergic to or is suffering from any side effects (e.g. restlessness, anxiety, mood swings, headaches (dizziness), reduced appetite, insomnia, growth problems) of the medication. Even some doctors recommend an occasional break from taking ADHD specific medication because it allows one to see if the child is still in need of it.
Foods to be wary of include: Sugar, Cow’s milk, Wheat, Chocolate, Soy, Citrus fruit, Corn, Peanuts
What you can do:
- Read the ingredient labels on all food products you buy
- Buy organic fruits, vegetables and meats. ?
- Add more wholefoods to the diet (whole grains, legumes, vegetables, fish)
- Replace all processed sugars with natural sugars e.g. fruits, fruit juices, honey, and blackstrap molasses.
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