In this counseling answer:
“When your daughter walks in when you are waking up to pray, ask her if you can hug her. Tell her how much you love her. Then just let her know you are scared and worried when she disappears like that and that you are glad that Allah protected her and that she is ok. Then go and pray. Keep the lines of communication open. Once your children realize that you are no longer going to preach, they might start asking you questions. Take things one day at a time.”
Wa ‘Alaykum As-Salam Sister,
This is a very difficult trial for you. The amount of patience that you will need is enormous. Yet, this is what you will need. Right now, your example is the most important thing for your family to see; also your sweetness, your love, your nurturing and your faith are essential.
Your children are too old to teach by preaching, and preaching to a husband has never worked.
You may think it sounds silly, but honestly, get some ear plugs to muffle the sound of the music. Do your prayers on time. Pray for your family when you pray. Do not give up as ALLAH will hear you prayers. It may take years before you see the effects of your dedication, but don’t give up.
When your daughter walks in when you are waking up to pray, ask her if you can hug her. Tell her how much you love her. Then just let her know you are scared and worried when she disappears like that and that you are glad that ALLAH protected her and that she is ok. Then go and pray.
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Keep the lines of communication open. Once your children realize that you are no longer going to preach, they might start asking you questions. Take things one day at a time.
It does sound like your children have reign of the home. You can talk to your husband and ask him if there can be some restrictions. Let him know how uncomfortable you are that you cannot pray in peace – but only with your husband. It will just work better this way.
As a mom at this point, being gentle and unassuming with the children is the best approach. Then, when the relationship is more connected and they are willing to listen to you and your needs, you can let them know what your needs are, and how much you would appreciate it if they would show you some care and concern. That is only right.
But to start with, use the ear plugs and show them what ALLAH’s spirit is doing with you and what He is creating in you.
May Allah be with you.
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