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•Talk with him about what is bothering him (age appropriate).
•Do more listening rather than talking. Spend time with him doing things he finds enjoyable.
•Ask about school, how things are going for him as far as friends, grades and studies.
•Get him involved in Islamic studies for children as well as fun Islamic activities.
As-salamu alaykum dear sister,
While you did not say how old your son is, it does sound like he is seeking attention and testing his limits.
Children also often act out when they are unhappy, angry, sad or have other negative emotions.
Communicate with him
I would kindly suggest trying to talk with him about what is bothering him (age appropriate) and do more listening rather than talking.
I would also suggest that if you are not already, spend time with him doing things he finds enjoyable. It will create trust and further bonding insha’Allah.
Check his environment
Ask about school, how things are going for him as far as friends, grades and studies. Often times when there are problems in school or making friends, it comes out in a child’s behavior.
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Engage him in activities
Lastly, get him involved in Islamic studies for children as well as fun Islamic activities. Being around other boys who are respectful and kind may help him see his behaviors are not appropriate and insha’Allah he may start modeling the positive behaviors he sees.
If you notice further signs of depression such as crying, lethargy, threats of self-harm, disturbed sleeping or eating patterns, nightmares, or destructive behaviors (throwing, hitting, breaking things etc.) please do engage a child therapist to evaluate him.
While depending on his age he may just be testing the boundaries (which you must set for him) it is better to get him evaluated if it continues or worsens despite your attempts to find out his feelings and correct his behaviors.
You are in our prayers, please let us know how he is doing.
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