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Why Did The Prophet Marry Aishah?

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Karam

Reply Date

Dec 13, 2016

Question

According to my knowledge `A’ishah was nine when her marriage to the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) was consummated. Even though there is dispute about her exact age, let’s assume she was nine. Looking at this marriage with today’s societal perception, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) would be stigmatized as child molester, pedophile, you name it! It may have made sense back in the time to do so, even though I wonder why he did marry her regardless of her very young age. No child in that age can comprehend the emotional and mental ramifications of a marriage. My other point is, the collected Hadiths are based around the Prophet’s actions and sayings (peace and blessings be upon him), and, as he was a human, he would have understood and judged a lot of the things from the cultural milieu that prevailed at the time. Were the Hadith largely influenced by the people’s way of life at the time? Is it true that a lot of things from the Hadith bear no relevance to our current life in this society? Thanks for your answer. Jazakum Allahu khayran.

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Answer


Asalamu Aliakum Karam,

Thank you for contacting About Islam with your question.

Society’s norms of sexual relationships and family life are in a state of continual change. Living in the 21st century, we find that these changes that used to be slow and gradual in the past are gaining more and more speed.

We have already been into Future Shock and the Third Wave of dramatic and catastrophic changes in the way of thinking, in our attitudes and approaches to life and the world. (Alvin Toffler’s Future Shock [1970] and The Third Wave [1989] are ground-breaking books that describe the effect of fast changes that overtake modern societies.)

Before declining slightly in recent years, divorce rates had soared more than 30 percent since 1970. Today, nearly half of American marriages are projected to end in divorce or permanent separation. Nearly half of people between ages 25 and 40 at some point have lived with a member of the opposite sex outside of marriage. 

Please notice that we take the American statistics for the following reasons: (1) Reliable statistics are available there; (2) Most countries and peoples of the world imitate Americans and are facing the same results; (3) Many of the critics of Islam come from America and so they are expected to have first-hand experience of the situations described. 

Over half of all teenage girls in the United States have sexual intercourse before the age of 17. More dramatically, the percentage of teen girls who said that having a child out of wedlock is a “worthwhile lifestyle” rose from 33 to 53 in the past two decades.

To speak of the age of consent for women in the United States: A 20-year-old woman who marries in Nebraska breaks the law because there the age of consent is 21, while a woman in Alabama can legally marry at that age, as the age of consent there is only 18.

A hundred years ago, under the common law in the United States, the age of consent was just 10 years. Ancient Jewish law permitted girls to be wives at a much younger age. In ancient India girls as young as five and six were married to much older men. Even now the practice continues among some Hindus. 

The foregoing shows that the minimum age for girls to be married varies from culture to culture and from age to age. Against this background, there seems to be no point in holding a particular age as the right age of consent in the post-modern world.

But people who want to impose an age of consent on a different culture or religion would make it a big issue. It is surprising how even the intellectuals show a tendency to judge others by their own culture-specific standards as though these should be accepted universally binding on the whole of humankind! 

This is not to argue that today girls should be married off at nine or ten years, for no one can ignore that the times, the social conditions, and the cultural milieu have undergone immense changes. But the very same fact should help us to realize that in another age and in another cultural setting, marrying a girl at the age of nine was quite the norm and there could be nothing shocking about it. 

The events of the Prophet’s life (as also is the case of the lives of other prophets of the past) should be interpreted in the light of the socio-historical conditions of the times. What people often miss is the absurdity of trying to assess an event of sixth century Arabia, as though it happened the other day in downtown Manhattan or Birmingham. 

It is worth stating here that it was Abu Bakr, the father of Aishah, who approved of her marriage to Muhammad (peace be upon him-PBUH), and that she remained a faithful and loving wife until death parted her from her husband. And of the wives of the Prophet, none was so mature and knowledgeable as Aishah (may Allah be pleased with her). 

As for your other point, it is a well-acknowledged principle that a hadith should be interpreted against the background of the actual context that led the Prophet to say or do what he did. Furthermore, when applying the hadith to the present situation, we need to consider the changed circumstances.

It is the duty of modern scholars to do this interpretation in the right way, so as to take the principles of the example of the Prophet (PBUH) and apply them in a way that is relevant to the present times. 

It is only natural that some of the things the Prophet (PBUH) did or said may not correspond to a particular time or situation; but that does not make such examples insignificant or irrelevant. In the future, situations and conditions may arise that call for decisions or rulings based on the principles from those examples. 

And Allah knows best. We hope this answer is sufficient and if you have any other queries, please don’t hesitate to iquire again and please keep in touch.

Walaikum Asalam.
Please continue feeding your curiosity, and find more info in the following links:

Why Does Islam Allow Marriage at an Early Age?

The Beautiful Wives of the Prophet

Love and Reverence for the Prophet Part 1

Love and Reverence for the Prophet Part 2

Did Muhammad Liberate Women from Slavery and Abuse?

A Brief History of Hadith Methodology




About Professor Shahul Hameed

Professor Shahul Hameed is an Islamic consultant. He also held the position of the President of the Kerala Islamic Mission, Calicut, India. He is the author of three books on Islam published in the Malayalam language. His books are on comparative religion, the status of women, and science and human values.


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